L.B.
I have 3 children and my daughter was the one who needed the most reassurance during the night. I was never allowed in my parents room at night and so it was important for me to be able to give her this support. She was most needy from age 3 to 4 and spent most of the night in our room. I found placing a fold-out bed next to ours was a good solution. Tell your fiance this phase is only temporary and is an opportunity to make an investment in developing her sense of security. If he is unable to see this as one of the sacrifices involved in parenting a counselor can help mediate your disagreements. A good counselor helped my husband and I come to terms with several issues including our different parenting styles.