Need a Good Divorce Attorney

That really stinks. I'm so sorry for you.

I'd cancel the trip - no point in going through with the charade. And tell him why. DO NOT accept that this is somehow your fault for snooping. He has betrayed you by a) cheating and b) deceiving you.

Get some counseling to sort our your feelings and make a plan for going forward. If you have kids, they need to be considered - how to handle them and the changes afoot. You also need to protect yourself legally and financially. Get some good neutral advice so that you CAN think straight. A lot is on your shoulders. So, get pissed, but then get strong and organized. Don't let the anger - however justifiable - get in the way of your decisions.

Good luck. If you've been providing for the family for all this time, you are clearly a strong and resourceful woman. Rely on that.

First off, there is no spousal support in Texas, so don't worry about that! I don't know if you have told him yet or not, but try to see a lawyer first before letting him have it. He has shown that he cannot be trusted and you need to get all your ducks in a row before he can do anything. Also, you need to decide what you want to do BEFORE talking to him (whether or not you want to work it out). He obviously is good at lying and would most likely try to talk you into staying. You obviously love him and it's easy to follow your heart rather than your head in this situation. Be sure and research before picking your lawyer. I know that there is a lady lawyer that is out of McKinney that is great, but I can't remember her name.

As far as the trip goes, I disagree with the other ladies. See if you can change his ticket and take a friend, your sister, mom, etc. Even see if you can change the destination if going there without him bothers you. Getting away would probably be beneficial.

Talk to a counselor, clergy, or even your best friends. Get out, even if it's just to the park, dinner with a girlfriend, etc. Remember, you are going to go through the whole spectrum of emotions, over and over again. I have a friend who went through this recently. She went from hating him, to wanting him back, to being hurt constantly. And that's ok, it's just natural.

Good luck to you you! I will keep you in my prayers!

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The best way I know to move forward, is to "handle" your emotions. Now, please continue reading, I'm not telling you not to feel, or even how you should feel. I'm sure you'll receive plenty of that type of advice.
What I am saying is that until you are no longer "soooooo pissed right now that I can't see straight", you are not in charge of your emotions; they are ruling you. The first step is to release them! No, it won't be "easy" and may even be a little painful but it is necessary to face what you are feeling and let it go.
In fact, that is how to move forward!
So, how to accomplish this? There are many effective ways, including meditation, progressive relaxation, counseling, etc. In addition, whenever I don't know what to do/where to turn, I find prayer helpful!
Create (if you don't already have one) a good support system; this isn't friends who are simply going to agree that he's a "bastard". A support system can help you make a workable plan for the future.
I wish you peace!

Just wanted to add one thing to what a poster said below.....it is possible for him to get spousal support in Texas. My girlfriend in Plano just got awarded spousal support in addition to child support.

Make sure he can't get at any money in joint bank accounts or other valuables, make an appt with an attorney (or better, two or three to make sure you find one you can work with). And, as another poster said, do your best to let the anger go before seeing the lawyer. They can find ways to make a divorce more expensive than it needs to be, especially when the client is angry.

I am so sorry about this,..
Some people just do not think about the repercussions for their behaviors.

He has just torn apart his family.

Please try to stay calm. Do your research. And make a promise to yourself to always keep the kids the top priority..

I know here in Austin there a few top of the line divorce attorneys, but it is through word of mouth we all know this. You will not get alimony, but you can get child support and you will want to make a good agreement about visitation etc..

Also I hate to say this, but you may want to visit your doctor to get checked for any communicable diseases.

Better to have found out now than later.

I am sending you strength.