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I think he is scared also.......try getting there early, and maybe having the teacher greet you......get him in his seat. Also, start talking to him on the way to school about what he might do today, learn, see....etc.....then on the way home, go over what he learned and did........make it more grownup for him.....that way you two have a bond that you don't have yet with your 2 younger daughters...tell him soon he will be able to help them adjust to school just as he is.....and what a great big brother he will be.....

If that doesn't work, then you are going to have to decide if you should ground him for his behavior, or take away things.......that the other kids do not act this way and he needs to be more grown up. Definitely ground him for pulling your hair and kicking.....

Another thing you might do to help him, is play school games with him at home......ask the teacher what they are going to be doing for the week and then work with him at home so he feels more comfortable.....

Let him know that you miss him while he is at school, but how very proud you are of him as well.......

Take care and good luck.

What happens when he gets inside the classroom? If this behavior continues once he gets to class, then you can bank on being contacted soon about an educational evaluation of your son's issues. If this behavior ends once he has entered his classroom, then you have to find a resource for getting him there without the struggle. For some youngsters, transition time (moving from home to school) is so overwhelming, they act out. This is considered a school issue too, because children who cannot get to school, cannot attend school. Have a conference with your son's teacher, and explain how difficult this transition is, and ask if she has suggestions to help you. Maybe another parent could take him, maybe he could go early, what ever the strategy, if they fail, you should be requesting an evaluation to get to the bottom of it.

If this behavior issue is global, meaning that your statement that time outs and spanking don't work on everything, not just this particular issue, then you should probably know that when typical dicipline applied consistently fails, you should seek evaluation of his nuerodevelopment to see what his barrier is to understanding how to comply with developmentally appropriate behavior. If the school is willing to evaluate, this does not mean that you should leave the issue to them, get your own developmetal evaluation with a Developmental Pediatrician because any developmental issue may qualify for public serviceses, but that will not be all a child with a developmental issue will need to reach his full potential.

M.

Can you have him draw a picture about what he is feeling? Talk out your feelings with him. Explain to him that all people are scared and nervous to start new things. He may just want to stay home with his sisters and you! Why does he have to go and work hard when they get to stay home and play? Talk to the teacher about how he is after you leave. Ask her/email/phone her and ask about the day and how hes doing at school. Get there 5 minutes earlier and give him a couple minutes to play and run around before he has to sit for awhile. My son does better if he can do gross motor activities before school. Helps him concentrate. He also has high anxiety and new things scare him. He enjoys the bus and does better when he rides the bus then when I drop him off. Saying good bye in the drive way is better than at school for him. Is the bus an option?
Just some thoughts!

When did he turn 5? Full time is a long day for some kids. Did he go to pre-K or nursery school? Maybe he just needs more time with mom. Has the teacher said anything about his behavior after you leave? He may just feel bad because you are only sending him and not the two younger children.Jelousy perhaps.

How can a 5yo reach your hair without you being able to stop that?

Perhaps the kindergarten classroom is too stressful for your son, and he doesn't know what else to do. He's communicating like mad and you're not listening. Do you seriously think he'll be quieter about his stress and difficulty if you hit him, isolate him or shout at him?

Do you think you can talk him out of it being stressful or a horrible experience?

You do know that the purpose of legislated mandatory attendance at school is to destroy close family connections, right?