J.F.
F.,
Some ideas for your son. Do you know any of your local police? If not just call the local office and see if they have any programs to show the kids what happens when they do wrong. Also, when my son is ready to get his license we are going to take a day and sit in the back of a court room so he can see what happens to people when they make mistakes driving. You might be able to do this for juvinial court to scare him. You might be to young but I remember watching the special on TV when I was about 13 called Scard Straight. It did more than that for me. I vowed that I would never let myself be in that situation that night. Maybe you can track that video down.
Above all else remind him that you are his mom and you love him unconditionally. But you hope that he can understand that for every action there is a reaction, and accountability.
As for your hsuband, been there done that and bought the t-shirt. I was and still am the tough parent. He is coming around now becasue he saw how it helped our oldest out and how responsible she is. All I can recommend there is remind him that your sons action do reflect back on him. Does he want to be a friend and watch his son go down the wrong path or be a paerent and help him to grow to be the man he should be.
Your son is watching you set goals with school and work to improve yourself. You are making a difference in his life.
I did make my kids read a couple of books. If they did not read them than I read them at the dinner table once a week or so. Try reading "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen this book was written in the 1800's and still has great wisdom today. I also have a book called "The Book Of Virtues" great morale stories. Stop by the library for both of these. Finally they have to also read "The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. These are great books for everyone.
Remember knowledge is power. God said, " My people parish for lack of knowledge. Hosea 4:6
You are a good Mom trust what you are doing. YOU LOVE YOUR KIDS!!!!
Finally the famous last words we have all heard. IF YOUR FRIENDS JUMPED OFF OF A CLIFF WOULD YOU FOLLOW THEM? Thank to my Mom for having to constantly remind me of this.
J.