D.C.
WOW L.,
Dear this is all to familiar. You are on track. Keep it up....do not let up. Reading your standards and rules sounds like I am reading about myself, lol.
Where are you located?
I have a 14 year old son and a 16 year old daughter. GIRLS ARE SO DIFFERENT!!!!
I have gone thru exactly the same issues with my daughter. I have high standards when it comes to school grades and always have for my children. Reason is, is this...My children have always been A/B students. That is their potential and I will not allow outside distractions...If the grades fall, their is no friend time...it is strickly parent time. A while back I made a decision to implement that with everything. Yes, it resticts me as well, but know this.....things here in the near future will change for her also. Yes, it is going to be a living _____! But, I have been told by several MOM's that have been thru raising GIRLS, this is normal! My daughter now knows this....Good Grades meant....Driver's Ed. (She made it)
With Paying attention in Driver's Ed comes her license. With a Great Attitude, Respect, Good Grades comes a car.(No, not a brand new car) but it is a nice older car, fixed up cute for her to drive. And along with the car comes a set of rules and a contract so... if it is not followed. LIFE STOPS!!!
OMG, L.....SHE GET'S IT, I NEVER THOUGHT THIS DAY WOULD COME!!!!
Like I said, you are not alone...some parents are fortunate to have it easier but from what I have been told by several others this is part of raising a girl and for a few years you drive YOURSELF crazy and become someone you do not want to be.
I would love to chat further if you ever have time, send me a note
Know that you are not alone, I wish I had a handbook to share with you. But I am still looking for that, lol. I know my daughter loves GIRLS DAY OUT! and I am bad, it is few and far between but it keeps her close to me.
Sometimes lunch, an ice cream, starbucks, shopping, garage sales whatever!!
Hope to hear from you, Take Care.