My Son Pinches Me!!

You need to pinch him back. I had a friend whose child bit people all the time. No matter what she tried it didnt work until one day she bit him back. He never bit again, he knew how it feels. It may seem mean, but it is an eye opener. I bet you he will stop. Good luck.

mine pinched me 1 or 2 times, and i pinched him back, yes he did cry! but he realized that it didn't feel good. he stopped. he would pinch me, just to get a response out of me, he wanted attention. thats all it is. my neighbors kid would do it, she would laugh and i would tap his hand, obviously he isn't my kid, she looked at me, but her kid pinched me! don't laugh! its encouraging it! he stopped pinching me. I know kids go thru stages, but with her laughing at it, definitely didn't do anythign to stop it. NOw he does it to the dog, and she has a rotwighler(sp?). I hate to see what will happen.

i hope he grows out of it soon

When babies are born, and can"t control themselves and hsve fingernails growing, a lot of time it is suggested to put mittens on them so they don't scratch themselves or others Maybe you could try having your son wear mittens for a while until he is able to control himself.

C., no parent LIKES disciplining their children but it must be done. If left to their own they will grow up to be very disrespecful awful children and then adults. I am honestly getting very frustraited by all the parents on here that want help with the problems they're having but they don't want to discipline. Slap your child's hand and tell him, "NO! Not nice, bad boy!" You will only have to do it once or twice and he will stop. Also make him say he's sorry. When all my kids were about 14mos old I would make them apologize by giving a hug and/or a kiss and to this day my oldest now 7 still gives a hug and a kiss when she has to say sorry. you can teach your son to say sorry by giving you a hug. The terrible 2s are coming up on you and you have got to learn to control your child and take charge of his misbehavior now or you never will. Good luck.

C.

At about 10 months my daughter pinched my neck whenever she was nursing. I looked like I had some weird skin condition... my neck was always red and blotchy. One thing I tried that worked pretty well was to wear a turtleneck so she couldn't get to that part of my neck. Since it's still pretty cold out, can you wear an extra layer over your arms?

My daughter did outgrow this phase on her own, although it took more than a month. Since she was only 10 months old I did not try pinching or slapping her to make her stop.

Now she's 13 months old and has teeth, so I need to worry about her biting. She doesn't make a habit of it, but whenever she bites I exaggerate my reaction, yell "OUCH" and jerk away from her. (Often this is an honest reaction because it HURTS!) This seems to be enough to upset her, and hopefully that will reduce the instances of biting.

C. this is T. porter i have to say it does work to pinch him back each time he does it do it to him and say no no no hurts mama and soon he will stop mine did.

I was given advice from a counslor at my church about the rod. I didn't at first like what I heard and then I turned to my Bible and looked up every verse concerning the word rod. I didn't exactly like what I read because in some scriptures it said the word "beat" then I looked that word up in the Stong's concordance and it said to hit lightly or severely. So what she told me was to get a rod at the hardware store or like even Micheal's, not a real thick one but one the size of about you finger. Make sure your not mad when you use it. Never use it on their bare skin. Only give them 3 swats and not that hard trust me try it on yourself first then you know what they feel. Tell them one time not to do the pinching. If they do it again then use the rod. It works. You have to be consistant for they will not take you seriously. The women that told me this was a single mom of 4 boys 11 to 18 and they were the most loving well behaved young men I ever met. Her husband had passed away a few years before that. She also said to never hit them with your hands and that your hands are for loving them. Some people don't take the Bible seriously but I did and it does work. Let me know what you think or if you have any other questions. As I said consistancy is important and if you do that I can guarantee you he will stop pinching you. Tell him no one time then use the rod every time after than and it won't take him long he will stop.
my address is ____@____.com mom I wrote to followed my advise and she wrote me a few days later and all 3 of her children got the message real quick and began to behave very quickley. She was very thankful and back when I learned about it so was I. There is never a reason to yell either is another thing I learned. If they learn you say what you mean you will have no problems. Hope this helps. By the way some people are afraid of leaving marks. I've talked to police and they cannot do a thing to you because it does not bruise or anything like that if done properly. I learned more than anything God knows best.
C.

I am curious to know if he is a talker? If he does it when he is mad but he isn't talking then he is trying to communicate with you. Not that he is doing it in an acceptable way or anything... and have you checked to see if he is teething? They get molars and we don't notice because they are in the back, but they hurt like the dickens and make anybody edgy. I am glad you are trying the "put him down and walk away" approach. It has been proven that children who have tantrums stop faster when they are ignored than they do for any other reason. IF he pinches or otherwise acts out to express anger or get your attention the best thing you can do is neutralize his ability to get your attention. Walking away is a good way to do that. Also saying"when you want to tell me why you are upset I will listen" models for the child what you consider to be acceptable behavior.
I have 5 kids and they are very well behaved - my rescued German Shepherd Dog taught me long ago that rewarding positive behavior goes much farther than punishing bad behavior.
Good Luck and hang in there - all phases pass.

Hello...

When my son did that 16 years ago, I pinched him back (not hard) and he never did it again. You only have to do this a couple of times to make him "get it". It is not cruel, and not something that you will have to do over and over again. Unlike spankings, which my dad dealt to me when "I acted foolish!" However, a lot of parents do not believe in disciplining their kids, and thus the kids grow up disrespecting their parents and just look to them as advisors.

I train horses, and when a young foal tries to bite, they just need to be disciplined a couple of times and they don't do it again (by flexing the lead rope and at the same time say "shhhh!", with a bop under the chin.

Although my daughter didn't pinch, she did bite--at the same age as your child. And after trying everything from biting back to time outs to leaving her alone, I finally got some books on toddlers to see if I could find an answer. And what I found out is that many kids at this age (just before they learn to talk) do things like pinching and biting out of frustration because they cannot communicate how they feel. Think how hard it would be to have something to say and not be able to tell anyone! So the books suggested stopping what you are doing and trying to figure out what the child is trying to say to you. It was hard to do sometimes since my daughter usually picked times when I was crazy busy to start biting me, but that was exactly WHY she was biting me. She felt overlooked or bored or neglected because I was busy. So often I would just stop what I was doing--even though it was hard to do--and just listen to her, talk to her, give her a hug--do something to give her attention. It almost always helped. Within a few days, I noticed a decrease of the biting. And within a couple of months, she started being able to talk more, and the behavior disappeared as suddenly as it had appeared.

My son just turned 20 months and he went through the pinching stage, it sucked!! Anyways, I did as the other moms said I pinched him back and after 2 or 3 times he got the hint. I did the same thing when he bit me and pulled my hair and all of them worked well. My daughter is 8 almost 9 months now and I am starting to do the same thing with her and it seems to be working just the same.

Dear C.,

I know this will sound harsh, but pinch him back, letting him know it hurts. Exaggerate the OUCH!!!

My son didn't pinch me but he bit me when I was nursing him. My mom told me to flick his lips with my finger and exaggerate the OUCH!!! It worked and he realized that it hurt me. I only had to do it once.

Good Luck!