My Son Needs to Sleep in His Own Bed!!

I dont want to seem like an annoying person...Here is my take on the bed sharing thing... 1st you say it only happens one a week? What if instead of getting aggravated by it ,you would cherish that one night a week?
The last time ,my 4 year old slept in my bed , was the night between january 18th and 19th . on saturday january 19th 2008 ,Julian took his last breath at 11.22am . He died , killed by brain cancer ...
I have 2 older sons 10 and 8 , and an almost 3 year old. William ,my 3 year old comes to my bed almost every night , and while it seemed like an unhealthy thing to have him and Julian come at night a year ago, now I treasure those nights when William shows up with all my heart .
If you feel compelled to know more about Julian and to understand that it is ok and normal for your 3 year old to climbed up in bed with you ,visit me at www.carepages.com ,you will need to register and our page is called juliansworld ...
Good luck with your kiddos , and remember no matter what you are the best mom possible in their eyes and in God's

M.

My son, who is two, likes to come sleep in our room and too. We won't let him sleep in our bed though (he's a kicker), so I have a little pallet set up on the floor next to the bed. He has nightmares sometimes, and honestly, I don't see the harm in him coming in to be near us if he feels scared. He always starts off in his own bed, and I hope he'll eventually stay put. I'm guessing your kiddo will stop soon enough, and he doesn't seem to do it all that often. If it really bothers you, by all means try whatever you can, but maybe you don't need to stress over it too much. I tried the crying it out thing, closing the door, etc, but now there's no fuss about it and no one is upset. Every kid is different. :-)

I agree with what the other momma suggested, making a little spot in your room somewhere for him to sleep if you don't want him in bed. I remember being scared as a child and I hated it. So, that's actually what we do with our daughter as well! If she gets scared, she can lay next to us for a bit and then we put her in her bed that is a few feet from our bed. She can see us and feel safe and sleep in her bed. I think you guys have done the right thing by comforting him when he needs it. Poor little guy! Attacked by a dog! Wow, thank goodness he's okay.

What perfect timing for this email. I have let our son in our room for years due to night terrors and nightmares. He is almost 12!! I did the "palatte thing" and everynight he sets it up and cleans it up, but this morning , I got sick of it and said no more. I told him I love him, but he is controlling our bedroom. He is not always ready to go to bed when I am or get up when I am and I don't want to see his little bed in there. ( It is this little fold out bed that turns into a chair that I got at Walmart 12 years ago for when we had company) So, just watch it ,as this has extended almost 12 years!! I truly don't mind, but I don't think it is healthy for him.Good luck. I honestly don't mind if he is in there but I think it is time for him to move on!!

I agree with the other two. I suggested the same to a friend a few years back and her son would come in and sleep on the pallet and it wasn't long before he stayed in his own bed. My son always wanted in our bed and we let him but we didn't get him out until he was 5-I wish I would have thought of the pallet idea back then. Good luck.