My Friend Is Going Through a Miscarriage

M.,

I so understand what your friend is going through, because I just went through one a month ago. Yes, it could take that long, though I doubt it will. With mine was the worst kind of cramping imaginable, and I thought I'd never stop bleeding, but I did. The benchmark my doctor told me to look for was bleeding through more than 2 super pads in less than 2 hours. If that's happening, then she needs to see someone.

She also needs to know that her next few cycles will be off. I was 10 days late starting my next period, and it was almost as bad as the miscarriage itself, with the incredibly painful cramps and heavy bleeding. But as time goes on, her body will readjust and she'll be fine and back to her old schedule fairly quickly.

I will definitely keep her in my thoughts, because I know how tough that is. I hope this helped.

E.

2-3 weeks is certainly within the normal range. I am so sorry for your friend, I've been through three myself :( My husband and I recently saw a reproductive endocrinologist and strongly discourages D&Cs b/c they are seeing that women with D&Cs, especially more than one, can have trouble conceiving later. So, if your friend can handle it, it's much better to let nature take it's course. Again, I'm so sorry for your friend :(

I would just offer my sorrow for your friend over the loss of her baby. I have experienced a full-term stillborn baby and an ectopic pregnancy. I attended a support group called MEND located in Dallas. Their website is www.mend.org. The meeting information is located there along with other pregnancy loss information and posting from mother who have experienced the loss of their babies.

So many women can empathize with your friend's experience, including myself, and some of my friends and family. A miscarriage is very painful in every way possible but I believe a D&C is actually lot easier on your body and shortens the physical... discomfort. She could bleed a very very long time otherwise! Some women only days, others a month... Also, if I could just add...I was extremely angry when we lost our first child at everything and everybody, at God and myself... and that is normal. People would say certain things meaning to help that just made me more upset.
Right now, if she is upset, don't tell her "it's for the better or it's in God's plan, or it wasn't meant to be, or at least she wasn't that far along..." all she really wants to hear is that you are so sorry and that it's terrible and that it's okay to be sad and angry and confused and go through all the steps of grieving on her own time and that you will be there for her however she needs. Everything else comes in time :)

I'm sorry to hear about this.

My miscarriage was over in about 4 days. I started cramping on a Sat. morning. Then started bleeding lightly later that day. The bleeding slowly increased. I saw my Dr. on Tuesday and by Tuesday night the cramping was so bad, I thought I was in labor. Then it happened. :(

I would advise your friend to call her dr. I would not think that having to wait 2-3 weeks for this to end would be safe her body...but that is my unprofessional opinion.