My 9 Year Old Is Miss Behaving

yup. best bet, enlist her to 'help' a bit, and 'help' her with independent things until she gets up to speed. many ways you can handle it. use grace and be gentle in all things.

good luck,
M.

Kids of all ages may have adjustment issues when there is a new baby. Are the 9 year old and newborn your only children? If so, the 9 is used to your attention, and availability. Newborns and 9 year olds have very different lifestyles and you may not be available to take her to all of the activities she is used to. Be sure that you are making some time just for her each day, even if it means hiring a sitter for the baby for a half hour. Plan some time outside the house together, even if it's just an hour, to have an outing when hubby or someone can be in charge of the baby.
My daughter was just 4 when I had a baby. If the baby started to fuss, I'd announce, "You have to wait a minute, I'm busy with K______ right now." Of course the baby did not understand but my 4 year old got the message loud and clear - she was coming first and the baby had to wait. Find those moments too.
I'm not big on asking siblings to be "helpers" - they didn't ask for a baby. However, ask her to do something fun, like take some pictures of the baby, if she is so inclined or consult her on nursery decor.
Kids may misbehave as a way to get your attention, if they are not getting it in other ways. More positive attention may help!

Yes, jealousy is completely normal – it even has an official name: sibling rivalry. She's worried that her place in your family is not what she's come to expect, and she's uncertain of your ability to love her as much as before.

There's a great, easy to read book that can help you with this uncomfortable situation, called Siblings Without Rivalry, by Faber and Mazlish. You'll use the things you learn in this book for years. Until you get that book, however, you can also search for "sibling rivalry" online and get lots of good tips. Here's one site: http://kidshealth.org/parent/positive/family/sibling_riva...

ask her to help... she has been the probably your youngest until this baby.. so now she feels left out.. i was 14 when my brother was born.. i loved him.. but i felt left out... make time to take just her out... make her feel special .. ask her to help you shop for her and the baby... but take her out for a girls day.. this will help.. make her feel good.... she is a little jelous.. i was... she will get over it.. when the newness wears off

Yes every child ( I'd say every age!) reacts in some way to the birth of a little sibling. When family members, friends come to coo over the new baby use it as time to have one on one with her. Have Daddy bond with baby while you go somewhere with your older daughter.

As the oldest of 2 girls 8 years apart, I can tell you that YES, this is perfectly normal. Your 9 year old has always been the princess. She has never had to share your attentions. She might be 9, but she still needs her Mommy Time. They all do.
She wants attention. She's never had to fight for it before. She is angry and resentful of this baby who has horned in on her territory, but feels guilty because of it.
Take some time every day for just her.
You'll be glad you did.
LBC

Absolutely! It will pass. Your 9 yo is used to being an only child now they have to share the limelight.
Good luck.

Yes.

The best advice I was given was when both cry, tend the older child. The older one has to wait, help, understand, etc so much, she needs to know she matters. And newborns cry all the time anyway - the baby can wait five minutes.

Praise her for being a wonderful "big sister" or give her a gift with a note to that extent, "catch" her being nice to the baby and praise her, and make sure everyone who comes to coo over the baby makes a special effort to praise her on being such a good big sister, and that they know how hard it is to not have mom all to yourself. Also, have someone else watch the baby for an afternoon and do something "just for big girls" together - a manicure, or a lunch, or just time at a play ground or library or something she enjoys but "little babies" cannot join in.