I agree with the other posts in that all children are different and react differently to various situations. That said, many of the behaviors you described are often attributed to sensory processing issues.
My youngest son has severe Sensory Processing Dysfunction (also known as Sensory Integration Disorder/Dysfunction). I attended a seminar a couple of years ago on the disorder and one of the speakers showed a short video of an infant with sensory problems that manifested as boundary issues. When the mother came toward the child, the child got extremely distressed. When mom backed away, the child calmed down. The presented summed it up as this (this is not an exact quote - but it's pretty close), "the mother was doing everything right - in parenting almost any other child...it just wasn't right for this child - in other words...right parenting/wrong child" this short explanation hit me perfectly - it just made so much sense in everything we had (or hadn't) done with my son. We just weren't responding to him properly. Once we did, he was a very different child.
Ok...that was a lot about me...but as it applies to your post, your son might have different boundary issues - sensory related or not. My son didn't like the soft cuddling but he liked very deep pressure contact. Ironically, rough housing with him would calm him down. Wrapping him tightly in a blanket and rolling him across the floor would mellow him out. My son physiologically does not get tired - he was "on" all the time - so we had to find ways to at least bring him down and they all involved the exact opposite of what we would have thought.
It's just a thought but almost everyone has sensory issues of some type or another - most people learn to live around them (cutting tags out of shirts, wearing pants without buttons, covering their ears when they flush the toilet, etc.) but if they are "bigger" than that, sometimes they need a little help resetting themselves neurologically.