My baby is one year old and has always pushed away when I try to hug her. I was wondering if it is her personality. Will she develope that interest to be hugged later on?
My son has always been a major snuggler.
He's 13 now and still wants hugs, which is fine my me.
Some kids are just more touch sensitive than others - too much can un-nerve them.
Some grow out of it, but some don't.
My daughter was the same way...she would even push me away when she got hurt. I was so concerned but she completely changed...although I can't remember exactly when. She 's 10 now and always wants hugs and cuddles from me.
My daughter did this...to be fare to her I was ALWAYS hugging, cuddling, kissin on her, because she was/is, just so darn cute and I love her just so darn much. It started at 1 and lasted till just now (She is 4 now). She even went so fare as to tell me "Mommy I dont like kisses". To make things harder she would let her dad love the snot out of her, she is and always has been a daddys baby.
What I did was try to respect her wishes...I know I dont like always haveing someones face in mine, and I am sure she didnt like it eather. Yes, there were times I would hug and kiss her anyway, but for the most part I tryed the hands off aproch. I think its important for kids, even as little as yours, to know its ok to tell someone not to touch them.
She grew out of it and now wants hugs and kisses all the time, and I mean ALL the time.
Hang in there, Show your love in other ways, and sneek in those hugs kissses and loves when you can!!
Blessings!!
My DS #1 was like that as a baby. Now he is 8 and is sensory seeking for pressure and hugs. He is always wrapped in a blanket and pushing his head on me if I sit next to him. I think it was over stimulating for him as a baby but he needs it now.
My son didn't like to be cuddled from birth. He was always very independent, and needed very little holding or cuddling.
He is 3 now. He will let us hug him and wants hugs sometimes. He's still not big on cuddling. He shows lots of affection, but it's not in the traditional cuddly way. It might be her age. She is starting to be more mobile and the world is more exciting then a hug!
I think it is personality, my son was a cuddler, hang on-er all that stuff. My friend LOVED holding my son because when you picked him up he held on close and tight. When you picked up her daughter she leaned back, forcing you to put your hip out and stand oddly to hold her. My son, 5, still cuddles and clings onto people at all times.
My son was the snuggler my daughter was not as a baby but is now at 10.
she might be independent.. my daughter swings back and forth on that.. she cuddles on her time and when i want to cuddle and pushes me away and tries to get out of my arms.
Just curious if he/she is adopted?
Personality, but it doesn't mean she won't be affectionate. My oldest child wouldn't cuddle as a baby, didn't really until 3-4. Now, at 8, I can't get her off me, and she weighs over 50 pounds. My littler one was always cuddly, but she is also more emotional and prone to crying and outbursts.
Don't worry, she is just too interested in other things right now :)
PS - I always sor tof thought in my older child's case, she didn't really need it. I mean, she was a baby and I held her and nursed her all the time. She only started seeking me out, when she got older and more independent.
I think it is all personality. My first was too busy to be cuddled for long. He would also push away. He is a busy 6yo now. He does like to get quick hugs from mom and dad, but he is still not a cuddler. My second is a major cuddler. Has been from day one! I love it. He is 2yo now and almost 30 lbs...and I can feel it! He still loves to be held, carried, loved on, etc.
My four year old cuddles a little, but not when she was a baby or a toddler. I know, before kids arrive, we have this vision of cuddling on the couch all day with our precious babies, but instead its a lot of non stop action, chasing, changing, entertaining, cleaning. My youngest had a slightly sweeter disposition and she snuggled a bit more. Its partially personality, but it also age. Once I held a friends toddler in my lap and he just stayed there, and my husband and I just looked at each other like, whats this about? A toddler that sits in your lap and doesn't immediately slide off to go do something else?
