J.C.
First, I think that therapist is nuts. You are divorced and she tells you it is your responsibility to teach the man how to father??? What a crock. This is your son, he is begging you to get him away from the father, and he is old enough to know what he is asking. Do what you have to in court no matter how much work it is. Your baby needs you to do this for him! The problems with dad are only going to get worse, especially since the new wife does not accept your son at all. She will get even more demading and try to push the boy out over time because she does not want him. I would not hesitate to take this to court, and since your boy is 13, his wishes and testimony will be considered quite a bit. Just make sure you fill him in on what will happen and that it is important that he speaks out when the time comes. I feel really bad for him and for you and I hope you can find the strength to take on this battle for your son's wellbeing.