I need some advice on how to keep my daughter asleep by herself, also my son will sleep in his own bed but gets scared. I seek any advice that would help me and my husband get to sleep together again?
This may sound silly but from the time my son was an infant when I put him to bed I would tell him how lucky he was to be going to bed. I started saying it because as a new mom I was always so tired so I really did think he was fortunate to be laying down. He has never had a problem sleeping on his own and even likes to take naps and go to bed at night.
It may be a bit easier when she is older and can better understand the concept of her "own bed". She loves sleeping with you, and can you blame her :).
One book that is AWESOME that will give you TONS of good advice on how to do this is The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantly. When I read this book, it was not for the same reason, but I remember reading a lot about moving baby to their own bed. You can buy it on Amazon.com for a good price.
Chidlren and puppies are so much alike. It only takes once to establish a habit and once established very hard to break. Try getting a special light, one that is her choice. It should be something relaxing and not stimulating. This could be used for your son also. Tell her she is to big to sleep with you and daddy anymore. Make it simple. Then prepare yourself for a couple of sleepless nights but if you keep to it she will break the habit, and so will you. It is as much your habit as it is hers. Good luck
I had that problem with my daughter and the doctor told me the best way to get them used to their own bed/bedroom was to make sure that they always wake up in their... even if they fall asleep with you, get up and put them in their own room.
For me, it took about 2 weeks. A couple of nights I fell asleep in her bed with her too, that seemed to help.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
Our son was having difficulty going to sleep. He wanted us to stay with him until he fell asleep. Then he would wake up upset we were still not there. Our doctor suggested that we set a time limit (I will lay down with you for 2 minutes) and then leave. Our doctor said that if you are in the room with a kid when they fall asleep, when they wake up during the night (we all do this and for the most part we roll over and go back to sleep) and find you not there, they panic.
I expect you have already done this, but make sure you explain it in simple terms to your children. I have found that I often underestimate my children's ability to understand and to help me problem solve. Ask your son what makes it scary, will a nightlight help?
And then be consistent with having them in their beds. These are the things that have helped us.
You're going to have to do some tough love, for everyone's sake. The one year old should still be in a crib, so that's simple. Crying will only last a couple of days - our son took 2 and has slept like a dream ever since. For the 3 year old, rewards work great. If there is a legitimate reason for fear, or someone is sick, we let them come QUIETLY into our room and sleep on the floor.
Maybe find one of there toys(stuffed animal) or a blanket so they feel safe in bed. Maybe its a security thing with them. I would also just let them know everything is OK and it is OK to sleep alone. Well hope this helps and if not I'm sorry Good Luck
