First and foremost, know that it is NORMAL to feel guilty even if you were not the cause of the divorce. Also, know that it is going to take some time to feel better but that IT WILL HAPPEN. In the meantime, focusing on your child's needs will take your mind off the far future (and the fear for it), which is something you don't need to waste your mental energies on. So take a day at the time. When I separated my child was 2 and it was HARD to raise him alone, it still is and he is almost 4 but it is A LOT better than it was. Focusing on him made days, and then weeks, and then months fly by...in this time I experienced feelings of failure, loneliness (even if I had company), fear, guilt (for my son not having his dad), confusion...BUT NOW, after leaving all of this behind my back and after seeing what a wonderful job I am doing ALL ALONE with my child, I feel STRONG, CONFIDENT, like I can do it. Even my outlook on men has changed and I feel like I don't need them, it'll be my choice to have one by my side one day. I say, give yourself time to heal inside, every wound bleeds for a while...but we mommies are so lucky to have the highest source of love ever...our children! Having them is the most important thing,anything else, with time and with a grain of salt on our part,will come. I garantee you are going to feel so much stronger...because you can do it, you really can! Surround yourself with caring people that know you and love you, ask for help if you need (who doesn't) and keep yourself focused on raising this wonderful little life..the rest will come when you are ready to accept it. Good luck (but you are smart and you won't need it ;-)