I try to remind myself daily that I and only I am responsible for my actions. Meaning, if my kids are naughty, it doesn't justify me screaming and loosing my temper cause then that's wrong as well. Same goes with my how I treat my husband. I treat him as I would want him to treat me. It's all about respect. That being said...I still screw up but I really try to practice being sorry and saying sorry when I need to. It's not my personality to do that, I like to always be right but I can't possible be all the time:) So this motivates me to be the BEST person I can be so my kids learn humility and life lessons too, especially when I have to go to them and say sorry for something. They realize no one is perfect but good character is what it's all about.
Also, we try to do a date night at least once a month. It's always fun to get out and always worth the hassle of getting the kids taken care of.
One last thing I try to do is something for myself each day that I want to do. It might be taking a break in the middle of the day to watch a show that I recorded, or not feeling guilty about taking a half hour nap. Or meet a friend for lunch or spending time on facebook. I try not to get caught up in the craziness that makes being a mom's like crazy even if it's only for 30 minutes or so.
Hope that helps. Love you kiddos, they won't be kiddos long:(