K.R.
I have been with my husband for a long time, 11 years, and when we first met I got along so well with his mother. She would tell me how good I was for him. Then all of a sudden, she did not like me. It came out of nowhere. At first I tried to smooth it over but it became apparent to me that this would not work. She was very disrespectful to me and would go out of her way to leave me out all of the family things, yet she was smart enough to always do it in a way that did not "look" offensive. When I said something, this of course made me look like I was the over reactor. When I would complain to him, it onlt put him in the middle of things. He would always say, "oh she didn't mean it like that". It really was a no win. Eventually, I decided that all I could do was be married to the man I married and let the rest be. You can not change what other people control. My advice to you is to #1 ask yourself if things can be decent with your mother in law. If they can then do it, but do not be her stepping stone. #2 Be honest with your husband. He love you just like he loves her. She has a place as his mom but you have yours as his wife. and #3 Learn that you have to live your life for your child, you, and your husband, not his family. You are only responsible for making sure you have happiness inside of your life. Your home and your marriage should be your safe haven.