More of a Wife Question...

How often? Whenever we get a chance...meaning when I am not tired, he is not tired, the baby is asleep, the boys are asleep or watching TV, and if we are in the mood. That boils down to about once or twice a week. Before my baby girl (who is now 4 months old) we were at about 3 times a week.
It's usually fantastic. Except for right now we seem to be doing it on the bathroom floor since that's the only room the kids can't get to. lol That's not too comfy. But, my husband knows how to rock it, so it works
Tricks? Special Techniques? Ummm...no. Trying to get to the big "O" however we can! No routine, that makes it boring.
Sexy Undergarments? I am not too sure. My husband likes me best naked.
No music, no atmosphere...I did that in my early 20's. I find myself humming along to the music!!
I was actually going to ask the same question as your last. I can't seem to turn my mind off. I am always thinking about what needs to be done, where I need to go, bills that need to be paid. It kind of sucks! That never happened before, so I can't really tell you what to do to turn off your mind since mine seems to be running a mile a minute.
( I don't think the Proper Care and Feeding malarchy is gonna help you with sex, tricks and how often it happens)
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I used to give all my girlfriends tips and tricks for the bedroom. Let's see if I can give you a few without getting too, um, raunchy.

First things first. I know sometimes it's hard to get in the mood when you've busted your butt all day and had to deal with the kids...so use this trick. The morning of the day you want this tryst to go down (no pun intended!) put on some sexy undergarments. When you are wearing sexy panties and bra, you tend to feel sexier. Before you leave the house (after hubby has left) take a picture of yourself in the mirror with these sexy items on.

Through out the day, think of the things he does that turns you on. This will start getting your mind on "the deed". Now I'm not saying you have to obsess over it, just occasionally when you're taking a little break, imagine him kissing your neck or something. Around lunch time, text hubby and ask him if he's alone and if he has a few minutes to chat. If he says no, ask him to text you when he's alone and has a minute or two.

If he says yes...text him the picture you took that morning and tell him that you can't wait to see him after the kids go to bed.

Pick something up on the way home for dinner...cause neither of you will want to cook. While the kids are still up, hold hands, steal kisses when the kids aren't paying attention...just little things to kind of tease each other.

After the kids go to bed, hand him a lighter or matches and ask him to go light candles in the bedroom. At this point, you go to the bathroom, and prepare yourself. Put on a dab of perfume and and be ready in the sexy undergarments you've got on. Walk out and let him do the rest...

I have done this one and the anticipation is crazy! Hubby said he was shocked to get the text, but then couldn't help rushing home after work.

I have techniques for different variations of the act itself...but I don't want to get to graphic. If you want details, feel free to message me.

**And I hope I wasn't to graphic in this one for those of you aren't as open with your sexuality. If I offended, I apologize. That wasn't my intent.

We have sex every day if it works out, and it's awesome every time.
Usually we don't have time for sexy undergarments, music or setting the atmosphere.
What really gets me in the mood is flirting through texts throughout the day. The anticipation starts to build and by the time he gets home we both can't keep our hands off of each other.
To keep things really steamy we like to experiment with toys, outfits, lubrications, etc (sorry if thats too graphic).
The big thing is communication. When something feels good I let him know, tell him to keep at it, etc. If the goal is to get me to the finish line, then he needs to know what moves take me there.
All in all, I try to keep my mind in the place when we first met. When we didn't have a kid, when I didn't have all the responsibility of the house, etc. That time when I could work a double and be dead tired, but speed over to his house and jump in the sheets with him. So if that means once the baby is asleep and its between having sex and doing the dishes....the dishes can wait. ;)
Good Luck.

JennaLynnLucky..you lucky girl!! Kudos to every night sex... You are one hot momma!! LOL..
I agree with Ms. Jennifer... its all about anticipation... Just keep your eye on the prize...lol.. or try pornography... Anything your comfortable with...
I understand where your coming from, ever since we have had kids...I just dont feel as attractive as I used to....or should I say as comfortable in my skin...so I decided to do to something special for him for Valentines Day to prove that I could do it and to see hopefully what he sees. I took a boudoir photoshoot for him. Well boy was I nervous...but after a few pictures it got easier. Well I just recently got all the pictures and they came out wonderfully!! I even showed my girls because they were done so tastefully. I dont mean to toot my own horn but..TOOT! TOOT! I mean they are beautiful and to see the look on my hubbys face was priceless. I am even blowwing one up 16X20 for my bedroom. I love them!!
They have sparked something in me and in us. So do whatever makes you comfortable...he will sense it too..Good Luck Momma!!

get a babysitter and answer the door when he gets home in nothing but a trench with or without lingerie under it

Go get a brazilian bikini wax and let me know how it turns out! LOL just kidding...

We do it at least 2 times a week - normally on the weekends while the kids nap or late after they have gone to bed.

Music always helps - and I agree with the 'mental prep' - I like to shower first and think about what's going to happen - i'm usually ready by the time I get down to the bedroom. ;-)

Good luck!!!

Personally, I'd love some help in this department as well. My husband and I do "it" once or twice a week and while everyone gets to the finish line (if you know what I mean) I feel so unsexy. Since my daughter was born, I just feel like an unsexy person or nonsexual person. I feel weird and fake when kissing and am not romantic in any way and I've never been they type to wear lingerie or do anything really kinky, but I can't help feeling like something is wrong because it's like a whole side of my "woman-ness" is dead. Sorry to barge in on your question, but it made me start thinking...

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Boy my mind is wandering 'conquering me'? Promise not being judgemental, just wondering...
Married 25+ years and for the longest I finally told my husband I was a lost cause because of so many things going on in the head and whatever else...I wonder if it was a control issue..not being able to let go..I was willing to please but wasn't getting pleased if you know what I mean. I'm not one to let go in other ways so I figured that was it...now in my mid 40s and the children are mostly grown, have one 18 year old still at home...I'm feeling a little more freer and relaxed...I think he has given up on me...and he has never been one to take too much time at it any how...
Now, for your question it doesn't sound like I'm one to give advice ... but as I mentioned I was willing to please and what I have found works is foreplay in the form of words and anticipation... little notes left on added to places that only he will see...be creative. Thinking about these notes and the outcome usually works in two directions!
Good luck!

I'm the same way, my mind is all over the place all day! What has helped me is to mentally prep myself before anything starts. About an hour or 30 minutes before start getting into the sexy mind-set and focus on that. It'll get you excited and looking forward to it and that will help you enjoy it.

Well, sometimes if you know it is going to happen priming yourself is never a bad idea, if he thinks you are REALLY ready for him it's more fun -- Ego thing on his part. Honestly, it's better when the kids are not home and no one can bug you.

Well, technically the top for a woman isn't the best place to be for female stimulation. Sounds like he needs to do his research and figure out how to please you!