Miscarriage Advice or Knowledge

I had the same problem. I miscarried once and my doctor acted like it was no big thing -- it's so common. The next time I got pregnant the same thing happened. That is such an awful thing women go through. So the third time I got pregnant, i changed doctors and gave him my history.... he took a different approach and started running tests immediately... In my case, the second I got pregnant, I was a diabetic, so I started being treated right away and was able to carry the pregnancy.

Change doctors.... get a second opinion --- maybe things will work out.

Hello L.,
I had a similar experience with my doctor. I had a feeling things weren't going well and I called for an emergency appointment. I was givin the next available appointment and told if I was having an emergency then to go to the ER. I had loved that doctor until then. I lost the baby within a few days and followed up with a new doctor. I had to realize that doctor did not offer the type care I wanted. With that said, we do have a OB/GYN shortage here in LV due to some malpractice craze and insurance provider issues. However, the next doctor I saw was more carring and had a wonderful staff ~ so they are out there busy or not.

As for you having previous miscarriages, my cousin was approaching 40, never had a baby and wanted one sooooo very bad. She miscarried twice and gave up all hope. I tried to talk to her about not stressing her body but she wouldn't listen. She cried and moaped because she wanted a baby. Once she got through that, she fostered 2 children who kept her busy and her mind off of the strong urge for a baby and soon she was pregnant. She worried she would lose this baby too and often would not accept that she was pregnant. But, we now have a beautiful baby girl.

So yes, please take the advice of others and try not to stress your mind and body! Continue to take care of yourself and I wish you the best.

C.

Try not to stress about it. We had been trying since we got married 5 years ago to have children. When we were first married I had our first miscarriage and was really discouraged. A couple years latter we had our second miscarriage and then to make things worse we lost our first born to a rare disease two years ago. It was really hard to even try again but I did notice when I stopped stressing over health issues and would this one be a miscarriage or not, we ended up having a very healthy baby. I think allot of it is how much we put ourselves through. If we stress, our body feels it and can react in different ways to a pregnancy. In some cases in can reject it and cause the miscarriage. So try to relax a bit. Hopefully that will help.

L.,

I've had two miscarriages and I know they are heartbreaking. It does make it really tough to get excited about a new pregnancy. I think you just need to be patient and wait until your doctor's appointment. If you think your doctor is insensitive you may want to consider changing doctors. If you end up miscarrying again, you may want to have your doctor do a fertility work up to see if there is a problem you can correct. From what I understand, there really isn't anything they can do to prevent a miscarriage if it is going to happen so you just have to take it one day at a time even once you've seen the doctor. Good luck!

T.

Dear L.,

I had 5 miscarriages, and my sister had 3. We both ended up adopting our children, and were glad to have those wonderful babies . Now, I have 3 gr grandchildren, and am so very thankful. I don't know why doctors are so cold hearted when they deal with women who have miscarriages, but they are. They were even worse back in the late 1950s when we were having our pregnancy problems.

The only thing that I can tell you is to follow what the doctors say - I know that it sounds cruel, but the weeks will go by fast and you can possibly get better information by waiting. Just be hopeful, and ready to accept what happens. We, nowadays, are so eager to have our lives work out right that we forget that sometimes the answer is NO.

My grandmother had 8 babies and only 3 of them lived to adulthood. One of the five that died in early babyhood was named Hazel - Here it is 150 years later and I know the name of a baby that died at 2 years old. ... Because my Grandmother talked about Hazel throughout her whole life, which ended at age 85. We mothers always yearn for our babies and children,and want to give them the best lives possible. But, sometimes.....

Just think, you do have live children. And you are a wonderful person to still want to have more. Sincerely, C. N.

Hi L.,

I am so sorry to hear of your losses. I don't know how you feel but I have relatives and friends that have gone through the same thing you have, where it is not once, but two, and three times that they have had that happen to them. I am so glad to hear that you are taking care of yourself and getting healthier for you and your precious baby. One thing that I noticed is that I recommended supplements, not just any supplements but the kind that are pharmaceutical grade, they are rated #1 in all North America. They work wonders, I am not saying that that is exactly what you need in order for this not to happen to you, but it was something different that they did, and the only difference was that they took those supplements. After they where not having these miscarriages, but healthy babies. I hope that you find the strength to endure what you are going through, and I wish you all the best. If you want to know more then send me a email I will be glad to help. Take care.

D. Pace :)

P.S. Get rid of your doctor, sounds like someone that does not deserve to have your presence. A wonderful doctor is someone that cares and is compassionate for what you are going through.

L.,

L. - I am so sorry for your losses and congratulations on your new pregnancy! I miscarried my first pregnancy - it was so painful. I spent most of my first trimester with my second pregnancy scared that the same thing was going to happen. I just kept trying to trust that my body knew what to do and that if the baby was healthy, everything would be ok. Miscarriage if often nature's way of taking care of a baby that shouldn't be born for some reason (usually not enough genetic information to keep growing). I even spotted for a few days with my second pregnancy and went right in for an ultrasound. My OB's attitude made such a difference - she and her PA were so supportive. I would suggest another doctor and a lot of positive thinking. Talk to your baby and tell him/her how much you want him/her. Visualize a healthy baby. It may or may not make a difference but it will help your state of mind and that's worth a lot. Good luck. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

My first pregnancy was a miscarriage. I knew something was wrong the whole time, but the doctor ignored me because it was my first baby, and what the hell do I know about being pregnant, and I was 16! So I was treated horribly. I lost my baby at 13 weeks, and was devastated (SP?). I learned from the experience, make sure the doctor is sympathetic to your concerns! No matter how extrememe it is, they need to understand your fears! If they are smpathetic to your needs, they will do what ever it takes to ease your concerns!

My last pregnancy was really scary and I was in the hospital a lot because I was so worried! The doctor told me, if I am concerned, then it is better to have it checked and be nothing then to let it go and be something!

I wish you the best, and my prayers are with you! Remember to relax, and know that things will happen for you when the time is right!

I am truly sorry for your losses but I am a firm believer of faith and I believe when the time is right, your bundle of joy will arrive happy and healthy. THe first thing i'd do is fire your doctor and find another one who will take your pregnancies more serious than that. I had a miscarriage prior to having my second child. I was only four weeks pregnant at the time but as soon as I felt like something wasn't right, i went to my doctor and they did an ultrasound on me at four weeks. They also followed my pregnancy every week until they were sure that i had lost the baby. They were on top of things and that is the first thing you need to do, find a doctor who will follow up with you immediately and offer solutions that will preserve your children.

Also when I was ready to get pregnant again I spoke with my doctor and they offered some progesterine (sp?) pills to help out with the first couple months of pregnancy. Has any other medical treatments been offered to you? Have they informed you of your options? Anything? If your current physician has not made you aware of what you should be doing now and if they won't give you an ultrasound immediately considering your pregnancy history, I would find another doctor soon to get an ultrasound and proceed to write a letter to the director letting them know how unprofessional that office and staff seems to be. There is no way someone in your condition should be put on hold to get an ultrasound.

Also, check online for all of the proper steps you should be taking for women who have had miscarriages before. I did all my research when I was going through my miscarriage so that I was fully aware of what should have happened and what I wanted to happen. YOu have rights and you should exert them.

I pray things will be fine with you, if you make it out of your first trimester, you should be fine but I would first find a doctor who feels your pregnancies are priority to them. Ask if there are some tests they can run to make sure everything in your body is ok or if you've fully recovered from the other miscarriages.

Hi L.,

It sounds like you're not ready to jump on the emotional roller coaster again. I don't blame you. It sounds like you need more reassurance and I would suggest that you ask for an ultrasound sooner than May 14th. By the way, I am a women's health nurse practitioner. If your last menstrual period was more than 6 weeks ago, then an ultrasound will give you some reassurance. Also, unfortunately, as we get older, that is closer to 40, miscarriage rates do increase slightly. The good news is that you are the mother of 5, so we know that you can have healthy babies. I hope that this pregnancy is healthy too, the most important thing for your peace of mind, would be to find out as soon as possible.

Good luck, I hope you can convince your health care provider to see you sooner,

I am sorry about your loss. People don't understand that it is a loss. I had 2 miscarriages and no one ever cared to find out why. When I got pregnant the last time I called my doctor and asked if she would do a blood pregnancy test and then in a couple of weeks do another to see if my hormone levels would go up. I decided that I wouldn't get my hopes up until I knew if the baby was growing. I also told the doctor that I wouldn't make any appointments until I got the second blood test. I refused to get my hopes up again. Well there was a baby and he was growing so I was able to relax. sometimes things happen and the baby doesn't become a baby and I don't know why, I just know that it sucks to find out that you lost your baby.

go to the ER... tell them youre pregnant, have a history of miscarriage and are having pains... they will give you an exam and an ultrasound...

I had two miscarriages before each of my children.
My last OB did not consider my pregnancy to be high risk until I miscarried a 3rd time. As soon as I got pregnant again I went it at 6 weeks along to check my progesterone levels (which was most likely the cause of two of the miscarriages.)
It was VERY low, so they put me on progesterone suppositories until 3 months, by then my levels were good. Have you had your levels checked? If not call your Dr and ask.
I refused to be excited until at least 13 weeks myself.
Just try to relax and stay calm.

The doctors are not meaning to be so easy going about your miscarriages, the problem is even with an ultrasound at this point in your pregnancy they cant see anything, not even a heart beat yet. Also there is no proven remedy to prevent miscarriage. I have 3 beautiful boys but with those pregnancies I lost another 12. All very early, but I tried all the wives tales out there. Even the one my doctor recommended which was to take a folic acid pill with an 81 mg asprin (or baby asprin) before and during the first 3 months. I miscarried once while taking that and then got pregnant again within a month and now have a 7 month old son. So it cant hurt to try that one. Also make sure you get plenty of rest. I can imagine that isnt possible though with 5 children. I have 3 and runa daycare of 8. My best wishes to you and your family.

First off, I commend you for having five children and still wanting more. I am overwhelmed with my two. My sister had 5 miscarriages before she could conceive. They didn't seem worried about hers either. I would just listen to your doctors. The have a degree for a reason. If you don't trust what they are saying, switch doctors. Good luck.

hi L.,
im so sorry about your previous miscarriages..I had 6 miscarriages,2 were ectopic pregnancys..I never was able to have a liveing child as my fallopian tubes got destroyed during the ectopic pregnancys.im very blessed to have a wonderful cousin that gave me my godchild and has let me have a very close relationship with the baby..the baby even calls me ''mama'' and my cousin is happy about it.miscarriage is the worst thing you can go thru..with one of my miscarriages I even had an early scan at 8 weeks and my baby had a perfect strong heart beat they told me the baby was fine and then my son died a few weeks later. my advice for you is def go to the ER,if you have the insurance to cover it,cause I kno the ER can cost a fortune if you arnt insured.go in and even lie if you have to,tell them u had a few stomach pains and they will wisk you in for a scan ASAP.if yuo dont want to go the ER route,call your doctor again and explain that you are really scared and your anxiety cant be good for the baby and you really would feel better if you could get a scan now. if he wont do it..call another doc and tell him you have had a few pains...as soon as you say that,speaking from experience..they wisk you in in 2 seconds flat for a scan.good luck hun..I really hope your baby will be fine this time.

I had one miscarriage and the next time I was pregnant my doctor saw me right away to see how everything was progressing. Get another doctor! One who will take you seriously and treat you with respect. Sometimes they forget how much each child means to us since they do it everyday. Call and tell him your concerns, and if he won't see you...get someone else! Also, even if they did blood tests one day and another in a few days that would help see if the baby is growing. (the numbers should double every 48 hours.)

I am the mother of 4 -number 5 will be here in July. I have had 5 miscarriages over the years. I never get excited until around 20 weeks...

Just take care of yourself get plenty of rest = avoid stress if you can.

Another strong baby will come along and you will be blessed again.