Hi A.,
Well like Suzi I'm a home child care provider also, and although I don't have as many number of years as her, I still have dealt with this situation. So my 3 yr has been the biter and has been bitten. It happens and not because I wasn't watching the kids either.
Alot of times children bite because they have not established verbal skills yet, and they is their only way of defending themselves.
For instance my daughter was biten the 1st time when she was around 14 months old by a little girl that was 16 months old, and why because that is their only way of knowing how to defend or protect themselves at that time.
The next time it occured it was my daughter doing the biting and why because it was her way of getting even with people who either took something away from her or something of that nature. Now I'm dealing with it periodically and my daughter is the one being biten once again by another child that is younger than her, once again the other little girls line of defense.
You know what I find funny about the whole biting issue and coming from a mother of 4 and a home child care provider of 4 more ? That is that the parent of the child being biten thinks that their child coul never do wrong or be mean to another child. And on the other hand the other parent of the child who is bitting thinks that their child would not do such a thing and they must have been provoked. And then on the other hand both parents want to say we the child care providers are not watching the kids.
And the other thing is that alot of times the way your child acts for their child care provider is a totally different way that your child acts for you. And you don't see they way your child acts on a day to day basis or even the issues of the day. I spend the solving battles of one not getting out of the way of the others when they are watching Dora. Or that they wanted that bottle of glue and not thos one.
So what I think you should do is this ......talk to your child care provider about what is going. Also ask her what happens in the form of discipline for the biter and the one being biten (I beleive this is a 2 party situation some or part of the time). Also on the part of this that you should find a new child care provider because of this is absolutely ridiculous and assanine, do you really think that there is any daycare in the USA that doesn't deal with biting on a day to day basis or even go through it's spurts of it at times. And once again this will pass as long as the child that is doing the biting should not be doing that because it is hurtful and not nice and if anything should be sent to for a time-out. And the other child needs to be told that IF they are taking a toy away from the other child or provoking the child in some way, that this is not nice either and should also be sent to time-out.
I may not be going through the biting at this time with the 3 one year olds that I watch but what I am dealing with is 1) pushing other people down or off of chairs 1) taking toys away from other people and 1) pulling hair when she gets a toy taken from her or she wants the other child to move of the chair she wants to sit on. All of this is going on right in front of me and even though they are only 1 we are already implementing time-out in the corner and naughty spots if they all are in trouble. I am sure at some point I will see the biting but I hope I won't.
W.