Lying and Cheating!

Yes, I would call block her number. If not, he is going to have to be firm and decide when a good time is in his life to let her back in by maybe meeting for lunch somewhere and discussing the issue calmly. Either way, it is going to take time. It depends greatly on many things in their relationship, if her behavior was suspicious prior and all that. If just a girlfriend with no kids, I wouldn't waste my time on her.

I think it's interesting that, had this been a man with a women in his bed, the answers would mostly be, "the scoundrel!"... but b/c it's a women... other women are coming to her defense with, "Well, there are two sides to every story" or, "She might not have been cheating...". Wow, women cheat too ladies!

If they are going to watch tv.. do it in the living room! I stopped consoling men like that PRE--marriage. Were they under covers, were they snuggling?... seriously.

When I was single and someone cheated on me I would send them packing. It was apparent that they didn’t want to be with me so I would move on. I only once took someone back that had cheated and you know they did it again.
I have only been with my hubby for about 6 years (my daughter came before marriage) and I think if my hubby were lying to get out of the house and cheating I would change the locks. That would be it for me. We all have free will when it come to temptation and the ability to say no.

Woudl I? Depends on whether I was married, had kids, how long the relationship was, what I though of the person's nature (basically a good person), and the general quality of the relationship (had we seemed happy or having problems). But if I thought someone cheated and couldn't own up to it nor would seek counseling about it, then that itself woudl be a deal breaker.

Odds are, whatever he saw was at some level inappropriate, be it adulterous or just a very bad decision to get to close to another man. They need to look objectively at what they want and if there is merit to the relationship at all and what led her to be in bed with a different man for any reason.

I've never needed to get into bed with someone, to console them. Hmmmmmmmmm

They need to work it out between themselves, he needs to decide what he's willing to forgive, what problems need to be worked on, and he can let her know IF he wants to try again. Maybe he's done and she needs to accept that, and if he doesn't want to hear from her he should block her number.

She needs to realize that being in bed with someone, even if they were just watching a movie, looks bad. If I saw my partner in bed, even if he said they were only watching TV, my first thought would be "Why did you have to both be in the bed???" She may have to accept that poor judgement on her part has cost her this relationship.

Bless his heart. She is a real beotch for doing this to him and continuing to torture him with her lies. Yes, he should block her.

The best way to get over it for him to get MAD and hate her guts for a while.

No one has ever done something like this to me, so I can't compare. But I do hope he won't have a thing to do with her. (Even if she is who is near and dear to you instead of him - I'm not sure - sorry.)

Dawn

Another thumbs down for facebook.
Another thumbs down for clinging to someone who is beneath a good person.

If he was someone I cared about, I'd say, "Time to take the blindfold off. She's just not that into you. She's playing you like a fiddle. She's stringing you along. She's loving the drama while you're making a fool of yourself. If you're cool with sharing her with other dudes....keep trying to get her back until she gets tired of the cat and mouse and ends it for you."

Dead serious.
Most of my best friends are men and I don't have any qualms about telling them from a woman's point of view exactly how hard they are getting played. They listen or they don't, but there comes a time when I won't take their calls crying about it anymore.
I know that sounds mean, but I've had a couple of male friends that I swear thrived on the drama as much as the females and to be blunt....liked getting dragged around by the nose.

This guy needs more counseling to get his bearings and be prepared for the fact that when he truly ditches her, she will want him back with vengeance. In my opinion, he needs to be strong enough to say NO. And mean it.

When it gets to the point where someone is being flaunted in your face....
Let the other guy have her. He can find a woman to be good to him elsewhere.

Just my opinion.

she may not have cheated..she may have been getting flirty but not crossed any physical lines, not that that is not bad, but if he loves her and was palnning on committing his life to her and ths is the only issue i'd say it was worth talking about. Now if he wasnt sure she was the one for him before than I'd say now was a better time than ever to end things.

There are always 3 sides to every story: his, hers & the truth. You've given a very small sliver of his side of the story only so it's hard to say. In my own personal experience, cheating, while never ok, is something that a relationship with a strong foundation may be able to weather with the proper care generally to include counseling (but not always). Some people are all-or-nothing types where if their SO does anything "wrong" the relationship is over. To me, that's selling a relationship short, but hey, it's not mine to do with as I please. To each their own, but I think he's being silly.

Lol...and she's still lying about it. If this were close to home, it wouldn't be funny. But it's not, and I tell you it's hilarious! Be a grown-up. Yeah, it hurts, but they weren't even living together. Block her calls and emails, etc. Spend extra time in the gym or doing whatever feels good. Gather a bunch of songs that serve as anthems during break-ups. They sound like kids.

I had to think about my answer for a while. Sorry to hear of the situation.

Forgiveness is what you do when someone has asked for it or in those cases where you can't get on with your life because of the infraction.

Even if I found it in my heart to forgive, that doesn't mean that I would "forget". It would take a very long time for the other to regain my trust. (Whoever came up with "when you forgive, you forget" was/is crazy.)

From what info you have added, it sounds to me like your friend has been losing the love of this woman for a while now. Your friend can say that it's not acceptable and won't accept such behavior, but then he needs to make choices about what he will do if the lying continues. Try to get him to protect his life (credit score, the house, all that).

I wish your friend good luck on this.