As for the other circumstances--job, softball, "real" job, etc. I don't think they have anything to do with the texting situation, except to describe maybe a general household mood.
I don't think texting is a "textbook" case of cheating but I think anything going on, obviously intended to be kept hidden, is a problem. I don't think O. text constitutes an emotional affair. I think an affair involves a level of caring, emotional closeness at the very least.
Was she a possible roll in the hay? Maybe. Did he act on this? Sounds like he didn't.
I can hear the anger and disgust in the tone of your post. I'm sure you are upset (as I would be) that he texted someone. BUT are you looking for a reason to nail him with divorce? If so, this isn't "it". If you are miserable and want out, by all means, do so but think long and hard about what reasons are behind your decision. I don't think a text message has enough power to destroy a relationship that both people want to work. Good luck!
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As for the other circumstances--job, softball, "real" job, etc. I don't think they have anything to do with the texting situation, except to describe maybe a general household mood.
I don't think texting is a "textbook" case of cheating but I think anything going on, obviously intended to be kept hidden, is a problem. I don't think O. text constitutes an emotional affair. I think an affair involves a level of caring, emotional closeness at the very least.
Was she a possible roll in the hay? Maybe. Did he act on this? Sounds like he didn't.
I can hear the anger and disgust in the tone of your post. I'm sure you are upset (as I would be) that he texted someone. BUT are you looking for a reason to nail him with divorce? If so, this isn't "it". If you are miserable and want out, by all means, do so but think long and hard about what reasons are behind your decision. I don't think a text message has enough power to destroy a relationship that both people want to work. Good luck!