I hope I did the right thing last night....our 2.5yo decided not to listen to me when I asked her to keep her drumstick out of her mouth, she kept putting it in her mouth and spinning around. I told her to put it away and lets get ready for bed she said NO!!!! So I took the stick put it away, carried her upstairs put on her pull up and just put her to bed, no stories, we did not even brush teeth bc she was fighting so much. She stayed in bed crying for about 30 mins then finally fell asleep. I was suprised she stayed in her bed all night, this morning she woke and said "timeout in room" and I said "yes you did not listen" and left it at that. was this the right way to go? I have been reading the L&L books and trying to apply these principles.
Way to go M.!!!
Yes, you did just fine.
Keep it up and she will listen the first time you say "Put that away".
***cyber high five***
You did just fine mama!!!
Now she knows her boundaries. You should be able to say "take that out of your mouth NOW, please" and she will listen.
You keep setting boundaries mama!!! YOU GO!!!
GO YOU!! Good job mama :) You did GREAT!
Yup! Now she knows that limit and the fact that your limits will be enforced.
It's really tough, but worth it in the long-run! Good job!
I love Love and Logic! You did great! My boys are 7 and 14 now, and they are sooooo easy (and happy). I think it's partly because we used L&L so consistently when they were young. Have a great day!
Yes, I think you did great! I love L&L!! My kids will do this too with drumsticks, sucker sticks, any protruding object in their mouths.. I always give them the choice, sit down with the object or put it down so you can play. That choice always seems fair to them, so they usually comply. I have had to lay down the law and put my kids in their rooms if they do not make an appropriate decision. Good for you!!
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Yep, sounds like you did a GREAT job! Good job!
I have never read L&L I might have to check it out. My daughter is 10 and has actually always been a REALLY easy kid - lucky for me actually!
Good job! Keep it up!
Good work being gentle and diplomatic, but for 2 1/2 (depending on her temperament) I think the main consequences were fairly delayed in relation to not responding when you said to put down the dangerous stick in her mouth (no stories after getting changed for bed, and she never did put down the stick, you took it away so she didn't have to follow what you said in the end). It also enabled her to throw a fit (fighting and then crying for 30 minutes) which I would not personally have allowed, because the habit to cry and protest is hard to break, and after a few seconds, it's not really about the stick anymore, she just didn't want to do what you said.
You'll see if it is working the next time (or two or three, but shouldn't be more than that) she is doing something you tell her not to do. If she stops right away with no tantrum, you'll know it's working. At her age, she can do it. I had several friends with spirited kids who had no luck with love and logic and one who used it well, but her daughter was super mellow (but still brattier than I would allow). You'll know in your gut if it's working over time to enable your child to mature happily and confidently and listen to what you say. Kids this age can learn very quickly. My 2 1/2 year old (born terror) would have absolutely dropped the stick right away, no fuss. We used "Back to Basics Discipline" by Janet Campbell Matson. It's just an option if you feel things aren't progressing over time. Hopefully they will, good work!
Sounds good! Consequences delivered immediately and swiftly, without anger and no giving in to the crying.
Nice job!
What you did sounds great. You'll know if it was the right thing for your child if her behavior is better in the future. I trust you told her why she wasn't allowed to spin with a drumstick in her mouth. If you forgot to tell her, be sure to let her know. Way to go MOM!!
you got a lot of comments already and I didn't read them all but sounds pretty good to me! I would have done the same thing and if it got the point across then it worked!
