Looking to Find Child with Similar Personality to My Daughter(s) Holt, MI

I don't know if the same personality is the answer but someone not bossy and who they like each other. I'm sure there is someone in the class who might be a friend to her but it's so easy to 'fall between the cracks' when you're quiet and shy. Maybe you could invite different little girls from her class over one at a time and let them get to know her. Can you go to her class anytime and help out and see which little girls are more quiet and shy like she is or who seem to not be the stronger personality? Sometimes the kids just have to work it out but maybe there are kids at church or in the neighborhood who she could be friends with if school is not working out. Is the teacher aware of this issue? Maybe see if she could work with you too on helping her. It's hard, I know. I was very shy as a child and there is not much you can do as a parent to change it but to be there, accept her as she is, help her to be confident.

I would get a list of girls in her class and start inviting just one over at a time so she can get to know them on a personal level at home where she is comfortable and does not feel overwhelmed at school by all the activities.

Then talk to her about the playdate afterwards if she was happy and comfortable.

She'll click or bond with one and they'll be off holding hands and skipping in no time.

In Kindergarten... kids do not have "BFF's."
And, friends are not static nor the same every day.
Many don't even have "friends" yet.
They are young... kids play with whomever or themselves.
At this young age, friendships are not cemented yet... nor fully formed.
It is not, for all kids.

My daughter was like your daughter. But at the same time, my daughter even if she was "shy"... stood up for herself and was very self- aware and self-reliant and self-assured. She didn't race, to be friends with others or have friends like others or keep up... with other kids.
She was... herself.
So, I did not get flustered about whether or not she had friends or not or how many. Because... my daughter, "chose" her friends. Instead of visa versa. And she did it consciously, if she was comfortable with or trusted a child. She wasn't a follower, and actually abhorred "bossy" kids.

Let your daughter be herself. Teach her to be herself.
And let her know... that kids this age... do not have consistent BFF's or BFF's at all.
At this age, kids are really just still learning about socializing and friendships. They don't know, everything yet.

Your daughter is fine.
Being a friend and having a friend... means, teaching and guiding your child... about how to "choose" friends. How to "discern" other people. So they do not... get wrapped up... in following others or parroting others or just going along with others, because the other kids are more extroverted.
Teach her... how to be herself.
That is what I always teach my kids.

And by chemistry and like mindedness... a child, will find their way and to friends... who compliment them. Not overbearing, to them.
Teach and guide... your daughter about these things.
That is what I did with both my kids... from when they were very young.
That will teach her about choosing friends, and that, she is not just marginal... to other kids.
It will teach her... how to be, self-assured.
And that comparing herself to others, is not what matters.

Both my kids... are not super extroverts, but by teaching them these things, they are very self-assured, choose good friends and are not caught up in "how many" friends they have, versus other kids.
But... they do have friends... GOOD kids who are good friends. Friends that are not overbearing to them. But comrades.
That is what, a child will best do with.

You might want to try this out: http://www.meetup.com/find/?keywords=playdates&mcId=c...

At your daughters age most children still tend to play side by side but not together. I have a son who is six and is in 1st grade & he is shy. We live in holt & if you would like a play date just let me know.

Put your little daughter into a drama or dancing class! Almost certainly it will boost her confidence and improve her ability to communicate with her peers. Acting classes, especially, will develop stronger vocal power and speech skills. Check with your kindergarten teacher or perhaps with other parents for referrals to good dance or acting studios. Local talent agencies can help with that too.

I run an acting studio in Royal Oak and there's nothing quite as rewarding as seeing a child's self-assurance and confidence blossom. You may want to check also with local community theaters -- they often offer classes for children.

Good luck!