When there are trust issues... it can make a person do anything to search for "proof" that causes a red flag in us.
So it's hard to say whether is was "right" or "wrong" to do.
Some people are always suspicious even if they shouldn't be...and it's an issue inside them. Some are suspicious because of just cause. That's another issue. Did something your Fiance do cause you to feel suspicious? Or was it just your gut instinct?
You need to decide, for yourself, what is it you want? Someone you can't trust... or someone that provides respect and stability and trust?
Did your Fiance "explain" the "booty call" messages on his phone? If his 32 year old daughter did indeed call him, as he said, it would show up on the "messages received" or the "missed calls" listing on the cell phone.
But REGARDLESS.... this is going to be a "problem" that is not going to go away... there will be continued anger, frustration, communication problems, trust problems, sneaking around, dishonesty, cover-ups, possible lies, confrontation, drama, emotional roller-coasters, and constant suspicion on your part, and a stand-off'ish behavior on the Fiance's part. How can there be trust, for BOTH of you?
If your Fiance is indeed fooling around... well, he will just probably "hide" it more now. BUT, if those phone calls were innocent...then he will be angry that you don't trust him.
Sometimes, in this day and age, women can be very aggressive and go after men they like...thus, making it look like it was the man's fault. I've seen women like this. They want who they want and don't care if he has a family or not. They just go after the guy. So, this can also be the scenario.
BUT, If your suspicions are valid... well, you have to decide what to do with this man. You probably will not trust him again no matter where he goes, no matter who he talks to, and will not trust him with any opposite sex friends.
No matter what the details are or what excuses he gives... the bottom line is that TRUST is not there. Is this what you want to marry? It will not create a stable or happy environment for couples, much less for a child.
REALLY think about this.
How is it going to be SOLVED? THAT is what you should think about. Not whether you looked at his cell phone or not. Look at the bigger picture. How committed is HE to you? Will he go to counseling? If a man is TRULY committed to his relationship...he will do anything to help it and will cooperate. It is human nature....that if someone does not want to lose something... they will go to great lengths to save it or at least try to honor and respect that which they love via words AND actions.
Now, as for you.... is this what you want? Do you REALLY want to commit yourself to this relationship? To him? To the drama and possible deceit that is apparent? Think real hard... you also have a child involved... and you want a positive environment for him, right?
A relationship is a 2-way street, it is reciprocal. Not one sided.
Its not easy I know. But really, think twice.
Take care,
~Susan