I feel your "pain"!!! I also am a SAHM, w/13yr old boy, 4yr old boy, and 3yr old girl. It's very hard for me ,as well, and I have just found that if I take away the most important things from him, it is most effective. It's terrible the attitude my husband and I get from him and it is especially frustrating because we do have younger ones that listen, observe, and learn from him. One time we actually REMOVED his bedroom door-literally!! WOW-that really "hit home" with him! At that age, especially girls, privacy is very important to them and if you take that away, they listen! Give it a try! Also, the my space thing-- same issues- you can actually contact my space and alert them that your child is under age and request that her account be removed-been there done that! That's not to say he doesn't just get another account set up when he goes to his friends' houses, but, at least at home he is not allowed. I am 36 yrs old and feel like I have become my own mother. She was tough on me and now I realize why! I try to take everything I remember from when I was that age(multiply it by about 100 in this millineum!) and give them tough love. I also keep close contact with his teachers via email to monitor what is going on at school. Sometimes they know ALOT more about your child than you think you do. Because in reality, they spend the majority of their time at school-so teachers have a pretty good idea of what kids are up to. The attitude I get from him is sometimes so bad that you just stand there with your mouth dropped to the floor! When he does that , we just tell him when he is ready to change his attitude and act like a respectable kid, then we can talk-or THEN we can do fun things. Or THEN, we can get that special something you have been wanting. I don't tolerate it and sometimes I just send him to his room when the little ones are present. You cant get angry in front of them, it really effects them. I could go on forever with my own personal experiences, but, you have to do what suits you and your daughter. I am just giving you ideas! I wish someone would give me more ideas sometimes, too!!! Good luck! Alyssa