Hi everyone. I am having a problem. I live next door to the devil. This women will not leave us alone. We are good quiet people and we do not know what we did to make her so mad. I would like to have some input as to what to do. Should I say something to her or just continue to ignore her like we have been?
Move S.. Life is too short. Probably her life is miserable and she is jealous. There are a lot of crazies out there and you just happen to live next to one. Good luck.V.
Ask her what you might have done
if nothing then realize that she might be going through something (a loss in the family, sickness) and taking it out on everyone
Hi S., sorry to hear you're having neighbor trouble. I know many people can understand that. What is she doing that is hateful? Some examples might help us give you some advice. However, there are just some people you can never understand why they do the things they do. Bascially, unless she is harrassing you I guess all you can do is ignore her. If she seems approachable though, maybe you could ask her why she seems angry with you? Maybe she had a happy family like yours and then something happened to take it all away? Not that that is an excuse to be mean, but perhaps if you talked to her she could be the type that just wants to vent, and then she might be nicer? I hope you can find a resolution.
I know how you feel. I live next door to a woman who is far beyond being a lazy mother. She doesn't know what her kids are doing roaming the neighborhood and hasn't taught them to respect the property of others. We've had so many issues with them leaving things in our yard or just throwing huge limbs in our yard. Things that we can easily run over and mess up our vehicles. I've talked to her several times and it doesn't work. So I let the police intervene ... since they're throwing limbs at our house & cars.
I'd ask her politely what her problem is. And see if you can get her attitude to change. If not, as long as she's not preventing you and your family and children from enjoying your home and playing outside ... ignore her.
What type of things is she doing to be mean anyway?
I would try being nice to her, If that doesn't work then I would just continue to ignore her and try to make the best of it. Have you tried talking to her yet? If she is harassing you or your kids you can always notify the the police too. Hope things get better for you.
Have you tried talking to her? Bring her over a batch of home-make cookies and see if you can loosen her up some. Maybe she has a ligitimate complaint but doesn't know how to approach you with it. From what I understand, it can't do any more harm to try. I know it would be hard to show such nice gestures to someone who's been so cruel to you but here is a chance to be the better person. Are you a Christian? If so, pray about it. That always works for me.
I wish you the best...
I agree, knowing more of what she is doing would help with the advice I would give.
With what you have said, I would just steer clear of her and be pleasent when you do run into her. Kill her with kindness and don't stoop to her level.
Ask her what it is that makes her act so hateful towards you and yours. And then decide if there is anything to be done about it
Try to get her with kindness...I don't know your situation but what if you baked a pie, had someone watch your kids and went over to her place to "visit". When you feel it's appropriate, ask her if you've done something wrong in a nonconfrontational manner. She may go on the defensive and things will just be worse if she feels like she's being attacked. But if you show her you are really concerned, she may open up. If this doesn't work and she's still mean as the devil, don't be her doormat... chalk it up to her bad manners and go on with your life knowing you tried and she's just mean....but I'd bet you'll find her vulnerability and maybe there is something that really concerns or bothers her and solve it. Good luck, let us know what happens!!!
S.,
Buy a pretty blank card and (I hate this part) apologize to her stating that you and your family are so very sorry for whatever it is that is upsetting her and you wish you can make amends.....tape the envelope to her door and wait to see if she approaches you. (if you can, make a copy of what you write in the card....I would document and copy everything, just in case)
This kinda stuff is easier said than done......I would have a difficult time writing a nice letter, but it might work.
Pam
Depending on what she is doing, I might report her to the police are get a restraining order at least to keep her from contacting me. For now, I would continue to try to ignore her but I know that I probably lose it after awhile so I would probably try to contact the local police and see what they say.
K.
Do you live in Liberty, because you could be describing my street??? LOL. My advice is to not let her get to you, and make your friends elsewhere in the neighborhood. If she is being intrusive or nosy, ask her to mind her own business. If she is breaking the law or making threats, call the police. There is no rule that says you have to be friends with your next door neighbor. We had hopes of that when we moved in, but after I dropped off cookies and was never spoken to again because we had offended our neighbor (the card was generic and non-religious and the cookies were just good old round cookies, not holiday-oreinted), I learned that not everyone can get along. She still drives me nuts from time to time coming in our yard, throwing trash in our yard, letting her kids play in our yard and pick my flowers: but instead of brooding, now I just address the issue as calmly as I can and go on like I don't even know them. WHy make yourself miserable like she is? My other neighbor got in my face and threatened to call the law because my dog got out and ran over to her house to check out her 2 pitbulls that are always barking at her. If someone is stupid and mean enough to get in the face of a pregnant woman and yell and cuss and scream, then she is not worth being nice to in my book. It's really up to you, but I say, live your life and let her have as little influence over you as she can. After all, that's what bullies want- power. Take it away and I think eventually it will just be silences that greet you instead of meanness.
Well I can tell you this I live with my parents in Poinsettia, and my dad lives next the most hatefull woman on earth! I tell you a little about what she does. Well one day she hired this crew to cut her grass and they threw all her junk on to my dad side of the property and my dad was HOTT!!! so he got the push lawn morwer out and thew it back on her side! But I dont want you to be that way. God tells us to do un to other as you others do to you, but I say ignore her just a couple more times and then finalily, just let her have it but in a respectful way! S. C
The devil huh!!! Just keep in mind that karma exists...she'll get hers! In the meantime, since you've tried ignoring her, have you tried asking her what her problem is?
Honestly I would just ignore her. I knew someone that tried talking to a horrible neighbor and the chick wigged out. She started taking pictures of her kids, emailing to the authorities and having DSS or whatever come to the ladies house for false claims. Calling the cops on their little puppy for "attacking" her two large Pitt Bull Dogs. And so on. If she is so bad..I wouldnt want to do anything to make her worse! Just my opinion though...
S., if you are a praying women believe it or not pray for her. If you aren't find someone who is. Matthew 5:44 says to love your enemies, and to pray for those that persecute you. BELIEVE ME when I first read this it was a tuff pill to believe and to swallow. I hope that you aren't angry with me for saying this to you, but vengence is not yours, there is Someone who can do that much better than you or I.
