Knots in Stomach

the knots in your stomach are stress brought on my guilt. Guilt because when in an argument people say things to hurt the other instead of stating what the problem is.

Put the argument out of your head. If you can't talk or communicate with the person - then you really can't have a relationship with them, can you? So if that is not an option - stop.

Stop giving them free rent in your head.
Stop giving them an option in your life.
Stop giving them credit in your life. If they cared about you like you cared about them - then talking and resolving would be an option.

Things that MIGHT help get you out of a funk?
Go walk around the block.
Go work out.
Go write out your feelings in a journal.
Go write a letter to the person and don't send it.
Go type an e-mail to the person and don't send it.

That's a pretty normal physical response to angst, I'm sure a lot of us share it. But if you know the issue is not going to be resolved, then you just have to convince yourself that it's over and done and you arent going to stress on it anymore. Time, I find, usually fixes most things. Things are never as bad as they first appear to be in most cases.
Even if you have to say it out loud to yourself so you can hear yourself close the issue, do it, it really works.
There will be a new issue that takes the old one's place soon enough.
Wasting energy on negative stress is, well, a really big waste.
And you give your power up to it.
Fake a smile, I've heard that when you smile, fake or not, it sets off some stress relieving endorphin action.

I was there last yr ! The woman still does not speak to me...and I should've told her what really happened. I never spoke up. She probably would have said, "Not my kid..." anyway. I was soooo mad that I did not speak up. I didn't do anything wrong. Yet, I had knots for months because I did not have the gutts to say what was on my mind.
Write a letter to this person. Read it. Then, rip it up !
Ask yourself what you learned from this and move on.
Actually, it sounds like you need to "mourn" first.
After a couple weeks, change your inner voice from "useless'" to I am "special" because...
If you remain feeling horrible, go and talk to a therapist. This sounds like it's been a pattern for you for some time. A therapist can work w/ you to find out why this happens.

If you are getting into arguments regularly, become a listener for at least a month. Nobody wins an arguement. Why waste your time and friends?

You know sometimes, over time, we learn to ignore our "gut". That's not a good thing. You know the expression "gut feeling"? It means you should have gone with your first response, idea, plan, etc. Then we rationalize it, add complications and usually it turns out--the GUT feeling was correct.

Usually the best way to get through any feeling of emotion is to stay with it, sit with it, feel it until it's through and gone.

Try that! Good luck!

And remember--there ARE issues with others that can/will never be resolved. And that's OK to. Agree to disagree.

Although it doesn't always work, I try to do something else to distract me and forget about it, if I don't I just feel awful all day.
Good luck to you!