Just a Vent to Go with the "Are You Pregnant Question"

That's an awesome response. Sometimes with jerks, the only way to shut them up is to one-up them. They make some awkward, thinly veiled comment about "wow you must have a lot of sex", and instead of shrinking away you step right up and say "yup, tons!" I love it.

I had a boss ask me right after I was married, if I was going to be less focused on my job now. I responded "nope, now I just want to spend all day barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen!" and he never made another sexist comment to me again. :D

LOL! Thats funny. My friends tell me Im nuts for having 3 kids, never strangers though. I just laugh and tell my friends I KNOW im crazy. ;)

I understand exactly what you mean. Somewhere in time it became "expected" that if you had less than 3 kids, it was assumed you'd have another, but don't dare go over 3 or you're considered "crazy" or whatever. I experienced this a lot when I was pregnant with my fourth, especially since my third was only 9 months old when I became pregnant. My own grandmother (who birthed and raised 4 kids) even asked me that same stupid question...my answer..."yes, I know exactly what causes it." Her next question..."well are you going to quit doing it?" My response..."Did you stop when you figured it out?" Silence.

I may use your response in the future! It made me smile.

I feel as long as I can feed, cloth and educate my young, it is nobody's business how many children I have.

Well I'm sorry that people are being so rude. I have to say I have never had anyone say anything like that to me. but I don't have 10 kids or anything. I have 2 and i'm 24 weeks along with my third. So maybe it's just cause I don't have that many? I don't know I think sometimes we are just more emotional than normal because we are pregnant. Like even though that man offended you....he probably was just joking and trying to be funny. And who cares what anyone else thinks. you and your hubby can have as many kids as you want.

Oh hon, I think you need to perfect your "F YOU" face!
Not many people made comments to me when I was pregnant. I think I just looked that pissed off the whole time that people were afraid to talk to me.

Practice in the mirror! LOL!

I only have 1 child. I'm happy having 1 child. I can't imagine having enough energy to have 3, but I think it's rediculous to comment on that - other than "how do you find the energy?" LOL! So as mom of 1, I LOVE your answer - keep giving it, and if I ever hear someone say that to someone, I may give it to them also :)

hahhaha! For all of us who have gone(and are going) through this- THANK YOU!!!! what a great response! I am currently pregnant with #6 and everyone thinks they have the original comment of "don't you know what causes that?"
Anyway, good luck!
~C.

Good response! I used to tell people that we finally HAD figured it out...and were considering getting cable in the bedroom, thanks for the concern :)

LOL!!!! My hubby is from a very a large family and I am quite sick of it too. I mean I already have three and I am badgered about the next one....When is number 4 due or when are you planning on the next one etc from friends and family....Leave me alone!!! Love your response to that guy! Classic.

While I'll likely not have the need to use it, I love your response!

LOL I just want to say to people none of your business!

I think that's a fabulous reply!

I feel like I can't even MENTION having a third without getting a comment from somebody! Thanks for your vent - it made me feel better!!

Sometimes people just don't know what to say but there is a lot of judgment around too - and since no one ever really knows another person's story, judgement is a BAD idea. I love your response! : )

that is funny. i want a third and my family and friends all say i'm crazy and other comments. some people just can't keep their thoughts to themselves. i was raised on "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". good luck, i'm jealous you're having another!!

I have not read the posts but will go back and read. I got those comments alot...but my youngest is 4 now. I tried to not let them bother me. I loved hearing your response to the man. It was a cute and positive response back. People love to hear themselves talk and give advice and comments. Take it all with a grain of salt. As long as you are secure with the situation you are in then no one else's comments should bug you so much. Be a happy mom with your "big brood" and show confidence. People will say all kinds of stuff but always put a positive spin on the remarks. When people used to say to me.."Wow you have your hands full." I used to take as they think I am not handling it well or my kids are unruly. Now I just say politely back, "Yep..and I am loving it!!" or "I wouldn't have it any other way!" with a smile.

Congratulations on 4 kiddos!! That is wonderful!! We were prego with our 4th child and sooo elated but I lost the baby suddenly when approaching my 5th month. I would give anything to have someone say "Wow you are pregnant again?!!" Enjoy your 4 and don't let strangers get under your skin. I bet your hubby loved your comeback to the passerby...I will have to remember that one to pass on to friends in that situation.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. My sister has 10. I ALWAYS get "is she crazy?" I'm so sad about this comment, I often don't even mention how many kids she has. I have 1boy, my oldest sister has 1girl and 2 step-sons, my other 2 siblings are not going to have any kids. I have even heard people tell me, "you're family is like rabbits" and such things. I don't think they know anything about my family!!!! It's so frustrating. My youngest sister, in fact, is vegan and has on a profile on-line that her goal in life is to leave very little impact on the planet. Yet, she and all the rest of us are called rabbits.
Here's a good one. My sister who has the 10 children said that a woman once told her "You should put some condoms in your shopping cart." (She probably had 4 kids at the time.)
My niece was just learning about pregnancy and said "Is she having a baby or is she just fat?" hahaha This is the one and only time I've ever heard of anything mean coming our of this girl's mouth. She was 2 maybe or 3 - very young. She's always been super witty though and SMART! haha I wonder now if she knew what she was saying.
Then, of course, the lady said my sister's kids were so rude, but inside my sister was loving it.
I could go on forever, but one last thing. Just try to be lighthearted about it. Those people are rude, busy bodies. My sister and I laughed before about making t-shirts for her family that say, "no twins", "yes, we have a tv", "we drive a van", etc. So, they could answer all the questions before they were asked.

On the flip side, I'm a mom that never gave birth, but am helping to raise my hubby's sons and people always ask me why I never had any of my own. Once again, nobody's business, but some people just want to talk...luckily I don't get offended easily.

I loved your response! Made me laugh.

And thank you, Chantal, you took the words right out of my mouth! :)