How to Respond to "Oh, ANOTHER Girl? Maybe the Next Will Be a Boy!"

my aunt, who has six girls, used to tell people, "Well, the doctors just keep knocking the peckers off the smart ones, what's a girl to do?" that shut people up fast.

People can really say some dumb things. Next time you get that kind of comment - lean in and whisper - "oh, you didn't know? Hubby only has one testicle so we can only produce girls." That should keep them scratching their heads for a while. PS - I'm the third of three girls and I don't think my parents were terribly disappointed.

I love the reponse of mommyof3lilone's husband... "it never mattered to us"
I think that is a classy reponse that should make those making those rude comments think twice.

You could shock them back by saying, "Thank goodness I'm not having a nasty little boy!" Then walk away.

Of course I'm joking. I have boys and love them to pieces, but I get comments all the time about how I must be so sad about not having a girl. I'm not sad at all. I'm thankful for my boys, and I enjoy spending time with my nieces. Some people just don't think before they speak. Congratulations on your pregnancy! :)

Geez Louise! People can be sooooo inappropriate. People said the same to us at the announcement of our second daughter and my husband always laughed and said we'd have fun trying! My husband told me after our second daughter was born that he could have 10 girls! God gives exactly what we need!

Congratulations!
M.

I have two boys, and I'm 41. Shop is closed! However, we still constantly get the "You're not going to try for a girl?!" and my personal fave, "Oh, you must hate not being able to buy cute girl clothes!" What? I am shocked by how many people say that! I happen to love little boy clothes! I usually just say I'm thankful to have healthy children. If pressed (because this is true) I will say, "I always felt like I would have boys, and I think I'm a better boy mom." Craft your own responses about how you are delighted with your three girls, because unfortunately it's not going to stop! Just like people commenting on pregnant or supposedly pregnant bellies - there are some real "non-thinkers" out there!

I have four girls. I used to get it a lot. Now that my youngest is 7 it happens less. I get the " i guess you gave up" comments. I dont let it get to me. GIrls are fun :)

I know 2 women who had 4 boys each because after #1, they both wanted a girl. They finally decided they were not going to have a girl.The people never try to annoy them, but I am sure it is annoying, especially when strangers comment.

I was sometimes annoyed and sometimes amused, depending on my day. We have three boys. Sometimes people I care about joke that we can keep trying for a girl, and I just smile and shrug. Other times (if it is someone I am finding annoying at the time) I inform them that each of my children was wanted specifically on the basis of being a child, not in the hopes of a specific gender, and if we choose to have any more children it will be because we want another child, not because we want a boy or a girl. I love my three boys and if we do have any more kids, I'll be thrilled if they are all boys, just as I will be thrilled if they are all girls, or some combination of the two. Some days I think it would be fun to have a daughter, but I never think of future children in terms of a specific hoped-for gender.

Incidently, I'm one of three girls between my parents' marriage to each other, and my dad had three daughters and one son with his first wife, so out of 7 children he only had ONE boy. =)

People are not very smart sometimes.
I don't think it matters what you have...people will find some insensitive comment to make.
I have 1 of each.
People like to tell me I have "the perfect family". And sure I do-but they would be perfect no matter what gender my children are.
In my heart I know I want at least 1 more child. DH does too.
So when people imply that we shouldn't add any more to our family it really irks me. What the heck do they know?
You are blessed, Mama!
Congrats on your new girl! I think that's awesome!

Tell them to wake up and join the 21st century. Women can now inherit and own property; they are no longer property.

Yes, when I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd boy people started asking me when we were going to try for a girl. I was still pregnant with #2! I just told them "Let's see how this one goes." He turned out to be horribly colicky, almost as bad as his older brother who was off the charts colicky. That stopped the questions! I would either just ignore it or come up with a witty response. Another option is to lie and tell people you didn't find out the gender (obviously that's too late for some of them, but for those who don't know yet). Also, I find it very useful in many ways to have the same gender--you can recycle toys, clothes and sports gear. You can throw them in the same bed in a hotel room when one of them is a teenager. Congrats on your soon to be new addition.

Three best friends for life!!! How can you go wrong with that? Congratulations!!!

I have three boys. I'm sure if I had ten children they would all be boys. I stopped taking any notice of the comments a long time ago. I mean, whaddya going to do about it? You can't really pick and choose can you!

OMG...Wendy H and Angela G made me laugh SO hard!!! I was laughing so hard at Angela's I could barely tell me husband what I was laughing at!! Too funny! Thanks for the belly laugh!

I don't have much to add. I would just say something along the lines of "no way! I'm thrilled to have 3 girls, they'll have each other as best friends their whole life!".

We have 2 girls and both my husband and I are thrilled to have them. He's very content to stay at just having the 2 girls and not "go for the boy". Our family is perfect just the way it is...just as yours all be with 3 girls!

Congratulations on baby #3!

After daughter #3 was born, an older lady from across the street (and also the small-town gossip) came over and said... "Surely you're not going to try again for a boy?"

Uh... who was trying (#3 was a gift), and was it any of her business? (I say I had 2 gifts, and 2 requests... #1 was a gift, #2 was a request, #3 was a gift, and #4 was a request... we didn't talk about "accidents vs planned".)

I like a friend's response in cases like that... she had 2 boys, a girl, and 2 boys... She just said, "I guess God gave me what He felt I could handle best!"

(btw... we did get the boy.... it wasn't because we were TRYING for the boy... 5 years later, we decided it was time for #4... and did get the boy. We would have been just as thrilled if it had been another girl, though.)

"yeah hopefully that trend will keep going!"

i totally wanted 3 girls

Well, you don't get to pick 'em, do you? I truly think people are meant to have the children they have. I always thought I'd have two girls and a boy. I ended up with one girl and two boys. I couldn't be happier. Each one of my children was meant to be in our family and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Oh C.!!! I guess I would say "nope, not trying for that boy - just having fun!!!"

My boys watched Forrest Gump today - so I would love to say something from the movie - it was witty!!! But there's nothing there that applies...

I'll have to ask my sister....she's good at comebacks!!

I had three boys first (then three girls). I got that a lot. I would just smile and tell them that I am delighted. If they ask if the next one will be a boy, I'd say, "Wouldn't that be fun?" or something else light. People do say stupid things. I bet they beat themselves up about it later also. LOL I know I have!

I have eight sisters. There are nine girls total (me included). We heard comments like that all the time. It was amusing but got old. Everyone felt sorry for my dad. I think a quick response like, "We love our girls and would be perfectly happy if that is all we're ever blessed with" is a good response.

Your girls will begin to notice the comments as they get older. It might not bother them ever...or it might end up bothering them. I think the way the parent responds is more important than what anyone else says. My mom always claimed perfection in having all girls...hehe.

Now, me as a mom, I have five kids. We just had our 4th girl two weeks ago. So, we have four girls and one boy (our son was our 2nd). We get a lot of comments about how people feel sorry for our son that he's the only boy. They say it teasingly. I tell them that he's the perfect brother for all sisters. And he is! He does wish he had a brother, but he would never trade in any of his sisters. We wouldn't either.

My only suggestion is to try to not let it bother you too much. You don't need the burden of that frustration. Just think of a good response that lets people know you love your girls, as well as lets your girls know you love them and feel just fine you have no sons.

I only have one other and when people hear it's a boy they get so excited.. like what, having a girl would be bad?? I'd never assume to know what other people would want! It's rude!

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Those folks are simply projecting the thoughts they'd have over another child of the same gender. You're under no obligation to adopt their point of view. You could either just let it go, or tell them you're happy to be blessed with a third girl. They have a right to their preferences, and you have a right to yours. It's not an "either/or" proposition, is it?

I can see why you'd be annoyed, but I think for some people they're just trying to have conversation and maybe just aren't great at thinking of what they should say next...it's almost like that's the "expected" response since you hear it so much. Try to just take it in stride and respond like you said here, "we're blessed to be having a girl!" most people will get the hint.

I have 4 boys and people ask me all the time if we're going to keep trying for a girl. I'm past the point of it irritating me and just say "no, nature's spoken loud and clear girls aren't in our future."

Tell them "Actually we're thrilled for a girl and really, we're just happy the baby is healthy." I think people assume you are disappointed and are trying to help.

LMAO at cooking mom's answer!

If it were me I would say, "This is our last child and I am completely thrilled it's another girl." that should shut them up.

Or if you are feeling a little spunky, sigh really loud and say, "To tell you the truth I am hoping for a hermaphrodite so we can just make her a boy from the get go, the we won't keep having to have kids to get a boy."

or "No, boys suck." (not really I have a nephew I adore, but you know what I mean)

I also am pregnant with my third girl. I always preface my announcement with "we are sticking to what we do best!" or something along those lines. I have also told people that I wouldn't know what to do with a boy. I joked before we found out that if we had a boy we may have to dress him in pink and dresses until he turned 2 and then tell everyone "just kidding" he's a boy! I wouldn't let it bother you too much, some people just really don't know what to say, or don't think before they speak. I am also one of 3 girls and it is amazing! I am not sad at all to not have a boy. Although maybe my number 4 will be boy...but then we will have to have another. Can't have just one boy with all those girls! LOL :) Congrats and enjoy your 3 beautiful girls!!!

One of my worst comments when I told people we were having a third girl came from my own cousin who at the time had two girls of her own: "Oh no! I'm so SORRY!" I think I responded with, "Sorry? Sorry for what? We're thrilled we're having another BABY."

When people would make such asinine comments like, "Hardy har har, when are you gonna try for that boy? Your poor husband!" I learned nothing said it better than a serious deadpan stare that seethed, "I can't believe you said that out loud" from every pore. You can say a lot without saying anything at all.

I used to get comments like that all the time. I have three girls, and when I was pregnant with my last one people would always ask me if I was trying for a boy. I always said nope, just a baby.

I have 3 girls and wouldn't trade them for the world....and neither would my husband! He loves and adores his girls and has never once mentioned missing out on a son.

I just always told people that we were happy to have another girl - stick with what you know ;)

"We weren't trying for a boy"

"I love all my babies the same"

Or just stare at them and say nothing.

I can definitely relate, I have 4 boys. The best answer to anyone that is commenting should be the same, just smile and say "We're happy with what God has blessed us with!"

Our children are our greatest blessings, enjoy them every day ;)

I bet a very blunt.."wow, what an incredibly rude thing to say. You should consider sensitivity training." would do the trick.

I come from a family of 6 girls. Whenever I tell people I get the comment "OH YOUR POOR DAD"... actually he is just fine thanks.
Or the wink wink nudge nudge "they just kept trying for that boy, huh?". Not exactly, they wanted 4 kids and they happened to be all girls. Then they had an oops and were surprised with 2 more girls (twins)... never got the impression my parents were "trying" for anything other than a loving bustling household :)
People can't resist those comments!
Good luck with your girls! I love each and every one of my 5 sisters and we are all so close.

I am due with my third boy in a few weeks and I have gotten it too. It really annoyed me at first bc who were they to assume I was somehow dissatisfied with my SON, hello?? I think some of my responses were, just like 'oh no, three boys and done!' or ' we are great with three boys, I hardly need to buy anything!' or even just an 'oh no, that factory is closed!!' which would usually get a little chuckle out of them and would light heartedly let them know that we are good and they can stop. I don't think I ever got too snotty about it, but I do think it is kind of rude. I mean hasn't anyone ever heard of 'congratulations'? So, congratulations on your third girl, have a great delivery!! :D

I had so many people tell me i "HAD" to have a third one to see if we'd have our boy. That particular take downright offended me. I was always very quick to point out that I was happy to not have to re-stock our clothes or diaper stash, or even our nursery decorations.

My younger one is 8 months old now and I have to say, perhaps the most annoying part is reflecting on all the chatter about having a boy when we were pregnant and now no one talks about it at all. It's like when I'm pregnant you want to plan my next kid but now that the womb is available no one has opinions? :-P

Congratulations to you and yours!

Seriously people are just joking. My sis has three girls and a boy. She keeps telling people to better not screw up her little man, because she's not going to have another 3 girls just for one boy... most people think it's funny.

I think you can lighten up a little.

I feel you on this!!!! I had a girl first(which nobody seem to care,b/c it was our first child) MY second child my mom,husband and his mom was at the dr's office with me when they did a ultra sound and the dr. said "it looks like a girl." My mom was happy and me and my husband didn't care what we had. My mother in law didn't say a word.(made me sad and mad b/c she wanted a grandson.) Our 3rd. our dr. told us it look like another girl. My mother in law made the comment as she was on the phone with me that she told someone that we were having another girl and she said about us about needed a boy to carried the last name on. Needless to say I flipped off on her and told her that we(my husband and I) wanted another child and never matter what we had. I told her I would be happy with all girls or all boys.As long as it was a healthy and had all the finger and toes,it never matter to us. After that she finally laid it off. My relatives put my husband down about how he was going to be in house of all girls and how he needed a son and etc. I guess people would think I would keep trying for "that boy". I would never be that selfish and bring children in this world just to get a boy. I pray to God a few months before I had my 3rd child, and told him it never matter what we had,if this was a girl or boy just let it come out healthy. The day of my delivery with my 3rd we were suprised to find that "she" wasn't a girl but a BOY!! Shock me and my husband and everyone. Some of the same relatives flipped at my husband saying "I bet you happy you got that boy." My husband look at them and said as before,"it never matter". Of course they were pissed b/c my aunt wanted a girl and had 2 boys,and my uncle wanted a boy and had 3 girls. I'm happy that my husband is like me on whatever the sex of kids we had(girls or boys,etc) To many babies are born unhealthy,die,and too many women wants a child so bad and can't have one. I wouldn't worry about the comments people make. Just tell yourself that you happy and blessed to have all these girls and their just jealous. ;)

Best wishes!!

You should be annoyed. These comments are rude but the rudeness isn't intentional in most cases. People just don't know when to keep their opinions to themselves. They do mean well though.

I have had to ignore almost 2 decades of "Why aren't you married yet?" or "Are you going to catch up to your sister? (At the time she had 5 kids before I had my first. They don't ask this any longer because my 1 kid is now 17 and she has 13 kids.)

I'm certain I'll get some rude comments when hubby and I do finally get pregnant since the youngest in the house is 15.

I say ignore them and keep it moving. Your life your business.

I have a little boy and adore him to pieces, but i have some "pink" jealousy because of you:)

not hormonal ppl can be so unintentionaly rude. when they say that just respond in a very excited yet gentle voice "oh i just love all these girls..were so blessed ". If they say something else about having a boy or dont you wish. . . you can respond with something like "nah were good with any gender and arent girls so much fun" or just "were good with what we have/get". CONGRATS ON THREE GIRLS. My mom has two older sisters and although they are several years apart they are the best of friends. I know other people who have all girls and what a dainty, happy, sweet thing it is indeed!

I have four girls :). I'm VERY used to people making comments like that. However, the comments are SO common (like, every new person I meet...), that if I got mad every time it would be entirely impractical and a waste of energy. Besides, the comments don't bother me in the least bit. For one, we actually did want to have a boy in the mix, but God gave us girls. I NEVER knew I'd enjoy girls as much as I do:) I'm happy, and more than secure with our situation. I think people just make comments because it has become this non-thought of formality when you see a family of one gender. It just must be THE thing to say when you see of family like that.

You may be hormonal, but I also think that a lot of people nowadays are trained to be outraged at the smallest minute thing. Don't some people seem to look for things to complain about? to be mad at? I'm not saying you particularly, but... hmm, or maybe I'm describing my family life- dang, my girls are SOOOO dramatic:) My house is over-reacter central. It has helped me take EVERYTHING like this very lightly.

And to the moms out there: ARE people inappropriate OR are they just being open and we are being too sensitive?

I have three sweet angels. I always tell people that I always wanted a little girl, and God blessed me with THREE! Sisterhood is a beautiful magical wonder. Our society places such strange ideas into our heads...for instance, we are supposed to have one of each (sex child). They are doing ongoing research involving outcome of the sex of the baby, and apparently they are finding that is does have more to do with the woman than we previously thought, i.e. the environment of the uterus. So, your body is a haven for making girls....Don't feel like you have to feed into other peoples thoughts on your not having a son. I had a moment of sadness thinking I would never mother a son, but it was truly fleeting, and I could not be happier. Yes, you are hormonal, go ahead and tell people that you feel they are being rude, it is a time in life when you can get away with it :) Or respond with, "three girls, isn't that sweet!" Happy pregnancy, labor, and birth to you. Also, I think my husband must have prayed for lots of women in his life, he feels like a King surrounded by all of his ladies-he loves it!

no your not hormonal!! I had 4 boys before we had our girl.

When the second one came also, I got oh that's great you wont have to buy new clothes.... then the third, oh really another boy, are you going to try again for a girl? ( When I would respond this is our last, they would be oh Im sorry, I bet you wish the baby was a girl!) Then with the 4th boy, I got oh Im so sorry Im sure you were hoping for a girl. I guess it wasn't in the cards. ( yeah I was a little disappointed also, but blessed that I have him! I had a very touch and go pregnancy with him up until I delivered)

People just dont also think before opening thier mouth.

Congrats on your girl! :)

I have 2 boys and get that too, or they will ask if we will try for a girl (like that's anyone's business?) Some people don't think, or don't realize they are being rude. I also got a lot of "Wow you are so big" etc, I got really fed up with that!

I would respond with what you said here "we are very blessed to be having another girl" that should shut them up! Try not to let it bother you, I'm sure they aren't trying to be irritating.

Congratulations!

My answer... "I love being a boy mom, I wouldn't know what to do with a girl."

I got this a lot (and still do) after I had my 3rd son. I just ignore them. I also make light that I would not be good with girls. Too much drama for my tastes. I have so many girlfriends with daughters, that I have many "nieces"!

You get what you get and you can't really chose. We are so hung up on "male" children in society, some people just can' help themselves. To the Chinese, I would be a "good wife" because I produced 3 sons. I understand this cultural view, but I don't necessarily agree with it.

I love my boys, but I would be just as happy if they were all girls (well, maybe not... but it's not because I value boys over girls).

Love you babies and ignore everyone else!

LOL! Yes, it's rude but people are probably saying that because for some reason they think you want a boy or they are projecting their own wishes. People can be a bit clueless, and yes we tend to be a bit more sensitive when we are expecting, it's only natural because it IS such a personal thing.

My two general favorites were "Was it planned?" (Really, is that your business?) and from my sister (who I do love and had been trying for 5 years at that point) "That sucks." (no lie). I choose to laugh, not cry - which is sometimes easier said than done.