Just a Quick Question...

I was going to be flippant about this, but I know how frustrating it is. My five year old amazes me with the level of naughtiness she exhibits, completely different from the older three. It makes me doubt my mothering skills and the wisdom of having the last one. But, that being said, most often behavior can be changed when a parent changes their behavior. So I've heard and read, I haven't been successful with it, yet. I got the book, SuperNanny, from 1/2 priced books and it has a LOT of good suggestions. And the chick doesn't even have kids! I was told that with my daughter being as naughty as she is, give her more one on one time, even if it's just a story, catch her doing good, and stay calm. Does he speak well? Sometimes not being able to find the words causes frustration and they act out physically. Encourage him to use them and abruptly take away anything thrown at home the first time. That's not something you should have to repeat and warn about. Neither is hitting, so I give no warning with that, either. It's instantly a time out, then afterwards, we talk about why we don't hit our friends and how it makes our friends feel. Then I don't allow them to move on to a new activity until an apology is forthcoming. Hang in S.. These issues will pass... to make room for new ones... ahhhhh...

Time Outs
Consistancy
Privelages taken away

I know a parent who makes her children they are a little older though stand in the hallway and stare at the wall from anywhere from 5min. to a hour. If they move away or mess around the timer starts all over again. I've never tried this but sounds interesting. It's not physical and works like a charm for my friend.

Time out. Show him you love him, let him know it is not okay. Repeating repeating repeating. Be consistent. If it happens 12 times in a day, do the same thing each time. Make the time out not fun. It is almost harder on you than on him, it is tiresome and sometimes embarrassing but the firmer you are and more consistent the faster it should stop. If it continues at school, and he likes going, don't let him go. Take things away. Good Luck

all the other suggestion may work but don't forget to praise your child when they do something great. whether it be good in the store or watching a program on tv so you can maybe talk on the phone for a few moments. praise is just as important as time outs. just like an adult they need to know when they have been good. hugs are great for that!!!

Hi S.,
Is this child yours?

OK, ........IF he's yours...I would spend more time with him. Have him at your side and ask him to help you out......and CATCH him doing good things...praise him often and hug him a lot. See if that works.....if he's NOT yours...Hmmm.......be glad he's not.

GOOD LUCK!
J. N

I am sure it is a phase, but also I would watch what kind of influnces he has in his life....is he watching violent cartoons or games? He needs to realize between fantasy and reality.
I think spanking also teaches children that hitting, ect is ok.
I love the SuperNanny as well, and I give one warning, sternly tell him that is not ok and if it happens again, time out! Then set aside a chair, wall, ect and set up a timer, minute for his age, and if that still contuines not to work then I take away other privilages!
Thats the only advice I can think of, and yes, he needs postive attention/rewards as well.
Good Luck!