Is This Appropriate?

Hi Shaun,

I would accept it gratefully if it were me! It's a beautiful pattern and a heartfelt sentiment as well. If they hang it, it may change rooms as they get to different stages of their loss. It might not even get hung right away but I can't see why they wouldn't appreciate it and appreciate you for doing it.

M.

Oh i think this is absolutely beautiful! Maybe you could go with the saying:
"some people only dream of angels, we held one in our hands" and then stitch a little butterfly or something next to it.
I like the idea of stitching his/her name too. Good luck!

That is beautiful and yes I think it would be perfect.

It's beautiful. You are a kind person and I'm sure that your brother and his wife will be touched forever by your thoughtfullness.

OMG, that gave me chills... I think it will be a very emotional gift, but certainly appropriate. How thoughtful of you.

Blessings to your family.

I think you could still put the name and birth date on the pattern. My sister lost her preemie daughter at the end of march. She didn't receive a cross stitch (though I WISH I would have thought of it- what I great idea!) but she did receive a necklace charm with a similar photo as the cross stitch with the her daughter's birthday. She also received a photo album that had the baby name and those words, " in our arms for a moment, in our hearts forever" She loved both of these items.

I think the pattern is absolutely perfect and they will love it. My sister would have :)

I think that is perfect, I have never lost a child, but I would be touched if you gave that to me... Sorry for your famlies loss

I thinks it's beautiful!

I'm sorry but I dont know about the picture. I responded yesturday to your post. I think an angel or perhaps a precious moments angel would be more appropriate.. I'm sorry I know it's terrible.. but just looking at that pattern reminds me of the baby that is now cremated. Like I said i'm on my 4th and these posts are bringing back such strong emotions. It's the idea that you can't hold the baby. So I would suggest something that is not baby like.. if that's not confusing.. It's going to be hard for the parents to adapt to the idea emotional & hormonely (for mom) to go thru the steps & process or grieving. I mean her milk in a few days will come in, she'll be a mess. I think anything that will not per say actually remind her of the sight of a baby would be best! I think an angel would be better. I'm sorry I know it's something very kind of you to do. But if you had handed me a pillow with that picture on it when we loss our daughter I think I would loose my marbles.. It's hard for me to even see the box that has all our daughters stuff. & you want something to give the parents that they would like to display not necessarily put away because of the pain of remembering. Good Luck & God Bless You!

Ask them, there is no way to tell if you don't ask. tell them what you want to do for them and if they say no to this keep them in the decision process.

Very nice.

I like this one too.
http://www.stitchery.com/itemdy00.asp?T1=T10088&ref=s...

That sounds very thoughtful and appropriate. Another one that our family likes for things relating to my departed brother is "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."

Yes it's appropriate and a lovely thing for you to do. Too often people avoid mentioning the loss of a premie leaving the parents to cope on their own. You are wonderful to offer them some kind of comfort in this difficult time.