Is There Someone Special That You're Missing This Christmas?

I miss my son, who died Oct, 2010, he was only 14 yrs old. He loved Christmas.
I also miss my mom, who died July 2011, She always made Christmas special for everyone.

Christmas will never be the same again for my family.

I am missing my biological brother from time to time.. he died in '04 at the age of 41 from an enlarged heart.. Sadly, he began drinking since the age of about 8 years.. he was so funny, artistic and creative.. When I think of all that potential lost.. that is what really makes me sad.. knowing it didn't need to be this way.... His birthday happens to be today... Happy Birthday Matthew!!

My father. He also passed about 6 years ago. His birthday is 12/25. I miss him so verrrry much! He was such a kind, gentle man. I have so many special memories - oh gosh, now I'm crying! Christmas is bitter-sweet!

My Mom died Sunday, we buried her yesterday. She was very sick with heart failure and I had been homebound with her for almost 8 months. She is spending the holidays with her baby daughter who was stillborn in 1952, my brother who died in March of 1995 and her parents and siblings who passed years ago. But my children and myself will miss her very much.

Today is my sister's birthday she would have been 52. She passed away 2 yrs ago 2 months shy of her 50th birthday of kidney cancer.
This Christmas is exceptionally hard! I lost my husband 3 months ago.
I am trying. I keep a good bluff going at work and around most people. But dang it I really do not want to do any of it. I have done pitiful at buying gifts. I have gotten the kids a few things but definitely not what they are used to.
I am so ready for a good year!! I am not sure how much longer I can keep the faking till I make it, if the make it doesn't get here quick!!! No I will keep going, it just sucks!!
Thanks alot!! Here I am at work trying to hide the tears!!! Just kidding. Thanks for letting me vent!!
Blessings
D.

I lost my mom to a drunk driver in December, 14 years ago. I miss her all the time. My dad died this August, so this will be our first Christmas without either of my parents. It is a time of remembrance, along with joy.

First Christmas in 11 years without MollyDog sleeping under the tree.

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Sorry bout your stepdad.

Reading all of these posts makes me so sad, but sometimes it's helpful to share.

My father-in-law died about a month ago, and we all miss him.

Also, it seems a bit wrong to mention this, but the same week that FIL died, our 18 year old dog died, and she was my dog. I miss her so much this time of year. She was always right by my side, and I keep looking for her. We have another dog that I love, but I sure miss my old girl.

I also miss my dad. He died in January 7 years ago. It was very sudden. He just went to sleep and never woke up, so I didn't get to say good-bye. I think about him every day.

We are a very Christmas-y family, so joy is all around, but I have moments of wishing those we've lost could be here with us.

I'm hoping all of those experiencing loss and sadness find peace and joy this holiday season.

Both of my parents. My Mom would be so excited to see all her great-grandkids (all born after she died). My Dad was very close to my daughter, and her son carries his name. My husband's parents are both gone too, and I find it pretty sad that my 10 year old doesn't have any grandparents at all to spoil him on Christmas.

i miss my mom. there is an ocean between us so i won't be able to see her.
i miss my sister who is days (or hopefully weeks) before delivering her triplets. i wish i were there for her to help her as she enters motherhood full force.
i miss my home.
but i always buckle up, put a smile on my face and celebrate the best holiday there is. Merry Christmas to everyone.

I miss my older brother who passed away over 5 years ago, before I settled down and started a family. I wish he would have met my husband and son. O. day when my son is old enough I will tell him about his uncle.

Oh, this made me sad and I know that was not your intent.

I miss my Granny. She was great, she loved this time of year, she made us all feel special, she would have loved to meet my daughter who was born after she passed.

I miss my dog who passed this summer. She was always willing to wear a Christmas hat and pose with the kids.

I miss my aunt who passed away a year ago at a very young age.

I miss my Pawpaw and and my husbands Pawpaw.

I miss my Mawmaw who though still with us physically has mostly left us mentally.

I am however thankful and grateful for the wonderful friends and family that I do have left here and that the O. person that I did not speak to for over a year well we have been slowly and tentatively working on mending bridges as I have missed her, but also still hurt too.

This will be the second year celebrating the holidays after my dad passed away in his sleep. No worning signs at all ;( He was very close to my eldest 6 yrs old and she struggles a lot with his passing :(

As a lot of you know, my wife is on here from time to time. I'm gonna answer for her only because this has come up over the last few days. She is missing her mom like crazy, she passed Sept. '08. My wife is having her moments with it.

I lost my mom 4 yrs ago. I had just started a new job and couldnt go home for Christmas. It didn't seem like a big deal at the time. She died a month later. I really regreted not going home for Christmas that yr. I get a little sad and guilty when I think about it. Now, I make Christmas a big, huge, giant deal! I make Christmas completely unmissable at my house. Miss You mom.

I miss my grandparents (deceased). I also miss "my" family. They all live at least 12 hours away.

The 2000-2010 decade was very rough for my family. We are a very close family and lost:

my grandma
2 uncles
my grandma's brother and SIL
my little cousin
several close family members, ranging in age from 5-36 yrs old

There is also a big rift between my mom, 3 of her sisters, and my uncle's family due to some choices O. of his daughters has made in her life and my mom and aunts' refusal to condone her behaviors. It makes me sick that they are not doing anything to reconcile O. another, especially since my uncle's wife has Parkinson's disease, which my grandpa was afflicted with, and I know that my uncle could use all the help he can with her so that she doesn't have to move to a nursing home.

My mom! She's alive, we're on good terms, but her home is not "conducive" to us all staying there, and we've told her she will have a paid for plane ticket here anytime she wants.....but she's got issues that make it difficult for her to leave (too many damn animals--who will feed them? not enough vacation days, anxiety disorder, etc, etc). It makes me sad. She should be here with us so she can get loved on, and so she can play with the boys. But, we sent her presents by mail and we will skype her on Christmas day.

I'm totally missing my grandparents, my grandma died in 2001 at 65, from C.O.P.D. My grandpa died in 2007 at 86, from natural causes. I just had my first child in April and I would have loved for his great grandparents to have met him. I've been a little depressed about it lately, especially with the holiday season upon us. It just makes me reminisce how Christmas was with them around:(

wish my mom was here, but she can't make it this year. miss my cat that passed away jan this year and we had her for 17 years.

My Mama (my grandma on my mom's side), she raised me until I was 9 years old. I always miss her the most on holidays and her birthday even though I hadn't lived with her since I was nine and she was in another country. She passed away a couple of years ago.

My grandfather who passed away the Wednesday after Easter. He would have been 93 this November. His birthday was the day after my daughter's so they always shared their birthday cake. It was her wish for his name to still be on the cake this year and it was.

Good question, Denise. Wishing you peace and healing this holiday season.

My sister just broke it off with her boyfriend. Our family adores him because he's a great person...but my sis questioned if he was right for her. Sucks that she did this before Christmas because we're caught in the middle.

Oh so many, including special pets that are no longer here...My stepfather passed away in May this year so that will be a big hole in my heart. I still put up the last Christmas card I received from my granma who passed away in 1990, my younger brother was lost to a homicide right before Thanksgiving 1999, he was planning on spending the New Millenium Year with us when we were living on Catalina Island, CA that O. is/was devastating.

On the bright side my children who are spread out over the country are all healthy & enjoying the holidays with their 'other' families & tho' I will miss them we will be in touch & my heart is warm knowing they are with loved ones.

My mom is living close by but 7 hrs. by car & finances won't allow me to go & pick her up...she won't be having a great holiday...I wish for a Christmas miracle to have her here...

Best of Joy to you & yours!

I miss O. of my dear friends that died my junior year of high school on Christmas night.

my pop pop died when I was 8 on New Years Day, I lived with him til then and I still miss him at times.

Thanks for asking...I really miss my paternal grandmother, who was like a second mother to me. She passed away the year I was married, so she never got to meet my daughter...all she wanted was for me to have a baby. At O. point, even though she was Italian and very Catholic, she told me it would be ok for me to have a child without being married (at this point I was 25 and way too busy dating and being single in the big city). But that always made me laugh!

My daughter reminds me so much of her: strong-willed, quick-witted, and knows her way around the kitchen...So while I miss her terribly, I feel she is near in a way. My daughter refers to her in converstion, though they never met, i.e. "That is so like Alvera," or "What would Alvera think about that?"
Some people might find that odd, but I find it immensely comforting...

I miss my mother. She passed away this past january. I miss her so much, it seems almost unreal. I feel like she is waiting somewhere for me. My dad passed 9 years ago and i am really miss him more this year too. I share my grief alone. It seems like people dont really care. I feel so alone. Love you mom.

My 5 Year old daughter, Charlotte.

Y,N,Y,N,N-but thank you for asking!

My grandparents and uncle.

I lost my O. grandma 7 years ago right before mothers day.

Then 4 years ago I lost my uncle in a motorcycle accident ( they induced my son so I could attend the funeral)

3 years ago my grandma passed on the 15th of Dec ( she is the O. I have the hardest with, when it comes to Christmas) then 3 months later my grandpa passed away

I miss my dad, Denise. Funny that you ask this - just today, my mom turned on a tape of him singing and me playing the piano. We all stopped what we were doing and listened, with tears in our eyes. So precious!

Dawn

What a great question for many of us to release. My sister passed away 2 yrs. ago at a young age. She was not only my sister, but truly a best friend. I also just moved to PA from TX and I miss all my family and I have a 14yr. old daughter that I will not be sharing for the first time part of Christmas day. The Holidays sure do make it tougher on all of us that have loved ones away. Try to keep your heads up as those around us will need our strength to have a wonderful day!

My grandpap, known lovingly to his great-grandkids as Pappy 2, passed away on December 4th. He was a wonderful man, husband, father, grandfather, and great-grandfather. My son adored him. So yes, we'll certainly be missing him this year, and in the years to come.