Is She a Control Freak or Snotty??

My step-cousin and I have been on again off again through the years. When we were younger we played well. Our families both moved away. We got married and had our babies. She divorced and went out and found herself pregnant with her other two children. I happen to be pregnant too. It was great to have us go through this together. Long story short while she was a single mother my husband and I went and helped her get wood for the winter, and hung out with her during the holidays and birthdays. Her ex-husband came back into their lives, made her quit her job (it was part of the fall out) he started his own business and is making out very well. Yeah!! She has her family back, and he told her to give her baby his last name. She is blessed.
Our children are now 5 yrs old and in kindergarten. We went to dinner at their house last night, bring your own meat. OK I thought that works. In addition to our portion of meat, I brought over some fresh veggies from the garden, peeled them at her house and placed them in one of her bowls. Went and sat down to visit with the rest of the group, and she is like, “Will someone come grate the cheese? Well I had just propped up the recliner chair and could not get it back down. I am trying really hard, she is laughing at me, and he daughter said when I was pregnant I could not get out either. My husband tried it, and said he was afraid to break it, but he got it. The other ladies just sat there and did not say a thing. My cousin ended up grating the cheese. Then my kids were in her son’s room, and they knocked down the blanket off his window. She is like my son can’t sleep with any light what so ever so we place that up there, and your kids just knocked it down. Opps I thought! Then my 5 yr old son asked for a toy they played with last time, and she replied that she put it up. Then she went on at dinner to complain that the neighbor kids were all ways stealing her son’s Disney Cars cars. Then she went on to say she was selling her son’s play set, that was in great shape and getting a wooden one and building a sand box around it. Myself and the other ladies were all happy for her. We went in the house and started watching this J-Lo movie (one where she wants to have a baby and has found out she has twins) got us mommy’s talking about our baby war stories of delivery ect great conversation during the movie. Then her 20 yr old daughter turns it to her Bad Girls show and her mother tells her change it back, but she does not. I just tell my 13 yr old to go outside and tell dad we need to go, while I get your brother and sister. I am thinking wow…what a selfish family.

FYI:
Another time she invited us over for a meal, she asked us to bring something (I can’t remember the item) and she did not hang up. I heard her say, “Oh good I am tired of your dad and I always paying for everything!”