E.W.
M.,
First of all, get the room mate out. That is one of the problems. Secondly, find a babysitter and the two of you go out somewhere and have a long heart to heart talk. Tell him your needs and listen to his. Try to come up with a comprimise. If that doesn't work, then try councilling. If he is willing to save your marraige, he will at least think about it. Being a fireman is one of the toughest jobs. I have several family members in Chicago that are in the Chicago Fire department. They can easily get depressed with what they have to see and do. I don't know how that is in your area, but most departments will offer councilling help to thier members who can't seem to come to terms with what they have to see and do on thier jobs. That may be another option for him. As far as you go, try talking and listening. Listening is the key word here, for both of you. If either one of you is not willing to listen to the other, then you have to start from scratch with councilling. I wish you the best of luck and hope that things turn out for you and your husband. Especially for your two wonderful children, they need both of you and it is up to both of you to do what ever you can to make it work.
E.