In-law Advice

You don't!! That was easy---well, not really.
You should not tell your MIL anything about this. Your HUSBAND has to talk to his mother.

"Mom, I know you are excited about helping us and we would love your help. But the rest of the family will have to come down to visit later after L. and the baby are home, healthy and settled. We will plan a celebration later that the whole family can come down for, but for delivery, Mom, I am asking only YOU to come down and help while we are at the hospital."

That should do it.

you are not in any way being unreasonable. is she nuts? Tell her you can't wait to see her and you're looking forward tot he visit - but with a new baby to come home there's just no way you can have so many people at the house while your toddler needs proper sleep, restful calm days, etc. Say that you're really looking forward to your toddler and her developing a deep relationship with his grandma. Tel her that you've already thought up things they can do together - and give examples. Explain that it would just be too much at one time - and ask - can you look up reasonably priced hotels for your SIL's?

You MIL may really enjoy these visits - I would love to be around all my sisters and their kids etc - but would never ever assume the invitation extends to them.

As for who should tell MIL - although it is your hsuband's job, my husband is not nearly as good a communicator as I am - so I would prefer to have the conversation to make sure it was communicated the way I wanted it to come across.

Good luck!

Just tell her "M., I would prefer to have you alone come and stay with toddler until the new baby is born, then everyone can come and see the baby afterwards." Ask her why she brings everyone when they come. It seem like they are either a very close knit family or your MIL doesn't like traveling alone.

Can you just be honest with her and tell her that you're going to need her but you feel the extra people with the new baby will just be too much activity and confusion?
I'm a little confused because your question started out with the situation at the birth, and now it's that they're there every month?
I think your hubby needs to decide that along with you for future visits.
Surely she will understand the need to keeping the house low-key when the new baby arrives! Good luck & Congrats!

How is it possible for 7 extra people to sleep in your rather "small house," as you said??? How is there even room for them?

The main issue is the humungous nerve of your MIL!!! Have you husband call her TODAY and tell her that his sisters and their children must stay at a hotel. End of discussion. Have your husband make sure that this is not open for negotiation, that the answer is no. How insane!! In-laws can be so coo-coo psycho! Scary!

Tell her they are all welcome but they have to get a hotel. Explain you would not mind her being there with you but all the extra people is just more work for you and stress on you and you guys do not want that with a new baby. If she doesn't understand, tell her that she and the family can come in a few months once the baby is older (and still get a hotel room). 7 people in your house is a lot even when you are not expecting a baby! I'm sure they just want to be around to help and make things easier but if it won't be that way for you, tell her!

This is completely inappropriate and inconsiderate. If I were in your shoes, I would have a chat with your husband and let him know that you are not comfortable with the arrangements. He can then contact his mother and sisters and basicaly let them know that they either need to spread-out their visits or stay at a hotel. I would phrase it as...

"I know that you are all as excited as we are with the new baby and we appreciate your help, but we don't have the space to have everyone stay with us. Talk with (sisters) and see if they would rather come separately to meet their new niece/nephew or would you like me to give you the number of a hotel nearby?"

If you are able, you could even offer to pay for some of the hotel bill.

Be honest. Tell her that you welcome visiting family but are not comfortable having a house full of people (even though it is family) when you are not home. Ask her to please come alone when you have your baby and the others can come visit (not stay over) once you are home.

We lived as a family of 5 in a 1000 square foot house for 3 years while we were paying down debt and saving to build the house we now live in. My husband's mother came for 2 weeks at a time when she came. Both times we had huge blow out fights. With a house that tiny and a MIL who expects everyone to say how high when she says jump, made a recipe for disaster. The last time she came out for two weeks, she left after 1. It was too much for everyone. And I honestly did not feel bad about it. I was upset because my husband made it out to be all my fault, but I as glad to have my family back in our tiny space. You are not being ridiculous. I don't know how you go about getting them out nicely though. The last time my MIL came to visit she came on a Thursday night and left on a Monday night - that was MORE than enough time. Did I mention she came up last minute the same weekend my husband and I were set to go away on our only weekend alone EVER??

i would tell her that only she (MIL) can stay. the rest need to get a hotel room and not be at your house all ay with noone else there. or tell her that she (MIL) is the only one welcome. period. No one else. tell them after you and the family are settled and on your feet then everyone else can come and visit.

Honestly, it is family, and sometimes you have to do things that make you a little uncomfortable to accommodate family. Do you have someone else who can watch your toddler while you give birth? If so, let mil know that you appreciate all she does, but that so and so will be watching toddler. If not, than just be glad you have someone and try not to stress the rest.

ask your husband to tell his mom that it needs to be JUST her or not at all, he can be very straight forward with her without hurting her feelings AS BAD. with you telling her this, it could mean anger and resentment that she'll hold against you for a while.

Ugh, family lol.
Yes this is totally ridiculous. Tell your husband to tell his mom that your greatly appreciate her coming to stay with your toddler, but bringing that many people is too much for him and YOU when bringing a new baby home. We just went through this with our 2 yr old, when we came ome after two days away and staying away with grandma he had HAD IT. He wanted us, no one else and needed normalcy. I told everyone on the day we came home that we werent taking ANY visitors, our son needed our time. And time to absorb that a new baby was in his home.
Why people dont get that a woman who just gave birth may not feel like hosting tons of visitors is beyond me. I had to put my foot down with my last baby because with my older son it was RIDICULOUS. The visitors never stopped, no one asked they just showed up And people were trying to follow me when I left the room to change diapers and nurse the baby! Hold your ground, this is NOT the time to have those extra people in your home. Congrats on your new baby!