"I Wouldn't Wish That on My Worst Enemy"

Child molesters deserve hell and nothing less. People raise their eyebrows when I say it, but I totally mean it.

I would never wish anyone to lose a child, even through miscarriage.
It is just too painful.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schadenfreude

I don't generally wish someone would get hit by a bus...but if it's the karma bus, I admit to feeling a bit of Schadenfreude about it.

There have been certain things - like the loss of a child- that, while I wouldn't wish it on anyone, I have found myself wondering if experiencing that wouldn't give them a bit more empathy toward others who have.

I recently experienced a lot of judgment (by someone who used to be a close friend) about the way my husband and I have "planned" our family - which is a bit of a joke bc our "plans" have amounted to boo, what with two losses and difficulty conceiving. In the same conversation, she mentioned a few times how easy it was for her to get pregnant and how pregnancy was "the easy part", ostensibly bc she made up for it w/such rough deliveries. She knew what all I had been through when we had this conversation. This girl has had a bit of a charmed life, NEVER having to deal with familial, financial difficulty or loss, so I was definitely guilty of feeling that perhaps she wouldn't be so quick to spout off if she had ever been in that position.

I know it took me experiencing some hard things to really "get it" and think before I speak out to others. Maybe that's what it takes to jar us out of our own lives and perspectives.

i not only wish it on my worst enemies, i spellcast it!
:) khairete
wicked S.

Someone's child dying... THAT is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

I truly believe that wishing someone else a dose of misfortune only brings it back upon us.
What I wish for someone else could just as easily happen to me, so I only wish for good things. Even when it comes to people who are of questionable morals and ethics.

That said, I would be lying if I told you I never delighted in some beautiful irony or situations of happenstance.

Recently, a couple of coworkers had to host an event together. One of the coworkers had a terrible attitude and was rude to all of the rest of us. She was furious she was assigned to this task even though it was part of HER job description and not the other woman's. The other woman willingly offered to help her.
Well, they got things set up and Miss Bad Attitude ditched the other woman and left her there by herself. She didn't say anything to the boss or any of the other managers. She just left.
It was later that we found out she got a parking ticket that day. She never had any intention of staying and didn't put enough money in the meter and got a ticket that cost several times more than she got paid for showing up for the brief time she did.

Irony? Karma? Natural consequences? I don't know.
She was also let go the next week for basically abandoning her job.
I just know I didn't feel sorry for her about it.

I do hope she finds happiness in other endeavors.

Honestly, I don't wish anything bad on others. It's not worth my time and energy.

That doesn't go without saying that there are some people I feel who could really use a bit of retribution of their own nastiness to learn a lesson. But wish it? No, but I will admit it took me a while to get to this place.

I don't wish bad things happen to people.
But I do wish that any harm they cause comes back to them three fold.
It takes awhile sometimes but I've seen some bullies get what's coming to them.
The universe balances out sooner or later.

NNNNaaaahhh....i don't have enemies. If people don't like me - that's their loss, not mine.

We tell our girls the same thing - doesn't mean you have to be snotty or stuck up - just means that you know your worth and value. That's why we teach them to do unto others as they would have done onto them.

I don't waste my time on people that don't matter.
I've found a couple in my life that just don't matter. So they aren't active in our lives anymore.

Well, I would not wish bad things for people. However, I do believe in Karma for sure. For instance, there is this woman at my work....I stepped in and started helping with a big project that was really a employee morale thing. She is HR and it really IS her job to do this project. The person in her position prior to her DID organize this event. However, this woman dropped the ball and didn't show any enthusiasm at all. SO, I have been doing about 95% of the work on this annual event for the last 4 years. This past week was the first meeting on this event and she was mean, rude, and hateful during the entire meeting. Someone (not me) went to her boss about her crappy attitude. When she found out, she has essentially said that she WILL NOT be part of this event anymore and she just didn't want to do it. Never mind that it really IS her job to begin with.... She has made this difficult for me, but I would not wish bad for her. However, if her annual review came up and her boss was negative because of her crappy attitude and refusal to do parts of her job, then I would NOT feel bad for her. In this case, she has brought it on herself.

Well, wishing...is hoping for something to happen. No, I don't hope for anything bad to happen to anyone I've met. If something bad happens to a bad person, I don't really feel badly. However, that's different then wishing.

Someone you don't give two hoots about and caring if bad luck befalls them are contradictory. If you didn't give two hoots than you would be ambivalent and not care whether they are dead or alive.

Maybe you ought to aim for ambivalence.

There are people out there that I know Karma will take care of it. But yes, I do wish I was able to know before hand so I could get a front row seat. BTW, I have some of the same genes as these people and what they have done to me is far worse than karma can do.

But if you asked them they would say I have all the good luck and they've never gotten a good deal.

You're so funny.
Well if some harm/bad luck came to your worst enemy, so be it. I may not give two hoots if they had bad luck. I think the key word is "wish"ing that bad luck or bad things to happen to someone.

ie: My ex-husband getting hit by a car, eh..... not my problem anymore. But I would never "WISH" that upon him.

added: Karma would be his new wife cheating on him -- so he can know what it felt like to be cheated on (like he did to me). But would I wish that his new wife cheat on him? No.

I suppose I am blessed, then. No one has ever hurt me so badly that I would wish something like the death of a child on them.

Yes, I have wished ill will on some terribly awful people. It's not right, but it's true.

I had an "enemy" in high school. One kid just didn't like me. We were in all the same classes, he a super jock, me just a geek, chorus girl. I hated him. Now I just don't care what happens to him
His niece was killed by a nanny. She was shaken.

Would I wish a girl were to leave him at the altar, yes.
Would I wish he were to lose a lucrative job, sure.
Get many speeding tickets, why not.
Lose his niece, no. No one deserves to lose a child in that way.

I don't wish "bad" on my enemies. Actually I don't have any "actual" enemies. Karma takes care of that all by itself!
Usually nasty people get what they deserve in the end.
And usually they know that, yet they tempt fate by being like a recurring disease, rearing their nasty heads all.the.time.

There are pleanty of people that I would like to remind Karma of ... but my level of 'retribution' and Karma's may not be on the same level. However, here is a recent "yes, You go Karma" moment for me

The lead singer of my fiance's old band was always kind of a jerk to me, thought he could tell me the "rules" of my relationship at shows (be mindful my fiance and I already had that talk) and then once I became preggers kicked my fiance out (only to not be able to replace him and ask him back a few weeks after the baby was born). This cheating sad excuse of a man had a steady girlfriend of 10 years when they fianlly broke it off but still had to "live the rock star life." So anyhow he finally messed up and got a girl preggers, decided to marry her (refused to wed his gf of 10yrs) and they are expecting a GIRL! The ex WAS still a friend (I never understood them) and is now PISSED off and the womanizing, child hater is going to have himself a girl Oh and two step daughters as well! Now, how is THAT for Karma doing its job?