Help Need Advice!!

Hi Sweetie. Well first of all legally he cannot fire you and if he does you can file a grievance. But I have worked for a boss like that and it is horrible. You should really look for other endeavors. You should not be scared of going to work everyday. If money is an issue, I might have something that can help you. Let me know. Take care and good luck!

Hi J.,
I work for Microsoft and have been a manager for quite some time- I am a hiring manager, so I hire new employees, and just recently I hired a woman who told me 10 weeks later that she was ten weeks pregnant. Now, the difference is, I am a woman, (with a darling 2yr. old girl) so I completely understand what's really important in life, and that's family. Now I didn't understand the part your wrote about the 4 dollars, but I also just hired a friend of mine who just told me that she is trying to have another baby. My advice to her, was DO NOT tell anyone until she is 4 to 5 at the very least, months pregnant. You are a woman, you should have pregnancy leave and be able to be paid for that time as well as disability leave which you can use with a doctors note if you wish. I would not worry about it, though it sounds like maybe the root cause of your concern is the fact that pregnant or not, your boss is kind of a hard one. If you are feeling sick at the beginning, or extremely tired, you will have to judge then if it's time to tell him, but you have every right in the world to get pregnant whenever you choose, even if you weren't planning on it. All corporate women have children and return to their jobs without being frowned upon. Don't worry for one minute, you are protected under the law to get pregnant at any point in time while you are employeed and if he ever tried to fire you because of it, make sure you get a good lawyer, because you can take him straight to court. (I am not the suing type and never have been, but anyone with half a brain cell should know that you don't dare fire an employee because she made a decision to have a family) Don't forget as well, that it is so common for this to occur, your same situation as we women only have a certain period of time in our lives where we are childbearing and you are blessed to be someone who has the ability to have children. Whatever you do, don't stress yourself out becuase that's the worst thing you can do for growing baby and be happy and feel celebratory as children are miracles and work is absolutely transitory, meaning it comes and goes. Money comes and goes, and work comes and goes- family is permanent and the VERY MOST IMPORTANT JOB you could ever perform. I understand needing money, but don't feel locked into this job. Maybe you can find a job (even nannying) that understands your position and supports your decision to have another child. Start looking for a comparable job that will give you an environment that you can flourish in. That's my advice. Don't let any man or any job make you think you have done something wrong, or that you are tied to it because you won't be able to find something else. You have many options and make choices that make you happy, it will disemminate to your entire family. Trust me! :)
And congratulations!!

Take care,

S.

Alot of people do not tell family or employers about pregnancy until after the first trimester. That's when I told my boss. Don't worry about showing. IF he even notices, he'll probably just think you are gaining weight.

It is against the law for anyone to be fired due to pregnancy. As a matter of fact, he has the legal obligation to hold your position for you, your hours, and your rate of pay for period of time after you give birth (the laws vary, but when I was was off to have my baby, my boss told me he could guarantee my job with same hours and pay for 90 days). Don't be afraid...he will be violating laws designed to protect women from these types of discriminations...best wishes to you, your family, and the new little one....

The same thing happened to me - i was at my new job for a month and find out i was pregnant - it's none of their bussiness until it gets close to your due date or it's rather ovious that your pregnant. It's agianst the law for them to fire you so if they do sue them and then you won't have to worry about working - but i wouldn't worry about what they think or telling them anytime soon - like i said it's really none of their bussines - good luck!

Hi J.,
It's illegal for your boss to fire you because you are pregnant. That being said, there's no real need to tell him right away unless there is something about your job that could endanger your health or the pregnancy (like if you work with x-ray equipment or something like that - which was my case). If I were you, I'd wait until it was absolutely necessary - at least wait until the doctor's appointment to make sure everything looks normal. That gives you some time to figure out if you want to keep this job in the first place - it sounds like it's a challenge for you. Good luck!

Don't tell your boss that you are pregnant! At least not yet! Hang in there with the job. I worked somewhere before where my boss was really harsh starting up and seemed impatient with me, yet I stuck it out and he ended up being a wonderful mentor and I loved my job. It was just the initial learning curve that I needed to get through first. So, hopefully that is the case with your job! If you've given it a good try for a few months and it's still miserable, then I'd look for another job. Good luck - I hope it works out for you! Oh, and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Ditto with what the other's recommended. I know some women wait 3 months to tell their boss...which some say is the "window" of time after which you know the pregnancy is a sure thing...and out of harms way. I got pregnant once, and only after 6 weeks, I had a miscarriage. At that time, I had wished I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant, yet. Not to worry you... but each woman is different. Yes, though you are newly employed, so that's another thing. Act in good faith as the others said, you can't get fired for being pregnant. Think about it... you have time. Don't feel rushed. Do what you think is best. Or, see what your doctor says. I'm sure he/she encounters this situation a lot. Also discuss with your hubby. But do what you feel is best for your and your situation. Congratulations and blessings to you!
~Susan
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this never happened to me but i was watching the apprentice with donald trump, and they were talking about being pregnant while working, and one of his employees didn't tell him she was pregnant until she was 6 months along, and he said it was good that she didn't because he wouldn't have thought she could do the job the same as she did. If you think you can handle it then don't tell him until you absolutly need to. just don't push yourself too much.

You can't get fired for being preggers. It's against the law. I would wait until after your first appointment. Or at least wait until the new raise goes into effect before you tell him. There is no law that states when you have to tell your boss when you are preggers. Good luck!!!

First of all - do not tell your boss yet. I would wait until the end of the first trimester/beginning of the second to mention it. If you are showing sooner...who cares. He cannot legally care if you are or aren't and you are not required to tell him in any particular time frame.
As for his lack of training ability I would just make sure you get good rest, and do your very best. Write everything down and ask questions if you need to. If you don't understand something ask. You might also want to find out if you can have some conversations with the person who vacated the position before you were hired. If they left on good terms it might be a great alliance for you to have. They may be able to tell you how to do things more clearly than the boss does because they have done the job.
Good luck and hang in there! I suspect once you get the hang of the job it will be fine...and as for the pregnancy thing, I've been exactly in your shoes. The boss wasn't happy to learn of my "condition" because they had asked when they hired me if I planned on starting a family soon (I had just been informed by my docs that I was infertile so I honestly answered "No"). They didn't want to lose another employee to motherhood as their last one had just left for that. In the end they really can't do anything about it. In fact legally they couldn't even ask that question!

J.,
You don't have to tell your boss right now. Just wait till it is obvious - or until you've been there a month or so. He cannot fire you becuase your pregnant. That is discrimination.
Good luck!

This just happened to me. First off (I am a retired employment attorney) they cannot fire you because you are pregnant. Against the law. I was in this situation last year (my son is one month old) and I chose to tell my boss as soon as I learned of the pregnancy as an act of good faith. I don't know whether being pregnant will impact your ability to do your job (i.e., if you have heavy lifting, etc.) but you might consider giving them time to plan. I went to my boss and explained that we had not intended for the pregnancy to happen and that I felt I owed it to her to tell her so she had as much time to plan as possible. She took it amazingly well and was very supportive. That said, not everyone is like that. You will have to make that choice on your own. Just make sure that you keep notes of when you told him, etc. That way, if for any reason they let you go, you can reconstruct what happened time-line wise for an attorney. Most people are very understanding about things like this. Without knowing what you do for a living it is hard to say, but hopefully your boss will be cool. Good luck.

they can not legally fire you for being pregnant. I actually got hired at my current job when I was 3 months pregnant with my second child! if they do fire you, you could sue them stating that they fired you for being pregnant. they really have to watch how they handle this... i think you are safe!