My ex boyfriend lives right down the road from me and I have to pass his house to come home. Every time I go past and see he isn't home I get a knot in my stomach thinking he is with another girl, a girl he found when him and I were together. I know I shouldn't care. I know I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. I tell myself this stuff all the time. But I still get the knot...ugh..How do I get rid of it? I just hate to think he is out having fun with someone else. I wish I could stop thinking this way!!!! Then I get mad at myself for thinking like this because I don't want to be with him. I am not the girl he wants.Some days are better then others. I am angry still and I know he lied maybe that is why I am feeling this way. Thanks.
Thanks everyone..but there is no long way..
True love is when someone loves you and you love them back in the same way. Don't waste you good time in feeling love for someone who won't give you the time of day and probably speaks poorly about you to others.
Ha! I just did this. As in got over it.
2 thoughts just STUCK all of a sudden
1) not being with him relieves me of the responsibility of caring who he screws. :D I don't have to care! He's not betraying me, sharing STDs, lying to me, spending time /money on her instead of me, making a fool of me, using me... none of it! Bwahahahahaaaaa. Neener neener. (I know, mature, right :p) But seriously, WITH me he was doing all that and of course I cared. But. Now. Thank. God. I. Don't. Have. To.
2) Pity. Sheer and abject pity for the poor girl he's effing over. Not just effing, but WILL be effing over.
Whew.
Of course, I do still care that these poor creatures are in my SON's life (ick), but Jerkface is no longer betraying ME. He'd still be screwing around if I were with him, this just a) removes me from the equation so 1 less person he's hurting, and b) also means I am in no way shape or form beholden to HIM. Yuck. Shudder. What an icky thought, being faithful to a man who doesn't reciprocate. :P
It will get better with time. Don't beat yourself up over it.
My ex got with one of my best friends before we were divorced. Got married 2 months after our divorce was final. They bought a house on the edge of town... I had no choice but to drive past his house daily as it was on the only road out of town in that direction. Yes I would would look every time I passed and get pissed when I seen both of their cars there.. or even just her's. Over time it got better.
2 years ago they bought a house 2 blocks from me on the same street. I can stand on my sidewalk and see if they are home or not. I was ticked off about it at first now I don't even give it a second thought as I pass by their house and look to see if they are home or not. Now its just more habit than anything and thankfully with no harsh feelings anymore.
Time was my friend with this... as it will be with you also.
Stay strong girl, you can get passed this!
Look at it this way, L.....
Why let yourself be miserable over someone who doesn't care if you are?
I mean, everyone deserves to be happy...YOU included.
Onward & upward!
Like my grandma used to say about picking a man: "Be choosey, you can find a loser any day of the week."
After all, it's ALL in the choosing. A happy life, that is.
Find another route home ASAP!
Time, L.. Time and perspective that you are the lucky one. Lucky, as in not with him anymore. He was no good for you, and you know it.
Be patient. Listen to books on cassette tapes or CD's on your ride home. Maybe that will help you keep your mind off of it. A little.
Sending you strength~
Dawn
Surround yourself with positive people. Daily affirmations that deserve the best. Been there dated that done!
Is there any way you can take another route? Are you doing your best living your life vs dwelling on the past?
I had negative feelings over a broken engagement for years, even after I was happily married. It really frustrated me because I wanted to move on and be healed. Something that helped a lot was to write a letter to the ex and the girl he left me for and then I burned the letter. I was amazed at how much that helped me move on. Good luck and God bless!
I still do it but what's difficult here us its my husband. We were together since 98 and broke up in 02. We kept in touch and still saw each other but he did his thing and I did as well. We got back together ib jan 06 and were married in may and next week will be 6 yrs. The thing is, all the time we weren't together I know he was clubbing and seeing lots of other people and having fun and even though I broke up with him it drove me crazy! Even now if we are watching tv and see strippers or a club or anything like that it pisses me off! I know its stupid, we are married now but I can't help it! Its natural. I think you need to deal with the end of the relationship and until you can let it go, go the long way around! Best of luck love!
The fastest and easiest way to forget an old man is to get a new one. =)
It hurts hurts hurts hurts hurts!!! But what I realized is alot of men can't deal with the difficult emotions. They run from the hard stuff by staying busy or jumping into another bed. So don't think it's because he's gotten over you so easily, he's just running from his feelings like a little coward. He'll take that baggage into his next relationship and ruin it too.
