Hi All,
I am crying and hiding from my kids while I write this so please bear with any strange run on sentences.
I just received a call from my mom who lives in Florida. She is 66. She was all chipper and told me that two days ago she had a mini stroke. She was in the hospital for observation over night. She said they could not find anything other than her blood pressure was a little elevated. She said they did a CAT scan, MRI and all sorts of tests. She went to her primary doctor after she was released from the hospital and and he reviewed all the tests and did another blood test and said everything was fine. She tells me she feels great. I listened trying to hold back tears. Then I asked her how they knew something was wrong. She said she was reading the paper and laid down for a nap for an hour. When she got up she asked my step-dad when he bought something he bought 3 weeks ago. He said she kept getting up and looking at the clock. He knew something was not right. He called her friend and when she came over they said they needed to take her to the hospital. She said she does not remember all this, but when she was in the hospital she remembers hearing them say they are going to admit her for observation. She said she thought she was dreaming the whole thing. I asked her why I did not get a call and she said she told my step dad not to call me or my brother until they knew what was going on. She then told me when they got home my aunt & uncle were at her house (from MD) waiting for her to get home. They just came to surprise her. Everyone sounded like they were having a party and just enjoying themselves.
Now I am NOT asking anyone for medical advice, so please don't give any. I am still struggling with the sudden loss of my dad from last year, who was only 66. I feel so scared for my mom and honestly for myself and family. My mom has ALWAYS been their for me. We talk every couple of days. My husband, God bless him, said, she told she she is OK and just believe her. I just cannot stop the tears and don't want to tell my daughters. I guess, I am asking, if you pray would you all pray for my mom and that she really is OK?
Thank you!
Thank you everyone for all your support and prayers. It was so nice to be able to just lean on all of you! My husband has been looking into flights so I can take my kids and see her. She told me today she feels good. I agree with so many of you and as one of you said, since I recently lost my dad I am really sensitive to my mom's health and well being. Thank you all again!
Hi P.
I lost my dad last year too. He was only 70. It has made me more sensitive to anything going on with my mom. That may be a factor in how you are feeling. Perhaps if you schedule a trip to visit her soon it would help ease the anxiety.
I hear you, I am in Florida mom is back in Missouri. She found out yesterday that her doc thinks she has breast cancer. She is 55. I'll pray for yours and maybe you can pray for mine.
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I just went through something similar with my mother-in-law... get this we only live 30 mins away from her house AND only 5 minutes away from the hospital she was in. We did not get a call till 2 days after she was released, and she was in for about 2 days. She did not want to worry us and made her hubby promise to NOT call us.
I simple stated, that next time please do call I will not worry but would like to be able to pray and give you support. Of course that just made her tear up, I gave her a hug and made her promise, she said ok.
Anyway that happened a few months ago, very similar to what happend with your mom (at least from the above) and my mother-in-law is doing great. She is not on meds, but is watching what she eats, walking & lift light weights more as her doctor requested. She will have to go in for more frequent check ups.
It is ok to show concern and emotions. Crying is not wrong, you can simple tell others that you were thinking of your mom but glad that she is ok. Your mom and your family will be in my prayers :)
I'm 68. I empathize with you. I've been thru the "small strokes" events with my father and some friends. All of them lived for years afterwards. Your mom did the right thing by going to the hospital and seeing her doctor. Since they found nothing wrong, I'm guessing she didn't actually have a small stroke but a brief spell during which she felt confused. This is called a TIA trans ischemic attack. It's not so serious as a stroke is. In fact it heals its self.
A lot of people call this a small stroke and I suggest that this is what your mother heard because she's not familiar with the term TIA. She knows it's not serious and so they are celebrating.
I know you said no medical info but I urge you to do some research because I think you'll feel much better.
Perhaps this is your first serious event that really brought home the truth that your mother will not always be here. You are rightfully mourning the idea of a future loss. I remember going thru this with my mother. She had open heart surgery and I was scared she'd die. She lived another 10 years and gradually I became used to the idea that she would die and so her death was less painful than my first intense fear that she would die.
It's good to cry. It's good to show feelings to your children. Tell them grandma is sick but she's OK now and that is why you're crying. They don't need the details. They just need to know that it's OK to cry when you have strong feelings.
Oh my gosh, I've got my tears flowing..of course we will say prayers and keep writing whenever you need support or just want to vent.
You bet! Hang in there. (o:
Will pray for you and your family. I am sure that given you just lost your father, any news like this would send anyone in tears and worry. Please know that you are being prayed for, and God will be with you during this time..
I just prayed for God to send you peace.
Prayers are on their way.
In my prayers.
God Bless
P., I want you to know I went through this same thing with my husband about a year and a half ago. There was no evidence of anything wrong or being damaged but the doc's were sure he suffered a TIA. He is completely fine and has no restrictions at all. Funy thing, he doesn't suffer from migraines anymore, so something good came out of the scare! Try not to worry. I know it's easier said than done.
I WILL pray. But why not over-ride your mom and tell your step Dad to call you and let you know WHEN a thing happens, not afterwards? I would be like you, and want to know AS it's happening.
Positive healthy thoughts for you and your family!
:)
Of course - I'll send lots of well wishes her way... and yours too.
P. I wish you & your family strength.
Also let your children be there for you. There is no need to *hide* this from them or your tears, just as you thought there was no need for your mother to hide this (initially) from you. It's important for children to see you in this state so they can learn to show people/family compassion., hugs
P., hang in there. God bless you and you mom! Go there if you can....she will love it, B
I just said a prayer for you and your Mom. God is bigger than our greatest fears, so you can always turn to Him and let Him wrap you in His comfort & love. Peace be with you!
I wish I could tell you what happened to her because then I would know what happened to my dad. Three years ago the same thing happened to him and again four months ago. He has seen so many specialist, no one knows what happened. My dad lost a whole mess of memories including meeting and marrying mom.
The doctors keep saying the same thing, he is in very good health, they don't know what is wrong.
Interesting enough it seems to be tied to blood pressure, every time he has gone in for this he has had high blood pressure but not on his regular physicals.
Like I said, I wish I knew but at least I can tell you over three years later and we still have dad. :)
Oh if they do find something that they can name, could you message me? I would love to have some treatment for my dad. More for me since I am that person that must have a plan.
i know just how you feel. my beloved big daddy is getting up there. he had a quadruple bypass a few years ago. he also tries not to 'bother' us unless he knows there's something we should know. when he called to tell me about the upcoming surgery i answered him calmly but from the opening sentence i was shaking and bawling and it took a while to stop.
my kids weren't very small when it happened, so i didn't need to hide it from them. you probably don't need to hide it from yours either. obviously you don't want them to see you in hysterics, but if you're sad and worried and weepy, those are all emotions they need to know about and learn how to handle.
i'll bet your mom is really okay and that you can believe her. hugs to you!
khairete
S.
I've lost both parents, my mom when I was 19, and my dad a few years ago. I do understand your fears. However, you need to pray for God to prepare your heart for that time when you will face a loss. My mom taught me well, that we will be together again because of what Christ did on the cross. I have held that in my heart for years, and it is a comfort. Your mom may live another 10 or 20 years. Many people have what they call "mini strokes" but live on afterward for a long time. I'll be praying for you and your mom.
