Hello all, I am 8 weeks pregnant with a 22 mos old. These past couple of days I just have being feeling very short tempered. Granted it's the holidays and my family comes into town in two days. But, I would like to be less tempered, it's not helpful to myself, my husband or my babies.
One thing that helps me is to get outside for a few minutes a day and go for a walk. I know this is difficult to work with with a little one and working, but if you can get out even for 10 or 15 minutes and go for a walk, it may help. I think that the combination of fresh air and exercise really help.
Hey J.!
I can relate to you feeling like everything is coming at you so very fast--almost overwhelming, isn't it? : /
Take some encouragement girlfriend, and take a deep breath. Remember, you are should only be concerned about pleasing YOURSELF and your family.
Okay, so you have some family coming in for the Holidays. Are you concerned about your house...there's a difference between a house being "lived in" and being "messy". I assure you that your family will be there to see YOU and NOT your house if that is what is concerning you. If this happens to be your concern, maybe you could call a close friend to help with a little of the cleaning--a friend wouldn't mind helping...if she's a TRUE friend...plus, you KNOW we all have that one room that catches EVERYTHING before company comes--mine is my bedroom! : ) The rest of my house can be gleaming and then I walk into my room at the end of a long day of entertaining and WHAM!
So not to worry my dear J....don't let your temper get the best of you--that's not how you want your child to know you plus it will stress out your new little one on the way--congrats on that!! Remember, you are the example to your child--you want your child to know you as the loving, caring mom that you are! Right?! Right! Plus, your temper can not be good for you and your husband. Remember, take a deep breath and PLAN! If it's the FOOD...ask those that are coming to pitch in a bring a dish..the CLEANING...ask that friend of yours...everything WILL work out--just take it easy--you owe that to yourself and your family....
Merry Christmas J.! Let me know what happened!
S.
Hey J.,
I know how you feel. The best thing that I have found is to take a break. Hand your 22 month old off to daddy or relatives since they are there, take a step out side or lock yourself in the bathroom. tell everyone you need a moment. take a couple of deep breaths and if you need to yell at the top of your lungs. Good luck, remember to breathe.
Hi J.,
It seems like I was there last yr, and unfortunately sometimes even this yr. w/a short fuse! Isn't everyone's at some point? There is nothing like a nice long warm bath, even if you are pregnant...get your hubby to watch your other child and tell him it makes you better for the whole family. I am sure he will understand...OR, if you have family in town, which I DON'T! ...see if they can take your 22 month old for a couple hours and just get some rest or go out and do something just for you to get your mind off of it...We as Moms, don't do that enough...we take care of everyone else's needs and often, somehow forgo our own. Lastly, for myself, I just tell God that I need Him to help me out that I can't do such and such all my own and He always comes to the rescue....Hope this helps! Best Wishes to you.
There are some vitamins for stress. They are vitamin B. This may or may not be something that you can take while pregnant. Ask you doctor and if it is okay give it a shot. It may reduce some of the stress and make you feel more relaxed.
You are only human! But, before you take it out of your small child take a deep breath and try to calm yourself down! Remember the 22 month old is only a baby still learning. You need to take time out for yourself. Relax. Make sure you put the little one to bed early so you can get some rest. Then maybe lay everyone's clothes out for the next day. Get supper ready for a crock pot in the morning & then take you a long bath or shower & lay down & rest
Hi J.,
We all get like this at times and you being pregnant with a little one to boot just doesnt help matters. I am sure that you feel like even when you dont have the little one your not alone because your body is not your own right now. I remember thinking that I would be glad when I could take control of my body again. If it were me I would get a sitter that will either keep your little one at her house or maybe take him/her to the park and you take some time to just relax. Take a bubble bath. Give yourself a facial. Do your nails . Take the time to watch a whole movie with out dealing with a kid. In other words relax a bit.
PERHAPS YOU NEED TO FIND SOMEONE TO BABYSIT FOR ALITTLE WHILE AND DO SOMETHING JUST FOR YOURSELF. BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING HERE IS THAT YOU FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TO BEFORE YOUR TEMPER GETS OUT OF CONTROL. THE HOLIDAYS ARE STRESSFUL ENOUGH BUT WITH YOUR SITUATION I'M SURE THINGS ARE MORE STRESSFUL SO YOU NEED TO LEARN SOME STRESS RELIEVING TECHINIQUES. CONTACT YOUR FAMILY PHYSICIAN OR THE BABY'S PEDITRICIAN, MENTAL HEALTH IN YOUR AREA, FAMILY FRIEND OR CLERGY AND ASK FOR HELP, PLEASE.
The fact that you're aware of yourself being that way is a good thing. You're probably not feeling the best, either, being 8 weeks pregnant. My advice is to talk to your husband about the way you've been feeling. If he's anything like mine, he's clueless to the things you're going through unless you SPELL IT OUT! When I get stressed and feel like I'm being pulled from one end to the other, I take a few minutes and write my husband a letter letting him know what's going on and what I need help with. It helps, even if it's just the fact that he's aware of the way I'm feeling.
