I Have a 4 Month Old and Just Found Out I'm Pregnant Again.

I have not been in the same situation, but please know that this has been given to you because you CAN handle it. I am a 35 yr old single mother of 2, the youngest being 20 mos, and I'm 6 mos pg. A baby is not a mistake and I know you know that because you already have one. Smile- you are a very special person. Feel honored that you have been given this and believe me everything happens for a reason.

I got pregnant when my first was 6 months old. It is terrifying because you have this infant that your not entirely comfortable with yet and then are facing adding a second. It will be hard at first...and exhausting... But just as you are learning to care for your first, you will develop routines and figure out how to handle it. My second delivery was much easier than my first, so I didn't have nearly as much pain to deal with. I also had a much easier time nursing my second. I used a front carrier a lot when he was an infant so that I'd have my hands pretty much free. And as hard at is was at times in the beginning, I am SO glad now that I had them so close together because they are SO close (now 4 and 5 years old)... perfect playmates for each other. There will come a time that you will realize it is easier to have two than one because they keep each other occupied and entertained. Hang in there... you can do it! Feel free to e-mail me if you have any other questions or want to vent...

Hi, N....one thing that I found a little difficult was having two in diapers. I know it's easier said than done...but, don't stress too hard and miss the good stuff! Concentrate on enjoying the babies and your hubby. There will be tough NIGHTS...and, some mornings will be extremely long...and, there may be everlasting afternoons...but, this too shall pass.

Good luck!

Hey N.-

I found out that I was two months pregnant when my son was 6 months old. I think I cryed most of my pregnancy because I was so worried about having two little ones so close. My son is 4yrs old and my daughter 3yrs old. It was really hard at first, but I wouldn't look at it as a mistake I would look at it as a suprise. My advice- Don't stress over it! It's kind of like a 12 step program (ha!ha!) just take it one day at a time and be as patient as you can be. Your son is probably going to want to help you take care of the new baby. My little boy was 13 months old when my daughter was born and he was always the first one beside her when she cried. If you let your son feel involved by bringing you diapers or the wipes, just little things, he will love it.

My pediatrician told me that I had twins the hard way!

It's hard, I won't sugar coat it for you. But it is possible and luckily you have your husband to help. I'm so glad that I have both of my children they light up my life and help me keep a smile on my face. They are wonderful and challenging but worth every second that I get to spend with them.

I hope this helps!
M.

Hi, you are not alone.I had my son and daughter 14 months apart.I too thought I would die at first,but it was alittle easier because my oldest (daughter) was my little helper. If both of your children are same sex it might be even easier as far as clothes playing together etc... don't fret you'll handles it just fine.potty training was alittle easier because my youngest wanted to do everything the other did with in reason. mine are now 17 and 16 i remarried 2 yrs ago after being a single mom for 14 1/2 yrs and i now have a 16 month old so you'll do just fine enjoy your babies they do not stay little long be excited there is your husband and yourself but enjoy every minute. any questions i know you are probably saying she is nuts but I wouldn't change my life I'm enjoying all of it. just ssk if i can answer anything else.

Hi N., Much of what the other two girls are saying is the same with me. Irish twins! I also found out I was pregnant when my son was six months old....yes I too cried and cried! I felt like I was shorted on the time I had to get to know my son...So my advice to you would be to spend quality time with your little boy and take care of your self. When number two gets here you will need to work them into number ones schedule. Your husband definitely need to be prepared to help...and any family you can rally to give your son the attention he needs when number two comes and you a break for you (shower,bathroom,GO TO THE STORE ALONE). You husband needs to realize you are going to be an emotional roller coaster. If you are breast feeding, then continue to do so. You won't need to stop just because you have two...do what is best for you. It will also help with the bonding of you and your son and could help with your belly growing for him to realize the change in your body.

I had a really hard time at first with the separation anxiety from my son, everyone is different and it may not be hard on you but be prepared in case it is. Make sure you have someone to talk to because if you didn't suffer postpartum this time you might next time.

You will want to remember god doesn't give us these blessing if he doesn't think we are ready. Think of this a another test. God doesn't give us test unless he knows we will pass. You will be fine, It is hard when your going through hard times but when you come out on the other side it doesn't look so hard after all.

On a lighter note my two are so close and play with each other all day long. Yes brother and sister fights happen but that will be at any age. I AM SO GLAD I GOT IT OVER WITH AND THEY ARE SO AWESOME, AND IT IS GETTING EASIER EVERY DAY! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY! Don't forget the Mamasource Family is here for you too! A.

First off, CONGRATULATIONS! Please don't call your baby a mistake, accident maybe, but not a mistake. If she or he ever hears that it might hurt. I know it's scary, but it gets easier. My girls are 18 months apart and it is hard a first, but it does get easier. My sister and I were 11 months apart and my mom lived to tell the tale. It might take you longer to bond with your second because you are worried about your first, but you will love both your children with all your heart. The more children you have the bigger your heart gets. I don't know if you can really prepare yourself for what is about to come, but I would suggest setting up a support system. Have family and friends come and help those first few weeks. Let them do the laundry, dishes, shopping, ect. while you bond with the new baby and make your son knows you are still there for him. Instead of everyone giving you presents and clothes for the baby, ask them to make you meals you can freeze and then you can just pop them in the oven when your ready to eat. That really helped me with my second. Just know you are not alone and having two kids under two is hard, but it gets better and its fun! I love it. I am ready for another one and my youngest is four months. Good luck and let me know if you need anything!

Hi N.,
First do not panic. Its easy to do right now. Next don't say mistake its a baby plain and simple and no matter when or why it is another you and your husband. Third take assesment of everything you have. Start stocking up on anything you will possibly need( Dipers, clothes and all the fun stuff). You know what you need your having to do it all right now anyway just duplicate it. If your son is not in his own room or bed do that transition as soon as possible. Get as much help from family and friends as you can. I know things are scary for you and just know that your going to have quite a few more of these but stop take a deep breath and let go. This was supposed to happen and the Journey you and your husband are about to embark on will be a roller coster but it will be the best ride of your lives. Your new motto when times get tough is "this to shall pass". Just relax you and your husband take time for yourselves and for your son before the new arrival. Remember you are both in this together. Enjoy Yourself my best for your family Let me know if you need to talk. (____@____.com) J.

Hi N.!

I took a pick of your profile and based on that I can tell you two things, even though seems so hard now,you'll soon realize that what is happening now,is a renewal of that blessing of GOD,just as you look at your little baby now and are sooo in love with him, you'll feel for the one on the way. The second thing is that as you prepare for this second journey, your husband has to prepare also, and both realize that it will be a little hard there for a while so you need his support and spite of a little baby and your second pregnancy, with his help, your marriage will stay strong.I think many times is a little hard for them to understand because, unfortunately is difficult to balance everything and marriage gets put in the back burner, but the good think is that you are aware of this and together you will become stronger.

Soon after my second (and last I thought)baby was 2 I got pregnant for the 3th time. I cried for a week, I just did not want to be pregnant anymore!! I was mad at myself and my husband for making this "mistake"...anyways, when I came to terms with my 3th and LAST child, I found out I was having TWINS!! totally unespected, I was totally unprepared, totally scared...juggling two infants is hard, sleepless nights, endless diapers, non stopping feedings, but in the mist of all that, you learn things about yourself you had no idea you had, you learn to manage, very soon caring for your 2 babies won't be as hard. I think the anxiety and the anticipation are the most dificult part,however, the know how is within you. Remenber, God will never give you more than you can handle.
And the last thing I want to tell you is that although it may be hard in the beginning the joy of having these 2 little ones will overtake your fears,and it will be easier as they grow and become more independent...Now that they are almost 3, I look back and I can't imagine my life any other way, it was meant to be this way for a reason...

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to write a book...I hope my words help you see that you are not alone...

Take care of yourself!
A.

Hi, I am almost in the same boat as you except I already have 2. I have one that will be 4 on St. Patricks day and one that will me 6 months on the 7th of next month and I'm on the last month of my first depo shot but am having pregnancy symptoms now and missed my cycle that was due on the 2nd but the first 2 showed....dunno. Could just be it leaving my body..hope so. I too dont want another child..period..especially since I am having it so easy with my babt b/c he is so easy during the day and sleeps all night and has since he was about 3 months old. And I dont think I could deal with three and still hold it down.I havent took a PT test but may today and Im HOPING that its just the meds messing with me but for you since you already know. I also was terrified of having my second child b/c I had gotten content with my oldest and even though my husband planned the second (was concieved on my husbands birthday) I was still scared of how I would juggle 2 and all the other things I do. But honestly..it all falls into place and the best advice is honeslty...stay calm and dont worry about the things you cant change.Just go with the flow and take it as it comes.Of course it will be hard...but it really is nice to have 2 kids b/c they play with each other and that does give you some peace if just for a moment.

Children this close in age are often known as Irish twins and my family has a lot of them. (Think old-time Irish Catholics who dared not use birth control.) While you are in for a lot of work, you and the kids are also blessed. Just think what close friends they can be and how much they will both from each other and together! Don't worry so much...you will be fine and will learn a lot with your first that will help you with the first!
Keep us up-to-date and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Hi,N.
Well to say the least i got pregnant again when my son was 3 months old.I went through so many emotions, i did not know there was that many in life. Well after me and my husband finilly got use to the idea(a hard pill to swollow)my water wind up breaking when i was only six months(more scary).I had my son at that time(more emotions)He was only 1 pound 15 ounces,a tiny thing we did not think he was going to make it. Yeah we were scared when we concived,but this took over that and all that mattered was our little man.our little boy wasent even a year old when is brother was born(three days from being a year)Belive me this made it rough on everyone. But one thing i learned is GOD will always make away,help will help you and yours through the storms you just have to belive.YOU KNOW THINK ABOUT THIS "GOD CHOOSE YOU TO CARRY HIS CHILD, TO LOVE AND NURTURE THIS MIRICLE, HE CHOOSE YOU FOR A REASON.BECAUSE HE KNOWS WHO WILL LOVE HIS CHILDERN AS MUCH AS HIM.GOD BLESSED ME WITH 5 CHILDREN AND I WOULD NOT CHANGE IT FOR THE WORLD THEY MOTVATE ME TO DO BETTER, HELPED ME THROUGH MY DIVORCE AND NOW I'M IN SCHOOL FOR NURSING AND I HAVE A LI TEAM BESIDE ME ROOTING FOR ME.MY 1 POUNDER IA 7 YEARS OLD NOW AND SO WONDERFUL. IF YOU WILL LIKE TO KNOW MORE DONT BE AFRAID TO GET IN THOUCH WITH ME. (____@____.com) GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Sweetie, I have children who are 11 months and 4 days apart. I heard the old wives tale about you can't get pregnant when you are breastfeeding. I believed it and was wrong. I had an infection, went to the doctor and they gave me a test, and surprise!! I was so scared. I tried to prepare my older daughter by telling her there was a baby in mommy's tummy, and letting her "talk" to her sister. After my baby girl was born, I had a little bit of a struggle with being tired, but my fiance helped out a lot, so we got through that too. The only problem is when you get one out of a stage, the other one goes into it. It is alot of work, but well worth it. Prayer will help get through those days when you are trying to feed the newborn and the older one is getting into everything. If you ever need someone to talk to , my e-mail is ____@____.com it helped!

My Son and Daughter are 18 months apart so he was about 9 months old when I found out I was pregnant again. The good thing is you know what to expect with the next one. I found the hardest thing was after the baby was born trying to feed her while my son wanted all my attention and trying to run after him while trying to feed the baby. But I also learned to get the baby on a schedule as soon as I could and that helped out a lot. While I was home on Materinty leave my son went to daycare while I was getting adjusted to having a new baby. That helped so I could get myself in a routine and back into balance. My son acted out for about a month after the baby was born and then he went back to normal. So it really is not as scary as you think. Once the little one is here it will feel like that was the way it has always been. Even though my son was 18 months old he seemed to know that the baby came out of my belly when I was in the hospital. It was like automatic for him to know that it was our baby. I was really surprised. I hope this helps you. If you need any more info please send me a message.
J.

Those babies will be awfully close together, but they will be the best of friends. Mine are pretty close together (not as close as yours, though), and the first year was tough with both in diapers. But I have to tell you that you get through it and there are so many moments where it's lots of fun. And now that they're a little older, it's awesome that they like to do mostly the same sorts of things and are great playmates and friends.

Many Blessings, Congratulations! and best wishes!

I have a 14 month old and a 2 month old. I was so scared just like you, but it is so much fun! Hard at times, like when they both need to eat, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I think we'll stick with 2 but if I had a third, I would want that one to be 1 year apart from the youngest. Right now it's tough, but will be wonderful when they're older. Here is their website if you want to check out how it looks. I was always curious. (-:
http://nickandally.aboutmybaby.com/

Hello N., I have a son who just turned 2 years old and a son 6 months old! When i found out that i was pregnant this last time, it was a week before his 1st birthday and i cried and cried! But then i had to think of how God has a purpose for everything! I was soooo wore out from working, being pregnant and having a 1 year old all at the same time! I was so scared that my oldest would feel pushed away! During the pregnancy i tried to spend as much time as i could with him! Now i'm a stay at home mom and i thank God for the opportunity to do so! It sure is a hectic day with barely enough time to feed the kids, put them down for nap, clean house, have supper cooked and have some alone time! I rarely have time to sit down and relax! I long for those days but i wouldnt' trade my kids for nothing! I really dont see me without either one.. and besides, i'm really happy that my oldest son has someone to play with and i hope that they will be really close!
I wish you the best! Always remember to pray and God will help you through the bad days!

I had a ten year old and a five month old when I got pregnant. However, my husband and I planned the back to back pregnancies. Having babies that close is difficult, but fun. They are now four and three and are each other's best friends. For you, you don't say if you are working or at home, but if you are at home, make sure you nap when your son does. If you work, you need to make sure you get to bed early, especially if your son still wakes up in the night for feedings and you may want to have your husband help out with those night feedings, by taking turns or whatever.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

I know exactly what you're going through. My son was 6 months old when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. They are now 3 and 4, and I'm pregnant with our third child. I'm not going to tell you it's a piece of cake, but it's not impossible by any means. I did it and am due in May to start over again. One of the big pluses of them being so close is they keep each other busy. Have faith in yourself hun, many other moms have done this before you so you have people to turn to on here for advice.

Hi N. my name is G. I am 24 yrs old I have had 2 children vack to back and has another one 2yrs apart from the middle child. I'm not going to lie it is HARD. But with help from your husband I'm sure everything will be alright.

My children are 15 months apart. Wow, I was overwhelmed by everything. I found the dressing, feeding, pooping, and then do it all day everyday as EXHAUSTING. I want you to prepare your family and friends that you would love some help even if you say you don't. BUT........it gets so much better when they get to be 4 and 5. My kids are now 7 and 6 and they are so much fun and they love to play together. One other suggestion is make sure you enjoy the next 8 months with the 1st child. THEN, when that child can go to Parents Morning Out..make some special alone time with the 2nd child. Finally, when they can both go to Parents Morning Out....get some ALONE TIME FOR YOU. Best of Luck. Let me know if you have any other questions. ____@____.com

Hi N.,
I had a 4 year old and a 3 month old when I found out I was pregnant. I remember being completly shocked. I honestly did not believe it till I saw the little peanut shape on the ultrasound. My girls ended up being one day short of 9 months apart. Brittany was born 9 weeks early because of complications in my pregnancy. I guess the hardest thing for me was trying to take care of two babies that could not walk. I did have complications and spent 3 weeks in the hospital before delivering her. I had placental previa and that is why she was born early. Whatever you do if they tell you bedrest LISTEN to the doctors. I was hard headed and didn't and I believe me and the baby paid for it. Its sort of like having twins. I was able to get the older one broke from the bottle at a year old but the pacifier was a whole lot different. My older one didn't give it up till she was 3 and my younger one was a little over 2. That was the hardest thing. It can be fun though. They were very close to eachother. It will be okay I think you will have alot of fun. Good luck
S.