My 4 Month Old Is Moving Fast

My mom had twins and got pregnant 3 months later. My brother was born one week before our first birthday (that's 3 kids in one year). The day she found out the news, she went to a club meeting and had a break down. Her friends suggested an abortion.

Don't beat yourself up if you're feeling unhappy or scared or negative in any way. You're in shock. Just relax and go with the flow, you have 8 months to prepare and get used to the idea. It's going to be hard, but so nice when they are older- my brother and sister are my best friends.

When I found out I was pregnant, I joined a american baby site with other mothers who were expecting the same month I was expecting. There were quite a few women on there who were pregnant again after giving birth only a few months before. Generally speaking the women were all very upset. Some had husbands who blamed the pregnancy on them, most had financial concerns, all were scared and emotionally stressed. But the point of my story is by the time the fetus started moving on a regular basis (5-6 months) everyone of those women were excited about the birth of their child. The husband and wives reconciled, they figured out how to feed another mouth.

Dont worry. Everything will work out. You have 6 more months to prepare for the birth of your child. The women on my A B website all ended up fine, and I'm sure you will too.

You may want to find a group where u can connect with other women who are in your situation.

I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was six months. They are 14 months apart and are each other's best friends. My son is almost six and my daughter is almost five and they are joined at the hip, except while in school.

Now the big question is if you are breastfeeding or bottle feeding. I was bottle feeding when I got pregnant, but my friend who also got pregnant when her baby was six months, was not able to continue nursing her daughter because her milk supply dropped around the time her daughter was eight months.

It is a huge challenge to be pregnant and have such a young baby, and it will be a challenge when they are young. But, looking back, I think it was awesome and I am glad they are so close in age.

You need to take care of yourself. Rest when you are tired, eat well...all the normal advice, but having young baby makes it more of a challenge.

You don't mention your social situation, if you are married or not, if you work or not. If you are married, you need to make sure your husband helps in every way he can, even getting up at night so you can rest sometimes.

Good luck to you.

First let me say congratulations. I believe that babies are a blessing no matter when they come. I've had two pregnancies that we were not planning that came at the absolute worst times. It was so hard to come to terms with them and be happy. Give yourself a little time to get used to the idea.

While I've never been in your exact situation, I have a sister and an aunt who have. Both say that it is a blessing in disguise. My aunt actually got her tubes tied after her 2nd child was born. She ended up pregnant almost immediately as the dr. didn't do the tubal right. Her 2nd and 3rd child are only 11 months apart! I was a teenager when this happened so I don't remember anything except that my Mom spent a lot of time helping her for the first couple of months. My sister has children that are 13 months apart and again she says that it has been wonderful. The kids have always been really close. They are 14 and 15 now and they are still best friends. The key is to not be afraid to ask for help. Don't try to do everything on your own. The first few months will probably be tough, but YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! Get as much done as you can before the baby comes. Stock up on diapers and wipes. Keep all of the clothes that your baby is wearing now for the new baby. When it gets closer to the due date, make and freeze meals that can be popped in the oven so you don't have to worry about that. Stock your pantry with staples. If you have a deep freezer stock that as well. This will save you big trips out to the store for a while.
Have faith in yourself - that's a big part of this - tell youself that you can do this and then you can! God Bless and Best of Luck to you!

My son was four months old when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. She was born one week after my son's first birthday party; and my son wasn't walking yet! (Luckily, he started walking while I was giving birth in the hospital.) Having two that close together is very difficult. You have a long, hard road ahead of you. But, on the positive side, you will get through the terrible two's quicker than if you had waited to have your second child; and they should be a lot closer than more distant siblings. Mine fight like cats and dogs most of the time, but at the end of the day they tell each other they love each other before bed. I think in time they will learn to be each other's best friend (my hopes anyway). That's what others have taught me. And, on another positive note, your body is still in "pregnant" mode. My second birth was very quick and very easy. She was born before the anesthesiologist came in, and that was actually better for me b/c I got up and went to the bathroom when she went for her Apgar. I didn't have to have a catheter or stitches. The stitches were really aggravating to me the first time. Of course, they might do things differently these days; my kids will be 14 and 15 this year. (I was only 19 when I got pregnant the first time.) In conclusion, you have a hard road (like any typical motherhood), but it should be worth it in the long run. Good luck! And use your family structure as much as you can, if they're a good, strong one. There's nothing more important than family; and I was blessed with a wonderful one.

I got pregnant with my second when my first was 5 months old. Yes, it wasn't planned, and I'll be honest, I was a upset at first, but then in a few weeks or month later, I became excited about it. My first two are boys and they are 14 months apart. It's wonderful! Would I do it over again if I could? YES! No doubt about it.

We've tried to do it on purpose again, but haven't been able to. I am currently pregnant with my 5th child and it's getting harder for me to get pregnant (I'll be 40 this year.) so I can't seem to plan it anymore.

I had a friend that called me when she found out that she was pregnant again so soon afterwards (her girls are 16 months apart) and she was crying about it. She knew that I would know how she felt. I did. And soon she too became excited. It's a normal, natural feeling, so don't beat yourself up. You'll accept it and get excited about it eventually. Thinking up names, what will you have, a boy or a girl....it will be fun again.

The best thing that came of it was closeness in their relationship and I didn't have to entertain them so much. They entertained each other and occupied each others time. They had a blast! Good Luck!

Kyna

You will be just fine and you have to believe that. I had 4 like that. When one would turn 7 months.I'd fine out I was pregnant again. At first I'd be depressed because we used birthcontrol and nothing seemed to work. I can tell you this. When they are young you will need a routine but be flexible and take time for yourself. They will grow up!! BENEFITS-- The last two I did not have to potty train because they wanted to be like the older ones. They all played together and stayed together watching out for one another. When they went to school it was like clock work one behind the other. Today they are all very close. Matter of fact the girls at 18 and 19 decided to live together and bought a house together. Kyna remember you have to spend quality time with them and pour positive things into them. They are yours for a reason!! Just Love Them!!
Sincerely
Ms.V

Mine was about 5 1/2 months when I got pregnant again. You can do this! At first I had a lot of "what was I thinking" moments... but it really is wonderful in a lot of ways to have them close together... especially when they get a little bit older. Realize you still have 9 months to get to know your first little one... So...Congratulations! This is a wonderful thing. I know it sounds exhausting now, but it will be okay. You will learn how to manage two just like you learned how to manage one... and before you know it, they will keep each other busy and it will be even easier in some ways than having one!

Hi Kyna,

I did. It was stressful, but we managed. On the physical side, you'll need to talk to your doctor if you feel like your tail bone is bruised. In my case my pelvic bones hadn't "gelled" back together before I got pregnant again (when our oldest was 3 mos.) and got even further apart as the pregnancy progressed. It really hurt to walk for long periods of time (i.e. that big shopping trip to the grocery store). The doctor gave me a temporary handicap tag and that really helped. (One good thing about this is that the second birth, for me, was much easier because my bones were so much further apart and flexible.)

Our boys ended up having the same birthday (they're 12 and 13 now). I'll be perfectly honest and tell you that the first three years are pretty rough - especially that witching hour before dinner. BUT, it does get better and hopefully you won't have to be full-time playmate to them because they'll play with each other. I have to say that even though they're so close in age, and they're boys, we have the calmest house out of all our friends because they're interested in the same things (mostly) and get along really well.

The best advice I can give you - if it's possible - is to turn one room in to a playroom/family room and completely child-proof and gate it off from the rest of the house. We had a den that was connected to the rest of the house by a hallway that was only a couple of feet from the kitchen so I could see the kids. I put a gate across it and could cook dinner without both of them being underfoot, but I could still see them and talk to them.

Good luck!!

D.