M.A.
well, you just need to decide what's more important to you and what is best for the both of you. raising your daughter all on your own while living at your Mom's house (possibly having to bite your tongue and take her criticisms) or moving out, getting a job and have someone else look after her for a few hours. You have to look at both sides. I'm sure it is totally annoying that your Mom gets on you about things like your daughter's father coming around, BUT she is helping you out in a bind and she IS your mother and only wants what's best for you. If you feel that you need to go back to work and move out on your own, you'll have to come to terms with someone else watching her. if you think you won't be able to perform your job functions because you'll be worrying about your daughter so much, then maybe getting a job now isn't the right thing. Yes you are in a tough situation, but hey, at least you have 2 people offering you free childcare! LOTS of people don't even have that option. and they are family. yes, they may have their imperfections, but no one is perfect. I'm sure if you ask them to please not drink while watching the baby that they will gladly comply. I understand your worry. you are a single mom and she is your only child. Yes, maybe no one can watch her better than you. Yes, maybe they might make a mistake or two like not feeding her right at 8pm but at 8:20. is that so horrible? You never know, your daughter may benefit from having alone time with other family members. and you might benefit from being out in the workforce again. I think you should count your blessings and stop worrying so much. Make the choice that's best for you and your daughter. good luck!