Hurting

Hiya S.!

S., I understand how you are feeling. And while I realize it is difficult for you to believe this right now, you are loved! Very much so! In fact, you are not just Loved ... but you ARE Love! It takes a courageous person to acknowledge and actually admit they are lonely and feeling unloved. Some see it as self-pity, but it isn't! It is only self-pity when you take no personal action.

S., I have several exercises I do myself, and they are the same exercises I always encourage my clients to do for themselves. When I am feeling down and out, I get out some paper and a few different colored pens and/or pencils, even use crayons at times, and write out my feelings. I use blue for the happy feelings, red for my angry feelings and pink (and sometimes green) for the feelings of love I have. There are days when I really make use of that red ink pen/pencil! I just let my feelings, whatever they are, RIP!

When I am finished and feel I have emptied all the hurt and anger, and other feelings as well, I take the paper and burn it. If it isn't raining outside I just put it on the grill and burn it until it becomes ashes. For rainy days, I use the kitchen sink for my burning party.

This little ritual helps to release all the bottled up feelings we may have. During the process of writing, we sometimes discover other reasons for our hurt and pain, and we find ourselves releasing that as well. This ritual allows you to release all those feelings of pain and hurt and anger. And it is symbolic that they have no power or hold over you.

The next exercise I do, is I sit down and write out FIVE (5) things I personally LOVE about Myself! This exercise is all about YOU ... No one Else! Just YOU! Here are some examples of my own list:

I Love J. because she has a GREAT sense of Humor!
I Love J. because she really enjoys helping others!
I Love J.'s eyes, they are beautiful!

Find FIVE (5) things you Love about YOUR-Self! Remember: This is about YOU! Remember THAT! Nobody else! Just YOU! No judgments are allowed. Unconditional Love, no strings attached.

Loving YOUR-Self is vital. It is essential for your own sense of well being.

The Third Exercise is write down on a piece of paper (post it notes are good for this) and write down S., I LOVE YOU! and place this on your mirror, on your fridge, on your computer screen on the back of your bedroom door, anywhere where you will see it on a regular basis.

Believe it or not, just seeing that little note brings a smile to your face and it is a reminder of how much you are Loved!

Taking the time to show YOUR-Self how much you care is so very important. And S., you are important enough to take that time to express to YOUR-Self those feelings of Love. Remember THAT!

Get to know that beautiful bundle of Love known as S.! I am confidant that you are really gonna love her!

So to You S. ... I say HELLO! It is an honor and privilege to make your acquaintance!

Namaste (pronounced Na-Ma-Stay), the short definition of this words simply means ... "The Divine within Me ... Bows & Honors the Divine Within YOU!"

Namaste S.!

J.

Dear S.~

Hi! I LOVE YOU! You are my online friend as of right now!!

This is not irrelevant at all; we all need to feel valued and loved. I have been through the same thing more than once: The Mother's Day when two kids give you a card, maybe a gift, and spend maybe ten minutes with you; the other kid who forgets it altogether; the kid who was always Daddy's sweetheart totally ignores his birthday, and you have to see the hurt in his eyes for months afterward; the kid who calls you up only to babysit for her, on a day that she knows you are in pain and need to rest and clean your house; that same kid who criticizes you when your housework isn't up to snuff, because you were baby-sitting for her and your fibromyalgia was flaring so bad you could hardly walk or sit up. This list could go on forever.

Don't get me wrong, most of the time my grown children are truly wonderful, but sometimes our kids can be so cruel and not even realize it.

Next time your kids 'need' something from you, look them straight in the eye and say, "Sorry, right now I am taking care of ME. How about we go out for a sundae/coffee/whatever and you treat your old Mom for a change."

God bless.

S.

I'm so sorry to hear that you feel alone and that your children aren't there for you. It must be very difficult. I just want you to know that I will pray for you to have great people come into your life and for your children as well. God bless you.

S., you are loved. And I will be praying for you to find peace. Remember you are never alone if you have God in your heart . Anyway,"Hi." Hope you feel better soon.

Hey S.

You are never alone. Hang in there. I have felt the way
you are feeling from time to time even in a crowd or with
my family. Remember you are a wonderful, intelligent,
caring person. Love yourself I stumble with that part all
the time. If I don't love myself nobody else is going to.

B.

Just saying hello. Hope you feel better soon.

S.,
I wanted to stop by and say HELLO, I see we are from the same neck of the woods per say. :)

I hope you got out yesterday if not today just for a little bit to enjoy this beautiful weather. After last weekend's "Freeze" this quite the opposite.

I hope this will lift your spirits a little. :)

KEEP BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

There may be days
when you get up in the morning
and things aren't the way
you had hoped they would be.
That's when you have to
tell yourself that things will get better.

There are times when people
disappoint you and let you down,
but those are the times
when you must remind yourself
to trust your own judgments and opinions,
and to keep your life focused on believing in yourself
and all that you are capable of.

There will be challenges to face
and changes to make in your life,
and it is up to you to accept them.
Constantly keep yourself headed
in the right directions for you.
It may not be easy at times,
but in those times of struggle
you will find a stronger sense of who you are,
and you will also see yourself
developing into the person
you have always wanted to be.

Life is a journey through time,
filled with many choices;
each of us will experience life
in our own special way.

So when the days come that are filled
with frustration and unexpected responsibilities,
remember to believe in yourself
and all you want your life to be,
because the challenges and changes
will only help you to find the dreams
that you know are meant to come true for you.

~Unknown

Hi S.! Your story hurts my heart. This is not irrelevant either. We all need to feel loved and appreciated. I can now understand how being a mom is THEE most un-thankful job in the world. Not until I had my own (he's almost 8 months) did I realize just how much time, effort, patience and love did it take to be a mom. I know I can always count on my mom, but I never understood how hard it was for her to always be counted on. How old are your grown kids? Do they live with you? Hang in there and please know that from one mom to another YOU ARE APPRECIATED and loved! One day they WILL "get it".
Sincerely, K.

S.-life can be so mean at times, especially when it's your own children that aren't giving you the love you need. Hang in there & there are a lot of us on here with a ready ear if & whenever you need it.

Most importantly, God LOVES you...he's ready and patiently waiting for you to reach out to him and then he will wash away the pain and fill it with a calm & peaceness that is so refreshing. It doesn't make life perfect but it reassuring that there is a higher being that we can reach out to and hand all of our troubles to.

Good luck and hope you have a better day...the sun is shining out and it should be warmer today...always helps my spirit when I'm down.

Love you-

B.