We recently got a new neighbor who has a 14-year-old son who is very, very nice. There is also a 9-year-old son. The parents sometimes leave the two together as the 14-year-old is definitely mature enough to watch his brother. We have noticed a pattern that when the kids are alone, the older has two specific friends who bring over girls, and go into the house while the two brothers play sports in the yard. While I have not been in the house while the friends are there, we all know what 14-year-old couples do.
My question is, would you say anything to the parents? I doubt they know the older boy is inviting over couples to use their house while they are away. Or should I just butt out? Any advice would be appreciated.
Now that I see your responses, you are so right. I should just butt out. They are new neighbors and I don't know much about them. I guess I worry because of the younger brother and what he might get exposed to earlier than a mother would hope. Clearly I worry too much! But he's not my kid, so I should mind my own business unless I see something that looks unquestionably dangerous. Thank you so much for your responses!!
Hi B.:
Unless their actions,directly effect you,or your children,I'd stay out of their affairs.You know what they say about assumption. It can get you into trouble.Your assuming the teens are behaving inappropriately,and your guessing the parents aren't aware of their sons friends,when in fact they may.
Hi B., I think this is a tough one, because some moms the claws come out when you talk about their children. If you are really concerned for these kids, then I would bring it up in a way where your not making any kind of accusations, just the show of concern, cause moms are very protective of their children, mine are 25, 22 and 20 and I can still be like a mother bear protecting my cubs. Also if you have children you don't want this young man to know you spoke to his mother, no matter how nice he is, he may take it out on your kids, I've seen it happen before. let us know what you decided and how it went. J. L.
i would stay out of it because it doesnt directly affect you and your child. BUT if you feel the need to say something tot he parents maybe do it causally. saying something like its nice that your oldest son has a few friends that come over to keep him and his brother company while you guys are gone. then you leave it at that. if they ask more then tell them that you see them come over and go in the house while the 2 boys play outside for a while. do your best to act as if its innocent and let the parents do the confronting if they feel they need to. good luck
I think I would say something, I would want to know. I'm sure you can ask them to approach their son in a way that maybe he won't know its you, I'm sure you guys can come up with something.
It's not their son that's doing this but he is allowing it at the same time.
I think there should be a "no friends allowed" rule when mom and dad are not home.
