How Would You Deal with Your Children Choosing to Move in with Their Dad?

I have a suggestion for you about getting back into the dating scene. I met my husband through E-Harmony. It is a nice way to meet men with good Christian values. It must be hard to have your children move out. I will say some prayers for you.
If you have any questions about E-Harmony please don't hesitate to ask me.

S.

J.,
I can only imagine what a difficult choice that was for your children to make. I too chose to live with my dad after my parent's divorce. But I still spent, and now do spend, plenty of time with my mother. While my mother still had my sister at home I did see that her immediate response was not to go seeking to fill free time with a male companion. And trust me, she had people who wanted to woo her! As a Christian you know that is ultimately God's decision to bring someone into your life - or not. My mother became very active in my sister and I's after school activities. I was in college cheering when living with my dad and she came to EVERY game!! She met my friends, their parents, and got involved however possible. Some other things you could consider could be group exercise class or a quilting club or even a cooking club or volunteering at a nursing home or continuing education classes or computer design classes, scrapbooking clubs and bible studies or home teams?? The list is so bountiful, I am sure there is an outlet for you to meet great people and not just fill your time, but enrich your life. I'll pray God leads you to the next phase in your life exactly how he intends.

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You should take your time. Feeling lonely is okay. Try going out just to have fun and put meeting someone on the back burner. That's usually when someone special shows up, when your not looking.
G.

Our church has a single adult group for 30 and up that has various activities and even dances all the time. If you are interested in knowing more let me know what area you are in and your contact info and I will get you in contact with the single adult rep for your area. A lady who is like a 2nd mom to me is widowed and all the kids have moved out so she enjoys going to these activities. We also have enrichment nights at our church where all the ladies get together for a couple hours for a little time outta the house. :o)

Oh Gosh, that would be hard. Do you have visitation with them? Are they over 12, and they requested to be wiht their father? Are they boys. That would be so hard.

I am also divorced, but do have my very young kids with me full time. Although so often I wish for some sort of mental break, I would not want it any other way.

I have to ask what your real question is?? When I read the question I was under the impression that it had something to do with your kids choosing to stay at Dads. When I looked deeper there was no questions regarding kids it was about finding a man. Mabye you should ask yourself first what it is that YOU want.Missing your kids cant be replaced by anyone.Look deep at people before you let them in. Lonliness can be hard to handle just be careful. N.

Well, praying for God to send you someone is a good start. You should remind yourself that He doesn't always comply with our wishes like a genie in a bottle, and He certainly has His own timing about things, doesn't He? Maybe in the meantime, do some things for yourself and get involved in activities you like. Maybe you'll meet a like-minded man friend along the way? Does your church have a group for singles or divorced people? Find out what sorts of activities they're doing and get active serving with them. You're sure to find some kindred spirits there. Maybe you've always wanted to take karate or a dance class -- now's your chance! Start a book club with folks at church. Maybe there's already one going on. And maybe alter your prayers to simply be that you want to seek God's Will for your life, and try to focus on that.

J.,
Hi there. I have a question for you if you don't mind? I have a 43 year old brother who is going through a nasty nasty divorce. His estranged wife is really being horrible. She wants everything and the kitchen sink. She is living in their million dollar home and wants him to live in a 1 bedroom apartment. She is not letting him see the kids all of the times he is suppose to and when he does have them she is calling 13 times and calling him names. She even tells the kids that their dad is bad and not to listen to him (they are 7 and 5). She went to the kids school and told them he was a child molester and he just seems to take it from her. Anyways, did you experience any of this or was your experience easier? How did you get through it? I try to talk to my brother but he says I don't understand because I have never been in that situation before. Any suggestions? How did you get through it? Thank you, Pam

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