Our downstairs neighbor has baked us cupcakes twice since we've moved here a few months ago. We don't really talk to each other since we only ever see each other in passing but she seems really sweet. What should I do to thank her and reciprocate the gesture?
How about a note of thanks taped to their door?
It's easy. It's fast. It's virtually free.
LBC
Invite her up for coffee and visit with her a bit. You might live there a long time.
If you share a backyard you could have coffee or tea in the yard. The weather is very fine and you won't have to make your house look perfect.
She has extended the olive branch of friendship. I would just take a few minutes to talk to her the next time you see her, or even stop by and say hello and chat. You can bring something if you want - something small, flowers from your garden, something like that. Make an effort to talk and get to know each other.
I don't want to hurt your feelings, but keep it sweet and simple. Since you don't know her well enough yet, just get her a cookie jar or something small as a thank you. I have nice people who live across the hall from me, but read my message that I wrote yesterday about how psychotic they are. I am stuck on how to report them to the police, or how to tell them to be quiet at 12 midnight when they slam doors, and their kids throw tantrums. Just be a little protective of yourself. Sorry to tell you this. I really do hope your neighbor turns out to be a very nice person in the long run.
i dont think she's looking for a thank you. i think she's trying to strike up a friendship. if it were just once, id say it was a welcome to the neighborhood, but twice? she's reaching out. you say you only ever see her in passing. well....thats why us baking neighbors make cupcalkes. as an ice breaker. when we bring them to you, we're hoping you'll invite us in for coffee and a cupcake. when i cook something, i certainly want to see the people enjoy it, just like when you give a present you want to watch people open it. stop just passsing by and waving. next time, make a point of going over to her and starting up a conversation. maybe even invite her over.
have her over to dinner or drinks or something. sunday coffee...
Next time you make something good or special send her some, send the kids to drop it off lol
Make sure she knows how much you appreciate them! I love to bake, but never do because I don't want the temptation at my house and most of my neighbors refuse when I take treats to them. If I knew I had a neighbor or two who would appreciate the treats I would bake a lot more often!
Hi S.S., Take it slow . . it sounds like she's really anxious to become "friends". I hate to sound suspicious but . . I am suspicious of people who are try to get too close too fast. It's happened to me and it's happened to my kids when we were new to the neighborhood. The people who turned out to be the craziest were the ones who came on hard in the beginning when were didn't know anyone. In hindsight, I could say they were very manipulative and possessive too. Just be careful. Thery're nice people out there but real kooks too.
A nice hand-written thank you from you and the kids would be appropriate! Have the kids draw her a "thank you" picture if they are you and leave it under her door.
If she keeps up the goodwill (and she' not a psycho like Gigis), invite her up for a cup of tea to enjoy the goodies with you!
