How to Teach Appreciation and Not Envy of Little Brother's Stuff????

Hi, M.,

I looked at your profile to see the ages of your boys and it says 4 and 2. I am assuming they haven't grown too much since you made made your profile description. They are still close enough in age and your 4 year old is still young enough that some of those toys (which I am assuming it's mostly toys) your younger son has still look pretty fun and engaging. I would start by saying, "If you would like to play with them, I am sure your brother can share. Would you like to look at them?" If they aren't witheld from him (not that I am assuming they are) then there isn't all that much to envy.

Another thing is, when he starts to make his statements, redirect the conversation to what toys of his own he particularly likes. Ask him what his favorite things are from possessions to games, shows, ways to spend his time. When he answers tell him, "Wow! What a blessed boy you are! You have all those things to like!" When he starts to speak with envy, redirect his thoughts and words to gratitude and it will become habit.

Hope this helps,

L.

Hi. You got a couple of good responses already. But I would like to recommend a book to you to help you even beyond this time. "Siblings Without Rivalry" helped me with my two as they were growing up. Good luck.

Depending on the age of your kids, if they are young, then they quite likely will like the same type toy. Your oldest one had the toys to himself before little one came along, so he still wants to possess his territory. The younger one is trying to learn and develop and doesn't have space to do so because older brother gets in his way. So separate them so they can learn to appreciate their own stuff individually and switch up the toys as well so each get a turn.

i guess it all depends on how old your kids are.