How to Quit Being Negative and Be Positive

When you find that you are unable to get out of the dumps (pity party and all), Volunteer. It makes you aware how bad it really can be and to be thankful for what you do have.

Just remember somebody is ALWAYS worse off than you!

I think about how many families have sick kids. They know that one day they will not be home with those sick kids, yet, they are usually some of the most thankful, happy people you will meet. They are just thankful for each day they are given.

I think, "if they can be happy despite the cards they are dealt, what on Earth am I upset for?"

Nothing I am ever dealt, seems even remotely as close to what those families go through day to day. Read some of the St. Jude's stories. Though you will cry, you will also laugh and smile and say "thank you" for what you have. I promise!

What I do that really helps to stay positive through difficlut times is this: Get a page a day calendar of positive affirmations. It works everyday a new positive outlook to practice and it lasts all year. Put it on the bathroom vanity so every morning as you brush your teeth you can repeat it to yourself and carry iot with you all day in your head. I like The Secret page a day or Daily Bible verses or something. You can order them online on amazon just search page a day calendars. God Bless you hang in there , Keep your eyes on that light at the end of the tunnel!

Let go and Let God.

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There are so many people far worse off. Try volunteering at the soup kitchen or go watch the morning line at the unemployment office.

I understand having a pity party, trust me. Sometimes the bad things just keep coming. My husband and daughter were in 2 car accidents in the last 4 days - non of them their fault. Dealing with insurance, hospitals, schools, work.........enough already. I have to look at the positive - no one was hurt. A car can be replaced.

Focus on the positive. Give praise for every day and get out and go for a walk - fresh air can do wonders.

First off, don't give up!! Don't know exactly what is going on of course, but there is something my mom has always told me whenever I have felt overwhelmed, she says, just do the next right thing. You don't have to solve it all tonight, but maybe there is one small thing you can decide to do that is moving in a positive direction. Like for me, I am just over a barrel with getting my baby weight off. Never in my life had such a tough time!! It really gets me down sometimes. But then I just dust myself off and say "Ok, I am going to make some coffee and only going to put a little creamer and fake sugar in it!" (I love it doused in creamer and loaded with sugar ;) Somehow just having that coffee in a healthier way brightens my day and gives me that will to just get back at it! Sorry things are tough right now! If it is mostly financial, I highly recommend anything by Dave Ramsey. We paid of a crazy amount of debt in a couple years all while I was home with our first son. We have had it rough with the economy as well, but being debt free has been helpful. Hang in there and definitely DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!

Journaling has helped me for many years. I can write whatever I want in there and no one has to see it. No one is judging, only God and I know what is in there.

Doing a gratitude journal is great too. Each night write one positive thing that happened that day. Simple, but it works.

Read the bible, if you are a Christian. I agree volunteering helps me to stay postive. I'm starting to take my Son with me to volunteer and he is now seeing the benefits of volunteering and taking his toys to give to the homeless kids.

Read affirmations online or buy a book with positive affirmations in it.

If you try all of this and none of it works. You may want to talk to a counselor. I've been through many different counselors and it really does help your outlook. Get out and talk a walk each day. Look at the flowers, if that what you enjoy. Water calms me and I love being near water or waterfalls. Go feed the ducks at a park once a week. Get out and enjoy nature, notice the birds, listen to the birds, maybe write about your journey outside at a park that you go to once a week or each day,etc... Just ideas to help you. Yes, there may be some anxiety going on with you, so you might want to try Yoga or exercising, that helps me, especially swimming. If it is more serious, try medication. Just keep trying and keep on going. Don't give up on a better life, you deserve it. Good Luck and be strong! I'll keep you in my prayers D..

Is it pity party? Is it depression? I didn't understand what was I going through. Couldn't be depression as I have for sure had much harder times than what I and my family have been going through last 4-5 years, yet I always managed to push forward. I found myself with no energy, achey bones, sad, really nothing to look forward yet it didn't feel like depression. I became negative. I became very outspoken (not nice), with a lot of anxiety. I told my doctor. Spoke to her about it. She agreed she didn't think it was depression. but she told me i had to get help for anxiety. She put me on medication and I have to say these have been pretty good two weeks so far. Knock on wood. I can finally see without this constant exhaustion and sadness. Maybe talk to your doc?

1. Have faith
2. Write and repeat positive words
3. Hang around positive people
4. Consider what you have that others do not and be thankful
5. Start giving of yourself and time and you won't focus so much on your situation alone!