How to Make Time for Myself !!

Give Daddy some of the work. That way you have more time to give some love to him....haha =) He should not mind at all.

Im only a mommy of 2 but I get what your gong through my alone tme is n the bathroom @ night after I've taken care of the whole family getting them n to bed I may take another shower I say another because my daughter is 4 and my son is 3 months old its faster to just shower with them after I read stories clean the kitchen from dinner I dont always feel clean or at peace so I take anoter shower it really makes me feel like a lady then put on splash of perfume before you get into bed it will not only make you feel good but it will make you feel wanted and after doing the mommy thing you may be feeling uptight I sure do so when my husband wants to get close and cuddle at night I dont always feel like that I just want to roll over and go to bed the extra shower really helps me to clear my thoughts and mae me feel good try that good luck

I'm guessing that either you have to or really want to work? Is there any flexiblity in your hours? That just seems like such a long day! I couldn't do it! Can you get a part time nanny for a portion of the day? Are you attached to your job?

I have my own business in direct sales that has given my some much needed flexibility!

If all else fails, try the bathroom idea! Best of luck! You're a super hero!


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i'm a mom of 4 and i fully understand.. but i always find some time never much and i might not always be alone during that time.. one thing i do is mommmy reading time it the only time the crayons come out at my house i get my faverite book and on the coffe table i put the colloring books and crayons and i say out loud "mommy needs to read 3 pages to not go nuts you may sit and color or you may read if i don't get 3 pages it's nap time if i due get my 3 pages its outside time" it takes once or twice for the kids to get the game and it might be best during the infants nap time but it worked for me...

At some point in time you just have to DO IT. Schedule yourself on the calendar and don't let anything or anyone take that time. My best friend and I get together one Saturday a month to go to breakfast. We generally go at 6:30 am but have been known to go as early as 5:30 in order to get everything done - but we still have our time. Being a single mom with older kids, I will occasionally go out to a late, late dollar movie after the kids are in bed. I have the third Wednesday of every month reserved for me from 8:00 to 10:00 and I go and get a massage and then browse a bookstore or something. Since you have that wonderful husband, I recommend the two of you going on a date at least once a month. Need a babysitter? My 16 year old is giving free babysitting this term for service hours for National Honor Society - just let me know. S. :)

You could try locking yourself in the bathroom for five or ten minutes, while your husband watches your kids for that long. Stash a good book in there, and read it in your 'time out'.

When my kids were very young, I formed a little co-op with 2 other families. Every other Friday or Saturday night, one set of parents would take ALL of the kids and have them at their house. We had pizza kid movie night. That freed up 2 of the couples to have a night off. Yes, it was interesting to be the parent with all of the kids... Once the pizza got there, they were ecstatic. When I put the movie in, they all lined up on the floor with a pillow and blankies, like a living room campout. The kids loved it. Some of the parents just went for a walk and an ice cream cone. Sometimes it was out for a real dinner/movie date. Just to have that time to reconnect was fantastic. I offered to be the first one to host the kids at my house. So, once the other parents (who I met through preschool) got a taste of freedom, they were happy to pay it back. At first, we only did this once a month. Then, once we really got it wired, we upped it to every other Sat/Fri nite. Co-op is the way to go, because of the added benefit that your kids are developing friends this way. Also, some of the best friends I/we have are people met through my kids activities and schools! You can also expand this idea with a potluck with a few parents every other month or so. Create opportunies! Good luck!

I am also the mother of three small children 6, 4, and 4 months I work part time and go to college full time. I totally understand. I dont get alot of alone time(single parent). The only way I have managed is to schedule it WITH A BABYSITTER!!!!
Be it a friend or family. Trust me I know its not easy to find those either but it is possible to find me time and get stuff done. It is actually more relaxing then just hiding in a differant room for a few minutes I ve tried that too. But if you have someone watch the kids while you grocery shop or fold laundry it is amazing how relaxing these things can be when your not chasing two kids and trying to get the other to stop crying. You might feel bad at first but trust me the people that know you will understand and not think any less of you. Also something that will help you and your husband go on a DATE. A real grown up one. It is amazing how one night out can make a month so much more happy.

I would like to make a suggestion...if at all possible maybe try to find a babysitter to watch the kids for a couple of hours so you and your husband can go to dinner or maybe a movie. Also, maybe to help a little talk with someone that your kids go to school with and if at all possible have a couple days of the week that someone else transports your children. I am currently transporting one child that my boys go to preschool with and it has helped the mother out alot! Hope this helps!

Have you heard of MOPS? It's a great fun group that ministers to Mothers of Preschools (infants through kindergarten). It gives Moms a break from our kids for 2 hours twice a month and provides a forum for discussion about kid issues. Check out the website: www.mops.org and email me for info about the next meeting: ____@____.com.

Well I tell you what, I am the mommy to 3 soon to be 4 children 8,6, 1 and due any day. Until recently I was a working mommy and I didn't get home until late on many nights. It always seemed like someone had a place to be and I was constantly going in a million directions all at once. The "me" time began one night with help from my amazing husband. Realizing last year after #3 was born that I was on the verge of a meltdown one night after I arrived home late he took over bedtime and sent me off to have a hot bath. It lasted only about 15 minutes LOL! but it was the best 15 minutes I have ever spent just for me. That same night I saw something that I have taken for granted for a lot of years now, it was seeing how totally capable my husband is in his daddy role. Reading stories, tucking in, saying goodnight and meaning it=) For me finding the time for myself meant giving up some of the things that I have always done routinely because I am MOMMY and that's what we mommy's do and so on....Does that even make sense? Now I am not always able to fit in "me" time but i try. I know you'll find it too! Best wishes!